Why do some girls avoid the nice guys?
I guess I consider myself the "nice guy" and a lot of girls in my school don't seem to like me. I'm not trying to date a girl, but it seems like I'm getting pushed away by girls from my school. Most guys in my school like having me around them, because they see me as a smart, funny, and talkative person. They like hearing my funny stories. With girls, I usually like listening to what they have to say and I like talking with them, but some of them, just ignore me. I'm a bit shy, but sometimes I just want to talk to some of my friends who are girls. Also, during dances, I ask them if they would like to dance and they rather dance with a girl than me. Why do they avoid the nice guys?
Why do girls avoid nice guys and go for cocky, hot jerks?
Seriously?? It pisses me off. In high school, girls ALWAYS go for the hot, muscular, jock guys. They always glare at them and not the nice guys. I'm not the best looking guy in the whole world and I'm average build, but I treat a girl with kindness, respect, treat her like a princess and show her a great time. I didn't have a girlfriend until college. Girls in high school always turned me down and go for hot boys. I'm in college now, but when I was in high school, there was this girl (let's call her Hillary) and she was the most BEAUTIFUL girl that I had laid eyes on. Just stunning! She was like 5'6", slender, had strawberry blond hair and big beautiful hazel eyes. I don't care about looks at all. She had the most amazing personality ever. She was one of the most sweetest and caring girls in high school. Her personality made me fall in love with her more. Man I had a crush on that girl! We became very good friends, but the thing I didn't like was that she likes the hot guys too and he had a crush on this guy, who was hot, very tall (above 6'), and muscular and they dated for three months and he showed his true colors and just treated her like garbage. She was crying to me and I comforted her. She always goes back to him, they get back together a couple of times and he treats her like **** and she get's hurt again. So a few months past, I told her my true feelings to her and I asked her out on a date, but she said that she doesn't see me as boyfriend material. That CRUSHED me so much! We continued to be friends, but I don't talk to her that much anymore. I got a girlfriend now and we've been together for 4 years now and I treat her like a woman and treat her like a queen. But anyways, girls, why can't you go for the not so hot, nice, gentleman instead of the hot, good-looking guys that treat you like trash? I know not all good-looking guys are jerks, some are nice too. What's so great about them handsome hunks? Girls are gonna get hurt.
Difference between a girl being shy and avoiding you?
if shes avoiding you then she tries going as far away from you as possible if shes shy she doesnt care where youre at i think
Picking up woman and guys in the rooms (AA/NA)13 Stepping???
Yea, it's common in certain groups that have a majority of newcomers. I try to avoid those groups and attend the more serious groups where people are more concerned about sobriety that getting laid. Try staying away from inner city groups or Alano clubs and focus on the more dedicated groups. Find a good sponsor with long term sobriety who can show you the ropes. If you see this going on then just ignore it and don't let yourself become a victim. I live in the Detroit area where allot of girls are prostitutes and heroine addicts who might very well be HIV positive. It's not worth the risk and will only hinder your recovery. Statistics show that chances of relapse double when you get involved with another addict. If you are truly dedicated to sobriety you will concentrate on your own sobriety, surround yourself with people that have long term sobriety and ignore the rest. There is something else you should think about. Maybe you are subconsciously seeking faults is the group, as these faults compile you will start to sell yourself on the theory that this just might not be the place for you. This is a step in the direction of relapse. Relapses don't occur over night but are usually brought on by a series of events that eventually lead you back to using. Remember we are expert manipulators, even to own minds. Don't fall victim to your own manipulation. Just a thought, talk to someone in your group with long term sobriety about you feelings.