How do i stop myself getting angry at school?
I second talking to a school counselor or other trusted adult. Remember that when you are angry, the rules of anger are: 1. Do not hurt myself. 2. Do not hurt someone else. 3. Do not hurt some thing. Also, stand up for yourself without bullying. If you have to, clench your fists at your sides as you tell them, "Hey, I am not for talking to that way. No one has the right to talk to me like that, and I am not going to let you talk to me like that." Then, regardless of what they say, just turn around and walk away. If they are likely to follow you, go somewhere you know they are less likely to go, like walk into the library, walk into the attendance office, if they are opposite gender, then walk into the bathroom. The key is to remove yourself from a situation that makes you feel inflamed. And you have every right to stand up for yourself, as long as you do it the right way.
How to survive high school without friends?
I'm starting my sophmore year of high school and I barely survived my freshman year. I moved to this new city in the middle of 8th grade and I am very shy and quiet at first and it's really hard for me to make friends. Everyone at my school pretty much thinks I'm a freak and talk behind my back even when I don't do anything. When freshman year started, I tried to make friends because I was starting high school and middle school is usually when everyone is mean and gossips about everyone so I thought high school would be different but then I realized I live in a really small town with one middle school and one high school so it's basically the same people every year. I tried to make friends but people just don't want to include me in anything. There are some few really nice people who talk to me but they eventually ditch me to go hang out with their real friends. Not even the really creepy people at my school accept me. The only time I talk at school is when the teacher picks me to answer a question or when people try to get answers from me because I'm Asian and they think I'm smart (when the joke's on them because I don't get straight A's at all). Since I don't want to be seen eating lunch alone, I pack fruit and volunteer at the library because I don't want to be embarrassed. I tried to join some clubs but the clubs at my school are pretty dumb and people just go to get free pizza and I do cross country but I'm still alone and run by myself. It was really hard for me in 8th and 9th grade and I was pretty sad and upset everyday. I don't want to talk to my parents because they'll make me transfer to a different school which will be worse for me because it will be everything all over again and the staff at my school don't do anything. Has anyone survived high school without friends?
How can I edge myself into the "popular clique" in high school? I am attractive, relatively an "alpha male", and confident.
Speaking as an outsider looking in on that clique, I would reccomend that you don’t join them at all. Sure, maybe my opinion, as one of the ‘band nerds,’ doesn’t mean much to you, but the people in the ‘popular’ clique are seen either as very stuck up and/or very dumb. I’m not saying that you are either or these things, but just be wary of the perception that it may bring.If you really want to join a ‘popular’ clique, my first step, I supposed, would be to find a sport. Any sport. You don’t need to be good, either. There are plenty of jocks in the clique who are absolutely terrible at sports. For instance, if you want a sport that really requires no effort, go out for the bowling team (if your school has one). Bowling, a winter sport, is usually frequented by the other sports jocks because it allows them to skip out on wieghtlifting for their primary sport during the off-season. The bowling team at my school was mostly football players for the last two years.Other than that, you might just wanna stick with who you’ve got now. You don’t just wanna leave your old friends high and dry while you chase this far-off goal, and depending on how far into high school you are, it’s probably already too late to becomeonw of the ‘popular’ people.(As a side note, if you want to just act super cold and mean to those people, they’ll notice you too, and because they don’t like you, at leat they’ll remember who you are—that’s how the popular people know me.)
Homeschooling VS Public or Private schooling?
***How do you feel [about homeschooling or not]? I respect your *feelings* but the homeschool debate has moved way beyond personal feelings. All the data and research shows beyond any doubt that homeschooling works and that kids are in no way disadvantaged - even social skills. *** Do you feel that some families home school for the wrong reasons? People make all kinds of decisions for the wrong reason. Many people "choose" public school by default and do not really make a decision about it at all. You will find the majority of homeschool parents / families to be very thoughtful and concerned parents. So, generally, no. ***Also, for those of you who do home school I have two questions... *** 1. Name one thing that your child doesn't get to experience based solely on them being taught at home. Low expectations. *** 2. Name one thing that you wish you could offer your child that a school can but you are unable to. Honestly, I can't think of anything at all. Some have commented about the Prom... well, we have a fall and spring dance every year - one formal and one casual, we have a graduation ceremony... If there was anything important I thought we were missing out on - I would take the initiative and create a comparable opportunity myself. --- changed my mind: I do wish that national honor societies were open to homeschooled kids so they could get recognition for academic excellence. Even for this there are fabulous alternatives! ***UPDATE: Regarding the grade of A comments... Our goal is mastery of a subject. If a child masters the subject what grade is earned? We have the flexibility to spend as much time as necessary to accomplish this objective. We have yet, however, needed to spend any more time than would typically be devoted to a particular subject. If we needed to repeat a subject we would and without penalty.
