How to deal with moving to yet another new school? NOT ANOTHER HIGH SCHOOL!!!!?
Ok, I moved to Canada from England and went into middle school, it seemed nice enough, the people were nice, the worst were a bit stand offish, but I could handle them, I was nice to everyone, most people were nice to me, either that or they ignored me, but then after a few week's people started spreading rumors about me, after like 2 week's! The rumors were that I was gay, while these rumors were true, I didn't want to be out again, not at school, when I was England it was so mortifying I was picked on and some of my friends turned against me, only when the whole school found out mind you, I can't face that again! Not alone! No, it's just I hate high school SO much! I just disliked high school so much back home I don't want to do it again, not for even longer, I was almost free! I was kinda lulled into a false sense of security in middle school I guess, it felt a lot like primary school (Elementary to those who aren't English) I was comfortable in my new school, even with people trying to drag me down, but that was a school of about 1000 people, now I'm going back to high school, I don't want to go through that again! Please, help I don't want to go through this alone, I mean my sister will be there, but she doesn't know I'm gay and is a HUGE homophobic, so it would be even worse if it got out! What should I do?
How should I deal with moving during high school?
First, your situation is a tough one, and my heart goes out to you. Your parents are probably a lot smarter than you think, and I am willing to bet that they do, in fact, understand how difficult this is for you, but they are making a decision which they believe will be better for everyone in the long run. You have correctly analyzed the problems, and you have every reason to feel worried and upset. But there are a couple of steps you must take to make sure things go as smoothly as possible. First, the move is a fact, so concentrate on the positive aspects of it. Will your new city have opportunities, activities, and choices which your current small town does not offer? Second, don't become a victim of the "self fulfilling prophesy. As long as you keep worrying about how you will fit in, you make it harder for yourself to do so. You know you are popular and well-liked, so you have every reason to think that you will continue to be popular and well-liked at the new school, as long as you are genuine, friendly, and give people the opportunity to get to know you. Perhaps a lifelong best friend is just waiting there for you to meet her. Maybe your future husband is there, waiting to fall in love with you. Who knows? Finally, it is definitely a shame about the cheering squad, and your disappointment is understandable. But you did not work hard "for nothing." You had good times with your friends, you learned dedication and focus, and you developed a skill. In whatever adventures await you, those qualities will still be useful. Hold your head high and look to the future with confidence -- some wonderful experiences are right around the corner.
I'm moving during high school how should I deal with this?
Dude, I'm sorry about that. Mississauga is a nice place. I live in North York so I'm right near you. Moncton is not too bad of a place. It's smaller and less stressful than Toronto, so you may end up liking it. If you're into sports try to join a team and make friends that way. And if you love Toronto come back to visit sometimes. You might be back before you know it too. My friend lived in Toronto and moved to Halifax for work, but missed Toronto so much he moved back. He enjoyed his time there but there is no city like the big T-Dot!
How do I deal with moving during High School?
I am going to be a Junior this year. I moved to a new town which is about 35 miles from my old town. In my old school I was cool and had many friends. I played sports and got good grades. It's not something that I want to do all over again. How should I do this? And will people talk to me or will I have to talk to them. I want to be the cool kid again. I don't want to be associated with nerds.
How to deal with moving and going to a new school your junior year in highschool?
That really sucks, especially since its in the middle of junior year. Treat your mom and step dad with respect, despite what you're trying to accomplish. Because, frankly, that's just going to hurt you in the end. Your mom will feel as if she lost you, and I'm sure you care about her enough to want her to be at her best. Make it up to your step-mom and dad. Talk to them, show him that you've changed, and you've decided to accept your step mom. If he does not allow you to move back in, well, I guess you'll have to live in arizona. I understand how you feel. My dad is about to send me away to NY. I'm a So Cal girl, I' cant take the cold! Pretty much, its been intense these past 2 weeks because everyday just might be the last I get to spend with my friends. Here's my suggestion to you. Work out a plan with your parents. Ask your dad if you can go back senior year if you make it up with your step mom. That way, you can see your friends a year from now! But, being in a new environment can't be that bad. I'm a sophmore now. i know what people are going through when they move so my group of friends and I help with the new kids. I'm sure where you are now, there are kids just as friendly as those that you know. This is exactly what'll happen once you get to college. It can be sorta of a pre-college experience! Anyways, it WILL be a fresh slate. You can be whatever you want to be. Don't hurt your mom and your step-dad. Welcome them, love them, and cherish them. They care greatly about you, and no matter what you do, they will not give up on you. Acting nasty to them will only result in something that will hurt all of you. Dont do it, accept reality, and deal with it.
Hello, just want to say hi and that I went through depression in high school too. I’m much older now, been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but back then it was ‘just’ depression and some emotional dysregulation. I had the ‘gifted’ label too, not that anyone cared.This depression is very serious and I’m glad you have asked for help. I don’t have any right answer for you. Have you considered going to a psychiatrist for medication? In my case it turned out to be absolutely essential, because I have bipolar disorder. It may or may not be the right thing to do, but if you have tried everything else, it might end up being the best thing. You don’t have to stay on it (unless it’s bipolar, which it probably isn’t based on stats.).There’s a good website I’m thinking of, Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted - SENG that has a lot of interesting articles about giftedness. But you might reach out and find your own stuff that speaks to you. There is a lot of self-help, support forums, websites, a range of different professionals. One psychologist is not like the next. Keep trying, keep looking. The thing that helped me most was the concept of ‘mindfulness’ and the ideas surrounding it.How is your support network, the people around you? Are you parents understanding? In my case my parents are very good parents, but they had terrible understanding about mental health. I never reached out for help. There was a school chaplain who was a nice lady but I never felt that I could talk to her or anyone else. My mum was raised a catholic but had become athiest so I was a bit wary of religious types. The thing is, I wouldn’t have talked to anybody who was out of line with the views of my parents, and since my parents thought that my emotional problems were learned behaviour that I would have to grow out of, it would seem like a betrayal. I wish I could go back in time and give myself the courage to really seek help.Good luck. Having suffered this awful mental illness, I would absolutely say life is worth it, even so. There were times when it didn’t seem so, but things always get better, even if it takes a while. You’re made of tougher stuff than you realize.
Things in High School move so fast...How and what can you do about it?
Things in HS move so fast that, often, you're on a date before you've even fully developed a crush.. Is there such thing as a crush in high school, really? You meet someone, you talk to them a little on messenger/text and in person; you think they're pretty/cute and then, within 2-3 weeks, you have to ask them out or risk 'losing them'. Or, they might ask you out, and you just have to say 'yes' because you know they'll find someone else if you reject them...and you feel: well, I don't even have a crush on you now, but I can see myself getting there...so, you just have to jump in... In Jr. High, you'd get to know someone over months and months and develop a HUGE crush on them first...there isn't that luxury of time in High School... Why does it seem that things in high school move SO fast that you don't even have time to fully develop a crush on someone?????????????