If you can be a male feminist are there any female misogynist?
As a man I don't think all women are inferior, however there are things I wish I could say about women without sounding like a jerk or a wimp. Anytime a guy speaks out negatively towards women he's automatically a monster. Yet women can rant all day about how men are the scum of the earth and they get so much support. I believe in equal rights but I think it's important that we define what exactly that means. For example, one gender can not be treated more delicately than the other. Man or woman, if you go on a date without the expectation of paying at least half the bill how does that make you a good person? I'm not saying it should always be this way but why assume the man has to pay for everything? There seem to be a lot of rules on what men should do, but what the hell are women supposed to do in a relationship, just sit there and look pretty? Women for the most part now have the same opportunities as men. Yes, that is debatable, things aren't exactly perfect quite yet, but at least as a society we understand that is the goal. So why are men still expected to live by 1950's standards but not women? Why do women complain that chivalry is dead? Don't they understand that chivalry is just a fancy word for male pity? Back then, women weren't really allowed to make as much money as a man, so of course, if I wanted to be a gentleman I'd pay for the whole meal during a date. Do women truly want equal rights or do they prefer being treated like children?
Can any feminists enlighten us on why the patriarchy is bad?
...And why we should fear male power? ...without lumping ALL men together and discriminating against us? Women's Studies programs teach about the "patriarchy" and warn women against patriarchal structures. This blatant sexism is taught as fact to students every year and men get to sit on the sidelines watching women get "loaded up" with all sorts of irrational thoughts about the male gender. Now, we've all heard feminists speak about how violent men are and that they "start all the wars", but I think we never really see that sentiment for what it is. It's a broad-based and sexist generalization about men. Why is that OK? How many people have had female bosses that were as bad or worse than male bosses? Is male power really something to avoid at all costs? Why are feminists allowed to teach that sort of sexism at our colleges and universities, many of which are taxpayer funded? Would people be cool if a men's studies taught about the dangers of female power? ...To warn men against "old girl" networks that are trying to keep men down? Would society treat them like sexist psychopaths? So are there any feminists out there that can explain why we should view male power as inherently negative?
Do feminists believe men and women are the same psychologically?
Do feminists believe men and women are the same psychologically?No I don’t, but I don’t believe the gulf between men and women naturally is as large as it is currently.We can all agree we are shaped by our environments, yes?Boys are taught from a young age that boys don’t cry, toughen up, grow some balls, etc. They are taught that to display any emotion that is not anger or aggression or forcefulness is too girly.Girls, on the other hand, are taught that anger, aggression, and forcefulness are the domain of boys. Sugar and spice and all things nice, that’s what little girls are made of. We are taught to be pleasant, to be gentle.By the time we are adults, we have this so ingrained that men really struggle to share their emotions, be it with their partner or with their mates. They don’t get together for drinks at the pub and a good chat about their emotional health. I truly believe that if men had a more healthy outlet for their emotional needs, the level of suicide would decrease dramatically.Women on the other hand struggle with assertiveness. We don’t push for the pay rise, for the promotion. Sometimes this even flows to relationships, where we get walked over and treated like dirt.If we raised our children to feel all of their emotions in a healthy way, taught them how and when to express them, all of them, I think we’d find that men and women are a lot closer than we think. We’d also have a population that was more emotionally healthy.
Feminists, what would a non-patriarchal society look like?
In certain areas of society, this almost feels beyond my imagination.Most religions would not exist, or not in their current formThe divine/ God would not have any engendered wordsIn the United States, there would be many women running for office, including the Presidency. It would mean a female candidate would not be " an outlier"You could choose to vote/ not vote for a female candidate and not have your motives, respect for womankind questioned ( Cough, cough, I am speaking to a certain type of HRC supporter. Are you antisemitic for not voting for Sanders, or do you just think he is the not the best candidate? )Women could wear what they want and not have it hyperanalyzed for the sexual message it is believed to be sending to the general publicMen could be stay at home parents and not have it be a novelty or seen as being a " beta male"Women could make more money than men and not have it be emasculating in a relationship Women wouldn't get told at work they talk too much when they are actually talking lessA womans value to society would not have a steep drop off when she is beyond child bearing age or her f#%^bility quotient drops off Caring/ therapeutic/ human service professions would pay better because they would be recognized for the value they have to society, and not because it People would not refer to " male nurse" as if it were a separate profession I suspect suicide rates among men and women would drop Male and female sexual or physical abuse victims would not be shamed or blamed ( regardless of the gender of their abuser) The military, some unions, and professions would not be referred to as a brotherhoodWomen could take maternity leave or admit they are struggling as individual mothers without being an example of " women in the workplace" and whether they belong there A woman getting her Mrs. degree in college would not exist as a phrase Kids would not still be saying " Doctors are men, nurses are women" That is just a start.
