My boyfriend doesn't respond to my messages, but he has read them. Should I be worried?
I feel you. My boyfriend is like your guy. He's a bad texter. Hehehe.. I used to be bothered by it before and we would fight over it but not anymore. I think what resolved it was communicating my feelings to him.Before, I would just sulk in the corner and feel sorry for myself. Over think things and get mad at him. Of course, he would be defensive every time I would confront him and civil war starts. And I got tired of it - - so one time, I asked him if he still wants to continue what we have coz I am tired of fighting over small things. He said I was being silly and of course he wants us to be together still. But in my mind, I was so hurt and I just shut down. I didn't text him or call him for days. He would initiate the conversations and sometimes, I would ignore him because I was still hurting and in my mind, I knew that it was just temporary - - that he would do it again. I think he felt it and he thought he was losing me already (which was true). So he asked me what's wrong, and that's when I told him how I felt. I knew this issue is small thing but we're in a long distance relationship and I get crammy when I don't hear anything from him. Every now and then, he would go back to being a bad texter but I try to understand and give him the space he needs. When I feel upset, I made sure that I did not attack him or blame him for how I was feeling. I owned my emotions and expressed myself. And that's when he understood where I was coming from. We are still together and when he is too busy, he tells me that he is snowed under with work, or he's in a meeting or what not.. That way, I know what's keeping him occupied and I would give him the space he needs to focus on them. As soon as he's done, (no matter what time it is) he would send me sweet nothings and I would do the same.Communication is the key. Don't be afraid to tell him about your feelings. Own your emotions and never blame him for feeling that way. Include him in searching for solutions on how to resolve your differences. Say something like, "what do you think we can do to resolve this? Or what do you think we can do so I won't feel this way?"Take care
How should I respond to my boyfriend's poem?
"I must have done something incredible for karma to give me someone as amazing as yourself". Or you could always rip off Incubus (greatest band EVER, btw) and use their lyrics.. "There’s something about the look in your eyes, something I noticed when the light was just right. It reminded me twice that I was alive, and it reminded me that you’re so worth the fight" - from the song Echo. What your boyfriend will really enjoy hearing is likely to be very different from what you might like him to say to you. Keep in mind that saying sweet things to your boyfriend doesn't mean saying what you want to hear. Think about his personality, and focus on saying something that will really make him feel special. Compliment him too!!! Giving a sincere compliment is one of the best ways to let your boyfriend know how special you think he is. There are many different ways to pay a compliment. Keep in mind that you must pick and choose compliments carefully, making certain to choose things that are (a) true and (b) worthy of being complimented. As appropriate, you can compliment things like his: * Actions * Appearance * Cooking skills * Handyman skills * Kissing ability * Personality * Relationship with his family * Smile * Social skills * Thoughtfulness * Anything else appropriate
How should I respond if my boyfriend tells me he thinks I should lose weight?
All these people gave what seems to be logical answers but guess what? They are all wrong.Your weight on your body has nothing to do with your boyfriend, and he has NO RIGHT to tell you anything about what he thinks about your body. He is not a physician nor a body builder! His OPINION, which is all that is, is based on nothing more than his whims. What he thinks is not important. Do not give his silliness a second thought.All you need to do is this:Get in his face. Crack your knuckles. Look him dead in the eye with your mean mug (some call it resting bitch face) on, and you say:“Look buster. I have a doctor, and it ain’t you. Now when my treating medical physician tells me that I am at a weight which increases my risks of some sort of disease or something, then I will listen to my doctor. But you are not my doctor, nor anyone’s doctor. You are just a knucklehead with an opinion that nobody wants to hear. If I cared to hear your thoughts about my weight body clothes hair or anything else on me, I would ask you for it. But I never did that because what you think isn’t important to me.So this is how this is gonna go from today forward. You are gonna like… no you are gonna LOVE everything about me… or you are going to get your stuff and get out of my life. You may be my boyfriend today, but that can change in the next 30 seconds, ya know? I refuse to be beat over the head with your negativity. And no man is going to control me, or emotionally or verbally abuse me. Not today, not ever. You do anything like this again, we’re through. And before we are I am gonna say some things to you that will hurt every feeling you’ve ever had since BIRTH, so you better brace yourself and keep your lips under control or you will be sorry you didn’t. Capiche?”Then you toss your hair and strut out of the room like a BOSS!That will learn him. Don’t EVER let a man even TRY to make you question yourself, your beauty, your talent, your intelligence, or anything else. He gets started with that crap, you fire back and hit him with some harsh words that will blow his hair back like a blast of C4. Show no mercy.
How do you respond to your boyfriend's sister hating you?
I got very, very lucky, and my boyfriend’s sister is practically mine as well. We have a great relationship, and it’s basically always been that way, but I know what you are experiencing. First things first, she probably doesn’t hate you. She may just not get a good vibe from you or is jealous that you are taking her brother away from her, not that you are just people feel that way often. I would talk to her, try to make conversation. Try to get to know her better, find out what her favorite foods are or what she does for fun. You should tell her about yourself to, so she sees that she shouldn’t hate you, and that you are a good fit for her brother. Take her out to dinner or for coffee just to bond or talk. It very well may work, but some people just have their reasons. Good luck!
How Do I Respond to My Boyfriend Criticizing My Cooking?
Well i know what i would do....i would never cook for him again, never mind you are rude and should think of his tastes as well. you are lovely enough to cook and by the sounds of it you are a good cook,and he should be glad of any food put on his table... is there any other problem with your relationship, does he only critisize your cooking...by the sound of it he is not appreciative of you, and the critisizing of your food could just be the beginning, take a long hard look and think do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who puts you down......
How to respond when your boyfriend compliments you?
Pay him a compliment also. My ex-boyfriend has nice lips and was a really good kisser. He constantly conmplimented me on my eyes and smile. I would say something like, "you're not bad looking yourself sugar lips." Think of his better assets and compliment them as well.
How do you respond when your boyfriend tells you that he is feeling low?
First thing is to tell him you’re sorry he feels that way. Feeling low is part of life. Ask questions like, what has happened to make him feel low? Is there something you can do to help? What can he do to make himself feel better? How long has he been feeling low?Don't ask all the questions at once. Ask one question and wait for an answer. This is like a deep mining expedition, just keep your mouth shut, count to hundred and listen until he tells you he’s finished. Whatever you do when he’s finished don’t tell him it’s not that bad.At the end thank him for trusting you and telling you. Maybe give him a hug or make him a cup of tea. Be supportive but make sure he knows he has the responsibility to do something about his own situation. Good luck.
How can i put my boyfriend on check???
Dont give him what he wants...dont put out..but tease him. Pretend to not care..thats what men do to get women to do what they want. For example...if he says if you dont get me that drink ill be thristy...so you say...then you can be dehydrated all you want i dont care. Its a reverse psychology trick.
What is the best thing to say when your boyfriend asks you what you think of him?
You need to know your boyfriend very well to be able to respond to that question in 3 ways:You would say honestly what you like and dislike and make a personal judgement irrespective of how he would react2. If you want to make him happy you will try and pamper him. Men like that. You could say you feel good and safe with him, he is clever and strong. He is good looking.3. If you want him to be better with you, you would say he is generous, he is gentle, he always thinks about you and calls you! He brings you nice presents, takes you out to nuce places and cares about you. He is a real gentleman. He would [1] try to live up to that.Footnotes[1] Get Back To Dating