I feel so self conscious at school :( How can I feel better about myself?
To make you feel better, you are not the only one. I get teased and picked on for my taste in music, my looks, and my fashion. Don't worry about what they say, what they say shouldn't matter, because you know you're not fat and not a geek. I like Green Day (my favourite band), Evanescence, and MCR just like you do. I also enjoy punk, alternative, and metal rock music. My friends always pick on me because I don't like pop, and like you said, Nicki Minaj and Katy Perry, **** like that. I'm not athletic either, I am one of the fastest out of my middle school class, but I'm no good at sports like Soccer, Football, or Basketball. I used to get really upset because I was good at nothing but being an outcast, but that's not always a bad thing. Sometimes it's cool being someone different than everyone else. I also don't own clothes like that, and people tease me by the way I dress, but it's how I express myself. And doing good in school isn't a bad thing, it's very good! Don't worry, you're not the only one. F*ck what they think of you, music is a way you express yourself, being smart is a talent, they'll get nowhere having lack of knowledge, and even though you wear a uniform to school, who cares if you don't own big brand clothing ? Don't worry about it, I don't either but I got to the point where I ignore everyone who thinks little of me. You'll do great and don't need anyone to think you're perfect, because honestly, you have a great taste in music and seem like a pretty awesome person to me. You can feel better about yourself by just ignoring them and think about how far they'll get (nowhere) if they don't stop and focus on their work and get the grades you get, and think about how many people like the music you like. Green Day is one of the biggest rock bands right now, and just because they don't like it doesn't make their music the best. Talk to people who like what you like - in person or online, I promise, it makes you feel a lot better about yourself ! If you like, you could email me and I could give you more advice : kat_is_st.jimmy@ymail.com OR greendaygurlxd@ymail.com ;D
I always feel people around me are looking at me. Why is this?
One of the most important things that I have come to realize in life is how little attention people are actually paying to what I think they're paying attention to (although the reverse can also be true--people may notice things you don't expect them to). Try a couple of experiments. Yawn (even fake-yawn). Did someone else around you yawn? If not, they're not looking at you (this is great way to find out if an attractive stranger is checking you out, by the way). Think about a conversation that you had with someone a few weeks ago--maybe one that you've been secretly cringing about ever since. Go back to that person and refer (maybe generally) to the thing that embarrassed you. See if they have any idea what you're talking about--nine times out of ten, they won't. Overall, try focusing on how you can help and be nice to others and less on what they think about you. This can be difficult to do (much more so than my other two suggestions), but it will lead to you being happier in the end. And finally, something to consider: People don't waste time constantly staring at someone who is awkward or even fairly unattractive. If everyone really is looking at you all the time, it may be because you're particularly attractive or charismatic. At the very least, you attract attention. Learn to use it to your benefit! Good luck.
Why is it always the pretty girls who are self conscious?
Because ugly girls have their ugliness well established. Pretty girls are questioning their beauty because they're comparing themselves with other pretty people
How do I deal with people making fun of me for being fat?
I am 28 , turning 29. I have been pretty fat for a while . In fact my nickname in Malayalam pretty much translates to "Fatty" . There are a few things you should know about being fat .TL;DR If these are your close friends , talk to them , if not , just ignore them / forgive them for their ignorance.1. Its easy for people to make this into your identity , simply out of stupidity or overlooking the emotional effects it has on you. A lot of people who used to call me that did not realize how much of an effect it had on me because they were not fat . Has a fat person ever called you fat ? I m sure they havent, because they know how it feels. So most of the time , i would say its stupidity/ignorance. You can always tell them that you are conscious about it , and they will understand.2. Being fat is a difficult place to be in . A lot of people arent fat though they may have a very similar lifestyle to yours. Its important to understand that except probably facing some serious health problems in the future , which you should be really working to avoid , being fat doesnt make you a weaker person in anyway. It teaches you to be more empathetic to others , and probably even can make you more tolerant and interesting. People might look at you and make fun of you if thats all they see. I have plenty of friends who dont care if i am fat or not , and it never ever comes into the conversation, except in very positive ways where it involves getting back into good shape. As a mother, this could be hard for you , but in due time I am sure you can cross this barrier. Hope this helped !
Why does everyone call me fat and ugly?
Wanna know what's wrong with you? Nothing. You're beautiful. Everyone is beautiful. The world is just screwed up. First off, it doesn't matter how much someone weighs. Everyone is fat in someone's eyes. Just because someone isn't underweight, they're ugly. Don't listen to these dummies on here either. Trust me, I've been there before. Everyone says I'm fat. I'm 5'1 and around 115. Blue eyes and blonde and brown hair. I get called things that don't even make sense. Apparently I'm a whore since I've never had a boyfriend. Apparently I'm ugly since I don't cake my face in makeup. Apparently I'm fat since I'm not 90 pounds. Someone always has to put someone down. Just hang in there girl <3 middle and high school, worst years ever. 7th grade? the year I was anorexic and got through it. Because now I know I'm perfect how I am. And I pray that you will too (: xx
Why do the short, skinny, bald guys always have the worst lives?
They don't. Once adolescence is past, most people are mature enough to judge people by character, integrity, intelligence, and other enduring characteristics rather than superficial and temporary attributes such as height and amount of hair. I know plenty of successful short/skinny/fat/bald guys who have successful and happy lives, with great careers and loving marriages. Your premise is totally untrue.
What should I do if my boyfriend calls me ugly and fat?
One tip to all of you quora users--if you ask strangers if we think you should break up, in your heart, you're already seriously considering the possibility. To answer your question however, a relationship is a two way thing. Yes, both sides need to respect each other, and yes, both sides need to be honest. But it does not justify hurting each other. I think a common thing that answers say are: "Break up with him. He doesn't deserve you. If he loves you he wouldnt say that." If he loves you, he wouldnt say that in such blunt, hurtful terms. I don't know what you look like, and I'm sure you're a beautiful person, inside and out. Almost everyone is. However, this doesn't mean you can tell your boyfriend who criticizes you, "You don't deserve me. I deserve someone who worships me." Like I said, relationships are a two-way deal. No one is going to completely worship you, and if they do, then that's an unhealthy relationship. I do think that he could have been a LOT less hurtful. Unfortunately there are no good ways to tell your S.O. that you don't find a part of their appearance attractive. However, I believe that it's better for people who love you to tell you your flaws, instead of people who hate you shouting your flaws out to the world. Of course, I don't know if he loves you--that's something for you to decide.