How Attractive Is This Person

What is it like to know you're an attractive person?

I have this friend (female) who is extremely beautiful. That is understating it.I asked her this exact same question a few days ago and she said she has mixed feelings about it. It's easier to get ahead in life you're attractive. That's a fact and she admitted a few aspects of her life are good because of the way she looks.On the other hand, people attribute her successes and achievements only on her physical traits, and that can be very demoralising.“Oh, you got a job? I mean, who can deny you a job with your looks?”“Wow you won the competition! The others might have been too busy to concentrate on the event with you around.”While these may seem flattering to an extent, no one ever paying attention to her skills and talents or considering the possibility that she achieved those things due to other factors than just her looks is irritating, she said.The worst part? She can't complain about this because it would come across as bitching.''Oh you're really good looking and frustrated because of it? Well, tough life.” -Her friend who was also present in the cafeteria when I asked her the question. It was said without malice, in a joking tone and I saw her point.

What is your definition of an attractive person?

Having dated plenty, I’ve come to discover that the “hottest” guy can often be the least attractive, as a person. To me, attractive qualities have less to do with physical traits and more to do with a persons overall energy and attitude. To name a few:someone authentic and confident in themselves and who they are as a person (not just their looks)someone who is completely present when they choose to spend time with you; who listens, isn’t on their phone/looking over your shoulder; who shows you with their actions rather than words that you are important to themsomeone inquisitive - who is interested in your opinions and outlook; who tries to get to know you better in different ways. Who is open to share and even challenge you on their differing views; agreeing on everything is boring. (I took this one a little too far when I dated a Republican..)someone truly kind - who treats the people around them, and themselves, with respect.someone funny - I can’t help it I’m a sucker for the funny ones. This doesn’t mean you need to be constantly cracking jokes but being able to see humor in the world and in yourself is so important.Plus a great smile and a dog doesn’t hurt either :)

What makes a person attractive apart from looks?

This is a really complicated question. Volumes of literature have been written on this subject. It is the subject of countless songs, movies, poems, art etc. but we still don't have a single answer that everyone agrees upon.Now clearly, the things that make men attractive are NOT the same as the things that make women attractive. Standards of attraction show a fair bit of cultural variation, but things that are universally attractive in women are signs of health and youth. In most cultures (but not all) health is defined, to a large extent, by having a low percentage of body fat, and being physically symmetrical.Obviously there is an optimum (too much or not enough body fat is unattractive), and what this is is guided largely by cultural standards. The Inuit for example tend to prefer a higher portion of body fat (because food is scarce/unpredictable).Body fat is physical (and observable) but general healthiness can be discerned in other ways. If someone regularly eats 3 Big Mac's for lunch, this probably tells you something about them. If they don't own a toothbrush this probably tells you something about them. Everyone (men and women) wants a healthy partner.Signs of youth are also largely captured by observation (a spritely gait, smooth skin) but can be discerned from the enthusiasm someone displays or the vigor they have.For men the obvious one is confidence. Normally this can be conveyed by looks (good posture, well groomed, maintenance of eye contact etc.) but often it is projected by the tone of someone's voice, the language they use, or just the way they generally conduct themselves).In scientific studies, characteristics that are generally regarded as very important in a potential partner are intelligence and honesty. Not much lower down the list you find things like kindness, warmth and compassion.