How do I get out of my sorority?
If you have been initiated, remember that you can't join another sorority. You can terminate your membership, you don't need the sorority's permission to do so. You need to make an appointment with the president and probably the chapter adviser. You will need to fill out the relevant paperwork, pay any outstanding bills (that may include dues for the year, depending on your sororities financial structure and when you get around to doing this). You will have to turn in your badge, membership certificate and anything you have with letters on it. If you don't do this properly the sorority can come after you for dues money and fine you for missing events. When you pledged you signed paperwork that stated you will meet all financial responsibilities, and until you are officially out they can take you to court for it.
What advice would you give to someone joining a sorority?
When I matriculated at Lehigh University, 1954–1959, there were 4 on-campus residence halls. One was built earlier in the century and was older and a bit worn but functioned. The other three were fairly new additions in the 1930’s and 40’s. These were well suited. These housed all of the out of town freshman and a portion of the upper classmen. As it was an all men’s university at the time there were no sororities but 30 fraternities that housed about ½ of the undergraduates. There was no contact between the fraternities and the freshman during the first semester, Beginning in the second semester (there were two semesters per academic year) fraternities held rush week and invitations for visitation to fraternities were issued. If there was a mutual attraction membership as a pledge would be offered by the fraternity.You could “interview” at as many fraternities as you wanted in the period set aside for this activity, usually a week at the beginning of the second semester. The advice is in the short exposure you have to join the organization choose one that matches your personality and has members enrolled in similar curricula that you are taking so some help it available to you when you are stumped on a problem.I joined one off campus and lived in the old house across the Lehigh River once used as part of the underground railroad shuttling slaves to Canada. Part of the house were built before the Civil War. We housed between 26 and 30 people. Initiation into the Brotherhood of the Fraternities took place during the early part of the start of the sophomore year provided you had sufficient grade point average and were still acceptable to all the members. You physically moved in to the house and it usually was your living quarters until you graduated or lived out side the house if you got married in upper grades.I served as vice president for a year and president for a year. As soon as I became senior enough I waited table for my meals to help defray some of the costs of attending college. The people I met have been lifelong friends. In fact, three of the four survivors of our pledge class return regularly for the 5 year interval University Reunions. We communicate and visit one another when possible. In Florida we have a number of members and we try to have a gathering at a luncheon every year. And, the Brothers do travel 50–60 miles to attend as the feeling of Camaraderie still exists from 60 to 65 years ago.
How demanding can a sorority be?
The first semester is the most demanding, because you will have extra new member meetings and functions. After that, you should be able to easily participate in other activities - in fact, many sororities encourage you to get involved in other clubs and sports. It's all about learning how to study efficiently and budget your time. Just don't get on the party train and neglect to get off!
What is being in a sorority like?
as the others who answered this question before me demonstrated, people with a bad sorority experience (or no actual experience, just bad stereotypes and rumors) are much more vocal about their opinions than the hundreds of thousands of women who have amazing experiences being in a sorority. It was by far the best decision of my life. I am naturally a kind of shy person but it really gave me the opportunity to meet tons of people and make amazing friendships. We have a chapter meeting once a week, and as a new member you will have an additional meeting each week during your new member period to learn about the sorority and what you're committing to. There's social events with other groups on campus (usually fraternities), events to raise money for charities, sisterhood events to spend time with each other, and community service events. Most organizations also have minimum required study hours (but they're nothing ridiculous and you'll more than likely study more than that every week anyway) Greek organizations at large state schools can get out of hand and break alot of rules, so there's a big difference between those and smaller schools. Just be careful and Don't Ever do anything that you think might not be a great idea. If they ever pressure you into something tell the school. Recruitment is very structured and has alot of rules at most schools, so it can be alittle confusing to new girls, but just ask questions whenever you don't understand why they do something a certain way. Be sure to meet as many girls in as many sororities as you can because you're really joining a group of friends and you want it to be whichever group you feel most comfortable with. Have fun and remember to make the most of your college experience because you'll never get to redo it.
Sorority Initiation Question?
Hello all! So i have recently pledged a sorority (yay!) and we are currently going through new member training and education. We get initiated in the middle of october, and we just got a schedule for initiation week, and i have a question. On our initiation night it specifies that we should wear white or nude bra and underwear......this puzzles me. I know it can't be a hazing thing because all the girls have to sign an anti hazing contract. (also, hazing is considered domestic violence, and our philanthropy is domestic violence awareness) i asked my mystagogue about it, she said she can't tell us why, but its totally not a big deal, and that its really boring.....regardless, im still curious! any idea what that could be about? im really just curious and dont want to wait!
Sorority: Black or White? HELP!!!!?
I'm an African American ( mixed ) and am having a hard time deciding what sorority to join. I feel really weird about joining an all black sorority because I don't think that I can relate to them - outside of skin color. My family is predominately African American and Native American, but I have been raised in an all white neighborhood; go to an all white roman catholic church; graduated from a predominately white prep school (only 3 other AA kids); I am really quiet, super sensitive, and I hate cursing. socially, most of my friends are white because that is what I've been exposed to. Blacks sometimes refer to me as an "oreo" which, as you can imagine, hurts a lot.... I don't want to be the odd one out, and I don't want to be viewed as betraying my race. I love all people... HELP!!!!
Do I legally have to pay sorority membership dues after I graduate?
I graduated from college this winter, and therefore became a sorority alumni. The girl in charge of finance forgot to charge me last semester, and now is demanding I pay the $800+ in membership fees. I don't have any money to pay. It was the girl's mistake, which she never told me until I was out of the sorority.Do I legally have to pay, even though I graduated and am an alum? Our rulebook does not cover this situation.
On Fraternities/ Sororities: what are the advantages and disadvantages of joining a fraternity/ sorority?
there are plenty of both. i was in a fraturnity in college, and pretty much went in with my eyes wide open about it. I wasnt the 'fraturnity type' at all in high school, but wanted to try a different world, in a school on the other side of the state advantages: - structured social system can give a feeling of 'connectedness', even if it's a bit fake some of the time - easier to meet other people of the opposite sex on campus, because you are having functions on a regular basis - you can get to know people in other majors, rather than just your own major - this can be particularly important if you're considering a change of major - lot's of parties to get to know people of both sexes in general greek parties on campus - if you ever join a big accounting or law firm, you have a 'leg up' on the culture - you learn how to adapt to a structured culture, and gain confidence in it disadvantages - can be a lot of pressure to 'play up' your family background - people can be pretentious, and shallow - 'preppy' culture, at least years ago, could be borderline gay, and some even stepped over that borderline - can take up a lot of time, and be a distraction for someone who already had a lot of focus and time constraints of a demanding major - 'party animals' and their noise can drag you down - in fraturnities, there can be a lot of alcohol abuse (dont know if this is still true) - in sororities, the social model is based on a time when women werent going to really have a career - the whole point was to keep them too busy to date any of the 'wrong guys'. years ago, girl were kept busy with asinine busyness, much more than fraturnites were - dont know if this is still true - if it turns out you dont really care for the group you joined, it's harder to 'bug out' and move on, compared to an 'independent' on campus, although an independent can face challanges in where they're going TO