How to help a depressed friend?
A couple months ago I learned that my best friend had a tumblr (one of my classmates showed it), which I had no idea about. So, I look on it and am shocked that it has these depressing posts like,"some mornings I wish I had never woken up". Or "no matter how deep I cut, the pain doesnt go away". She even writes about he suicidal fantasies and posts pictures about anorexia and cutting. I am so upset that she never told me about her depression. She doesn't know that I look at her tumblt. I am so worried about her and don't know what to do. If I tell her parents, I know that they will get mad at her (don't ask me why, her relationship with them is bad and I don't know why). I feel like a shitty best friend for not even knowing and I don't know how to help her. And if I tell a school counselor, they will probs just call her parents. How do I tell her that I know about her depression through her tumblr? How do I help? Thanks for any serious answers.
How can I help a suicidal friend?
I am a suicidal male. 25 years old. Kicked out home in August 2011. Now I live 1000 kms away from my hometown. I visited home only twice in past 3 years, that too for college work only. It may sound harsh, very harsh. I would say - leave him alone. Give his some time. You mentioned his stepfather is not good to him, so was mine. I spent a few nights in footpath. I tried committing suicide in 2011 itself, but failed. Later, lost my love too because of all this tradegy.You also mentioned that he is your ex. I don't know how you became ex and why do you care about him (still). But my suggestion, leave him. He would not like to get messages from ex. What I can tell you 100% truth is that -He feels abandoned deep downSo do I. See it from his perspective. He became suicidal because he has nothing left in this world to hold on. His parents abandoned him, you are his ex, he has no one to take care of, he doesn't have a job. Give me one reason why he would like to be alive?In my case, it is my job which is keeping me alive. Still I won't deny that I am suicidal. The scars of being abandoned are very deep and painful dear. I deleted myself from Internet. No fb no twitter no Instagram and no other social shit. Things were so worse that I locked myself in room on my birthday and planned to kill myself. I was cursing myself - why do I exist?? Why the hell was I born??The only thing which helped me seriously was getting a psychiatric counseling. My doctors wanted me to admit in hospital or mental asylum. But it was not possible as one person is required with patient. Though I recovered somehow. I am still suicidal. Some helpful contents:Yourdost.comRest. If he manages to be alive, he'll leanr to live with scars.
My friend is depressed and suicidal?
So my friend, recently told me that her dad used to physically abuse her, but he hasn't for the past year but it still gets to her. I wanted to call the cops or something, but she says that her grandparents and sister already tried, but nothing happened. And now she is always depressed and gets upset over every little thing and she basically threatens to kill herself every night. She said she's not going to kill herself, she just wants to. I basically have to talk her out of killing herself at least once a week. She was acting even more depressed tonight and I was thinking about calling the cops, but she said that I shouldn't do that and it will just make things worse and that she is not going to kill herself. I don't know what to do anymore, I am mentally exhausted and I can't help her by myself. She also says her family doesn't have health insurance or enough money to go to a therapist or anything like that. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
How do I help a friend who's depressed and suicidal?
This question is more complex than I am capable of answering. I can give you some advice that might have worked with me when I was depressed, but without knowing your friend or her particular situation, I don't know how effective it would be. You really should find professional help. Perhaps call a suicide hot-line.Having said that, here are somethings that I might've found helpful when I was depressed:Daily contact. You need to watch for an abrupt change in attitude, especially ones positive in nature. When a depressed person makes up their mind about suicide it relieves a great amount of stress which can manifest itself in a much calmer attitude. If your friend seems to suddenly 'get better' watch her closely.Give her something to be responsible for. It is one thing to neglect yourself, it is something else to neglect someone else. One of the things I did to fight my depression is to get a pet. I may not have cared about myself, but part of me needed to be here to take care of Ostara (my bunny). A pet may not be feasible but you might be able to find something.There are other things, but without knowing the exact nature of your relationship with her, or how she feels about you, I don't feel comfortable mentioning them. Sorry.
Bible verses for a depressed/suicidal friend?
I wish I had friends more like you. If a person decides to commit suicide they will, unless God stops them & he may use you. I know not everyone will agree, but christians can & do commit suicide. Is it the only unforgiveable sin, because you can't ask for forgiveness? I sure hope not, but who would know unless they're dead. God healed me of terminal cancer while the doctors watched, but the hardest thing I've ever been through was major depression. I've tried three times to committ suicide & God saved me every time, not that I asked. One time I drove 50 miles from anyone & he spoke to people to find me. I would never test God, it's just sometimes I just want the world to go away. For me happiness takes work. I don't think of myself as mentally ill & neither do my doctors. Sometimes life is just more than we can take. Please send your friend the links below & let him know how much you care about what happens to him. Lose of all hope is a teriable thing.
How can I help a depressed friend online?
One thing I’ve noticed my friend do is that she makes funny videos of herself either saying or doing stupid shit that she knows will make the other person laugh. I’ve received wayy too many of these unintentionally and eventually today we’re at a stage where I have her picture in the snapchat dog filter as my wallpaper for it makes me laugh everytime I look at it.On a much more serious note, we could start by using “we” instead of “you” for then they know that they aren’t alone. Listen to what they have to say.Don’t probe unless necessary, have them pour their heart out to you.Its no longer about what could have been the scenario, but more about what can be done at the moment, what they could essentially look forward to. Remind them of all the good times that you’ve had together. Everything that’d bring them to smile out of genuinity. Remember not to stray into an area that eventually turned sour for it will only worsen the situation.Always show them that better days await them for Luke from college always said “This too shall pass.” It’s true.Having them skype you to talk to them at midnight isn’t something that’s unheard of.Let them know that you are willing to do anything and everything for them which is true for you wouldn’t be asking this question otherwise.Let them know how important they are, for you, for the people they’re around with, most importantly themselves.Know that the world is filled with beautiful people, some of which get depressed over measly reasons that barely hamper their mission in life. Our time is expensive to waste it on regretting anything that barely affects our future.That’s right. We’re in this together.There’s always someone else who’s had it worse and if not you’re going to be the person that sets the bar high for everyone else. I have faith in you.I believe in you for you help the world become a better place.I believe in you for you are who you are.I don’t know you or your friend but I wish you guys all the very best.I hope your friend feels better.
My best friend is suicidal?
My best friend has been depressed for 2 years now I think, and nobody knows about this except for me and 3 other people. Her parents doesn't know anything about this. She rarely eats, doesn't sleep, works and studies until she cries, is self harming and tried to commit suicide. She doesn't think anyone will miss her if she dies. One of her friends left her and her boyfriend broke up with her. Her mother is horrible and mentally abusing her. What should I do? We are 15.