Help my mom is being soo mean.?
Wow. Too many things to address!! 1) physical violence is never the answer. Your mom was wrong for hitting you. You were wrong for throwing something at her. So both parties messed up here. 2) Parents take your words VERY seriously- so when you called her names (even if you didn't start it. That's not the point.) then she likley felt that was disrespectful and rude. That did NOT make it right for you to hit her. But you should try to at least see her perspective, even if you don't agree with it. .... 3) Now... Cell phones are VERY expensive. If money's tight with your mom (the holidays are coming!) - and you might not even know that- then she might just think "ACK! Cell phone's broken! How can I afford another one!?" So to her, the fact that she couldn't fix the phone was frustrating. And then when it seemed to her (a wrong assumption, but again- still her perspective) that you perhaps caused it to break, she probably felt that was inconsiderate and disrespectful to 'intentionally' break something that she'd have to replace. Does that make a little more sense? Sometimes if we see things from the other person's perspective, it makes it a bit easier to understand. Please don't misunderstand-- I do NOT think your mother was right to hit you or act how she did. I think your best option now is to suck it up and go to her and say "Look, ma, I'm sorry I threw ___ at you and called you names. But I really didn't break my phone and it really hurt my feelings that you think I broke it and that you'd call me __(names)_." Depending on how she acts, you can follow that up with "Can we start over and try to fix my phone now?" ... YES- it completely sucks that you have to be the one to apologize. But.... sad to say, parents really have all the control here. And your job, as a kid, is to learn to deal with it. :-( My parents were seriously abusive. My mother has some mental health issues. It sounds like yours might, too, I don't know. What I do know is that this is a sucky situation to be in and all you can do right now is take the high road and be the bigger person & be the first to apologize to try to smooth things out. Parents rarely ever apologize to kids- even if they were wrong. :(
How do I help my mom who might be anorexic?
First of all, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know it is a painful experience. As a former anorexic, I hope I can help!Eating Disorder Warning Signs - our parent placeThose are some warning signs. If you're fairly certain she does have an eating disorder, the first step is to speak to her about it, calmly. A common mistake is to accuse people of having an eating disorder. Talk to her, and focus on “I statements”.I'm worried about you. I just want to make sure you're alright. I love you and want you to be happy.If she denies it, and you suspect she's lying, don't accuse her! Those with eating disorders are hurting badly. They are in intense emotional (and often physical) pain. So yelling at her, threatening her, etc, are all bad ideas. It's an emotional situation, so if you need to step away, please do! Some words can't be taken back.If at all possible, try to get her to eat. Cook for her, encourage her. Make nutritious meals. Another common thing I see is people trying to force feed someone with anorexia high calorie, but nutritionally empty foods. This can be useful in gaining weight, but when they are deep in their disorder, the idea of ice cream and cakes will terrify them.Don't push her too hard. Unfortunately, because she's an adult, unless she's declared mentally unstable, you can't really force her to get help. You should definitely encourage her to go to therapy, but that's all you can really do.Good luck ♥️♥️Brookswww.ourparentplace.com
My Mom hates her job, How can I help her?
Hello:) so my Mom woke up with a bed mood, 5 a.m. today, and right now its 6:15, and I asked her What was wrong she told me "I hate my job, I can't stand that place, I hate waking up to go there." She complains about it all the time, shes worked there for about 17 years, its a health care place, the company is owned by Horizon. I'm only 14 and I grew up with that place, and with my mom hating it and loving it sometimes. Shes been hating for about 2 years now. I tell her have a nice day, anything to brighten her day I do. I clean the house do anything and everything so she doesn't stress. We fight sometimes but lately, (for the past 2 months) I just ignore it and walk away to help her calm down. She gives me an attitude when I want to spend a little time with her, because well, shes me mom. And she seems miserable with it. I don't know why but theres a lot of reasons why she can't quit or wants to. The pay is pretty good. Better then most jobs out there. But nothing I do works. I can't wait until I'm 15/16 and I can work to help her out or something. But for now I need something to help her, I don't know what wrong with the lady!! Thank you and have a god day.
How to help my mom love herself?
Best Answer! Its your mommie and sure you love your mother - that's good. The truth is that we all make our beds and in the end we all to sleep in them. In a way you may not know it, but your mommie maybe punishing herself because of her strict believes in many other areas of her life. I bet she is the total Ms Brady cooking and cleaning for the household, but never doing nice things for herself like going to get the hair/nails done at the local SPA or buying that new dress from the local store. You have to encourage your mother to experience more of what life has to offer verses thinking that life ends in the house and the responsibilities within the house. Yeah, yeah pops is a bully and sounds very traditional in his thinking, but I am sure he'd like to see mommie looking good for him which in turn will make her feel good about her own self image. Be careful kid how this is played because if your family is as traditional as it sounds I am sure mommie and daddy would not like you messing in their marriage - So to help things out you give to mommie a gift certificate to get her nails done see how that work and then something else a few weeks later. It's going to take time for person to come from under the rock of feeling rejected and unwanted! Hope this helps!
Should i ask my mom to help me put a tampon in?
thats what happended to me! just ask her yes, it is akward but it's worth it because your mom willl teach u how to do it the way ull understand it. No better teacher then your mommy(: I aske dmy mommy too and she started putting them in for me and I finally decided to do it myself and now I don't even wear pads. it's tottaly 100% worth it! &+ it braught me closer to my mom. and your not scared anymore once one is in because ull see how to do it the right way and ull notice it doesnt hurt! good luck(:
Help? How to tell my mom I'm pregnant?
Hunny, this is a very tough situation. Being so young and pregnant is a very hard thing. I was seventeen and a half when I got pregnant and it was hard. Yes, your mom will probably be disappointed but she is still your mother. If she cares (which I'm sure she does) She will support you in any decision you choose. I am very glad to hear you will not get an abortion! That is not the answer, it will not make things better, only worse. It was very stupid, (just as it was for me) to have unprotected sex, but the fact of the matter is it happened, you got pregnant... You can not go back in time. I would calmly go to your mom, sit her down and tell her you love her very much and that you only want to make her proud. Tell her that you made a mistake and you are now pregnant. Tell her that you are ready to take responsibility, that you made an adult decision to have sex and now you are going to be an adult and take care of this child. As for telling Kevin, I would sit him and down. Tell him that you are pregnant and that it is his choice whether he wants to be there for you, but you are going to have this child. Now about telling kids at school, there is NO need to tell them. Obviously they will find out but you do not need to tell them about your personal business. When I became pregnant I did not tell anyone but a few very close friends at school, then summer came along.. I went to that school for 4 days and graduated VERY early =). This is yours and Kevins (and both of yours and kevins families) business! Good luck! *added* Your best friend should be the most understanding. Explain to her like you said you can not lose her and that she may not agree with what happened or like what is happening but you would hope she can support you as you would do for her.