Do you truly believe that feminism is justifiable in the west?
There are more men in prison, more men commit suicide, men are required to register for selective services, men get longer sentences for the same crime, men are more likely to be killed, more homeless people are men, men have shorter life expectancies, men aren't as favored with child custody services, men aren't treated as kindly, men are more likely to drop out of college, more men have died in wars, men can't wear makeup to hide our unattractive looks, men are less likely to procreate, and more men work dangerous jobs. And don't even bring up the pay wage gap; it's been debunked. So why does the feminist movement even exist if women don't have it as bad?
Feminists; should women have to register for the draft at 18 like men do?
Should they be jailed for their crimes instead of being let off the hook for being female aftet shedding s few fake, manipulative tears? Should THEY have to start payinh child support and alimony after a relationship ends or divorce? Should they only get to see their children 4 dats out of the month? When someone has to die during tragic events, should men and children get to leave while grown women stay and "go down with the ship" so to speak? Should they be seen as a bum if they don't have a full time job and pay their own way in life? Should they have to start paying their way on dates and throughout the courting process? Should they have to pay 3 months salary on an engagement ring and propose to a man? Should they lose out on the cost of that ring if the man cheats on her like a lot of women do to men? Should they be charged with rape if they sleep with a man too intoxicated to remember? Should they be seen as liars by the public after rape accusations? Kind of like the man is automatically seen as a rapist just because "she" said so? Should they be turned away from domestic violence shelters because of their gender? Even after the one beating them takes the house that theyre paying for? This is what its like to be a man.. You still want that equality, or just the positive aspects of it?
Why should we all be feminists?
First and foremost it is necessary to state that feminism is about gender equality and not about liberating women at the expense of men. Being feminist has got nothing to do with sexual orientation. Anyone who supports the rights and equality of women is a feminist.Here are some strong reasons to be a feminist:-Women have been abused,ill-treated,suppressed,oppressed and downcasted since ages.-They have been treated as some ‘property’ to possess instead of normal humans.-Some cultures see the male child as blessing and female child as burden.-Some cultures deny them basic human rights such as education(Two-third illiterate adults in the world are women)and health.-The idea that ‘you are weaker than men’ has been deeply sown inside the minds of women that they feel inferior and cannot really achieve their true potential.-Even in the corporate and sports world we see unequal pay.There are many,many countless and mindless rules,customs and taboos against women,especially in middle-east and south-asia, such as :-Women can't file for divorce unless testified by eye-witness in Lebanon.-Custody rights are given to the father in Bahrain.-Schools are attacked in Aghanistan by some groups who are against female education.All this nonsense and mindless shit for what? Some men just cannot accept the fact that women are humans and, indeed, are equal to them in all fields,except physical power ofcourse. It's an ego issue for all those cruel(yes,that's the word)people.As we'll progress on the long path of gender equality,we'll observe how much women have got in them to offer and contribute to the noble cause of making this world a truly happy place.Let's subdue our egos,use some commonsense and treat them as equals.
Has feminism gone too far? Are women treated better than men?
The whole feminism has gone way too far in certain aspects. I believe that everyone should be treated equally no matter what race, age or gender. It seems now that women get many perks thanks to feminism, for example: Women can retire at 60; men 65 Women get 8 weeks maternity; men only 2 Women get cheaper car insurance Women get more money from court cases (especially divorce) Women are still not expected to work Women look after kids following a divorce. Males who are sexually/physically abused are not taken seriously in court. Female criminals serve less time in jail for equivalent crimes. Far more funding going into women's healthy; when was the last time you've seen a leaflet about testicular cancer (yet this is the most commen cancer in young men)? Mother's day is very important, but father's day is virtually ignored. Males support female charities (eg breast cancer) when women don't support male charities (eg testicular cancer). Th teaching style at schools favours females Men buy gifts and look after the women in relationships when the women may not do anything. There are many taboo such as "open doors for women" and "ladies first" etc that apply only to women. There are many "women only" organisations. This is discrimination at it's worst and needs to be sorted out. I'm sure there are loads more arguments. I know there are opposing arguments that I'll love to hear, but that's not really the aim of my question. The aim of feminism is EQUALITY. Overall, women and men may be treated similarly, however why is there such a difference between certain aspects. The see saw may be balanced, but only because there are equal gender flaws and advantages for both genders. As I've said, I believe in equality 100% and would rather these differences be evened out. What do you think? Are men treated better? Are women treated better? Do you have any arguments? Why is the equality 'see saw' not balanced with individual aspects? Is it balanced overall?