What do you think of a grandparent that treats adopted grandchildren different than biological grandchildren?
The biological grandchildren are treated the same as family and friends, they are acknowledge, talked to, invited places, and the adopted children's only interaction with the grandparents are they receive 2 checks for $50 a year ($100 per year). They are not spoken to on the phone, invited over for holidays etc....
Why do my parents treat my younger siblings better than me?
Cut ties with them, with a quickness.I endured many years of watching my sister be put on a pedestal while I was treated like dirt. I wish I wouldn't of tolerated it, however I would not ever again.A few examples I will give you:My mother told my sister to be better than my brother and I, she didn't need anymore problem children. We weren't that bad.I was forced to have an abortion at 18. I was told “we won't have a pregnant teenager in our home”. My sister got knocked up at 18. My parents fully supported her and she lived at home with the baby.I told my mom I was going to college. I was damn proud. She told me that was unfair to my children, they needed a mother. Uh, okay. They turn around and pay for my sister to go to college with a baby, she even manages to fail and drop out.Every birthday/Christmas my sister got flourished with gifts. I'd be lucky to get a phone call.My parents refused to pay for any of my wedding. They said it was the groom's parents responsibility. She then went on to fully fund my sister's wedding.Those are just a few small examples. I do not have ill will toward my sister. I also don't have any respect for her. She's a pompous spoiled little brat who throws a tantrum when she doesn't get her way. She's 25 now. Wait til mommy and daddy stop the handouts and she enters the real world. Call me crazy, but I'm glad for my upbringing. It has taught me compassion, thankfulness, reality, and hard work.As for my parents, they can kiss my ass. I've been married for 12 years, have 2 wonderful kids, will be finishing up my degree soon, and am proud to be where I am. I was never good enough for them. It always upset me. But I changed my mindset. I no longer live for them, I live for myself. As far as my sister, I wish her all the best. From a distance.
My parents favor my younger brother?
I'm almostt 15 and my brother just turned 14. We are 11 months apart. My mom always favors him over me because he's smarter good at sports and music he's really fun y and has slot of friends. She likes spending time with him over me who plays a couple of sports gets decent grades but I'm on the shy side. My mom tells me I'm getting fat which I admit I've gained a few pounds during puberty but I never thought of myself as fat. She says she hates me and is always kicking me out of the house after slapping me for silly reasons like one time I left the salad out. She says she hates me and calls me stupid and although I try very hard at school and everything I do she is always yelling me how I'm lazy and worthless. She tells me she wants to strangle me when I do something like leave my clothes in the bathroom. My dad has always been fair with both me and my brother but she has been telling him how I am the problem in this family so now. He takes my brothers side as well. For example, my parents went out today and said we needed to be in bed by 10 and not to eat the cookies they bought. My ebrother opened them and ate them and we were both up at 10:15 when they got home and I got yelled at and my brother walked up the stairs smirking at me. Now my brother black mails me into doing things for him and if I don't he will tell my parents I did something I didn't do. I can't reason with my brother. He has a bad temper and threatens to kill me and makes fun of me for being fat and stupid. I can't eason with my parents I have tried everything. What should I do?
What should I do if my parents are so unfair?
Most parents are fair and love their children equally although treating them unequally based on their unequal personality and capacity. Without details here is your possible scenarios (and she is your older sister?) -1. She has something your parents like?2. You have something parents don't? or3. She is simply spoiled brat parents cannot handle?4. How old are you?5. You provide more details?
Is it fair that Special Education students receive 22% of every dollar we spend in our district?
Wowie Zowie. I'm a pretty conservative person, and I don't like my tax dollars squandered either. I work as an IA in a special ed program called CTE (center for therapeutic education) here in California. My program employees a teacher, three full time aides. 3 days a week a school psychologist spends 3 +/- hours in our class. Additionally a county mental health person comes out once a week for 3-5 hours, an OT comes out once a month for a consult, and a ST comes once a week for 1 hour. Schools from 4 different districts bus their students in to our program. You can imagine how much our program must "cost" per month. Well we make amazing progress with our students. Without our program, these students would be in residential placements at a cost of about 8K per month, x 10 students...80K per month! Do the math, you'd see that special education can be a much more cost effective solution than warehousing. Edited to add: As for your premise that special ed children are "more important"...Look at welfare. I don't receive a dime of federal assistance. I pay taxes. My husband is self employed so we pay taxes every 4/15 of the year. We don't get "Earned income credit" (a R.backed redistribution of wealth) we don't get food stamps, assistance in paying for housing. Are people receiving assistance from the government "more important" than my family? How is my childs education..the money spent for her to learn to be independant so she won't have to dependant on the government for her survival, even compaired to that?? I'm working (as are most parents of kids in special ed) to help my child become an independant productive citizen. Should I just give up now and put her on the government dole? Bottom line, Congress came up with this great law IDEA that they are supposed to help fund. http://idea.ed.gov/ Interesting that the government MANDATES this law, yet witholds the funding to make it practicle for local school districts to implement. IF a parent (SELFISH ONE) knows their rights under the law and advocates for their childs rights, the school has to comply. This ends up translating into unequal distribution of funds to students who have effective advocating parents, not necessarily putting the money to where the need is. Unfortunatly, until the federal government FULLY FUNDS IDEA, this will continue to be a problem.