No real friends in High School, can I have some in College?
Unless a lot of people from your high school go to the same college you do, think of college as being a blank slate. People don’t know you so you can reinvent yourself to be whoever you want.In most colleges there are lots of clubs and groups to cover a variety of interests. Gather your courage and join some of them, there you will meet people with the same interest and can become friends with them.I myself was extremely shy in college and used to mostly hang out with my roommates who were more outgoing than I was. One day I saw a poster for free pizza if you meet the representatives of the student government. I willed myself to go there just for the pizza. When I got there, the students there asked if I wanted to be in the student government. No way I can do that, I am way too shy to go door to door soliciting votes. You don’t have to they said, there are 5 of us here and we will all vote for you and you will be in. Ok I said. The next year or so after that I was a member of the student government. I was on the funding board and student groups would ask our board for money to pay for activities and we would vote on whether or not to give them any money. It was a lot of fun. I was a lot shyer that you are, Take the opportunity of college to go out there and get out of your shell, you will be glad you did. Good luck.
Should I completely cut off my mother?
Cutting her off would mean acting like she doesn't exist and not speaking to her. I'm 16 years old, a junior in high school. I'm starting to realize that there is so much more to life then my family problems. I want to live a beautiful life. I want to be able to afford nice things and have fun after I graduate from college. I want to be happy. My mother.... -would not make me a hair appointment or schedule a doctor's appointment when my hair fell out -would not schedule a doctor's appointment for me when I had shingles (at the time we didn't know what it was). I told her I had a burning rash on my back and she didn't do anything. -didn't know the difference between discipline and punishment. would take the phone with her when she was mad. -threatened to send me to juvie which could ruin my future when it comes to jobs when I was younger various times -punched me and had her hand around my throat trying to start a physcial fight so that she could call the police Do you think I should cut her out?
Why do single gender schools still exist?
Good question. Why does anything that’s built on regressive traditions still exist? I think because there’s still a forceful contingent of people, in any city in any country in the world, who believe that stuff - who are 100% convinced, because of how they’ve been raised or whose opinions they’ve been exposed to, that there should be girl schools and boy schools, and the “two” sexes shouldn’t mingle, because who knows what might happen - maybe sex will happen oh NO. Boys just can’t HELP themselves. And girls are just ASKING for it. We must separate them to avoid sex, at all costs. Our dear little children, all of them, all of them who would never possibly be queer because they’re good children - we must protect them from each other! Oh no!It sounds perfectly ridiculous but we all know those people. They’re still out there. They’re still principals and board trustees and senators and prime ministers - they’ve still got sway, and they still care enough to make their sway count. What they believe is completely, unbelievably, harmfully divorced from reality - but good luck changing their minds, these far-gone white Evangelicals in their fifties, sixties, seventies, who grew up thinking “gay” means “pedophile” and “transgender” means “transvestite drag queen [pedophile]”. These are the contingent who’ll argue until their last breath that girls and boys need to go to separate schools.And sometimes, to be fair, the people who believe this stuff are not so comically over-the-top bigoted. Sometimes it’s the TERFs who leap out of the woodwork yelling that gender is a strict binary and girls and boys are two distinct non-overlapping, non-fluid biological facts of nature (which is not what gender OR sex are, by the way. In fact they’re both fantastically varied). Sometimes you get well-meaning people, like my grandmother for instance, who still believes that a girl needs to dress modestly or risk being assaulted. There are a lot of these people. They’re not all evil, they’re not all the Mike Pence evangelical crowd. (Though those types are way more fun to talk about and make fun of, because they make it absurdly easy).Luckily there are few all-girls or all-boys schools where I’m from. There are a couple scattered here and there - my sister was talking about one she’d heard of. We both agreed it doesn’t make sense, me 19 and her 10. The next generation is going to figure this shit out.
How do I change my life with positive thoughts?
Use this.Here’s some cognitive help. 1. You are unique, and so is everyone else.-Keeping this in mind will protect you from expectations of automatic agreement, and cultural, ethnic prejudice. 2. You need more than just yourself, in order to live, and so does everyone else.-Keeping this in mind will protect you from spoiling your relationships, and environment. 3. What goes around, comes around.-This simple sentence keeps you from making false assumptions about what to do. 4. Lives change, yet LIFE goes on.-This very powerful bit wisdom help to reduce the pain of impermanence. 5. Focus your attention. No coach, mentor, instructor, teacher doesn’t emphasize this aspect of success. Just knowing, understanding, and agreeing with, the concepts will not change much below the surface of the mind-heart. The five points exist in six-word form in Chinese writing. They are spoken rhythmically, in a flat tone, twice a day for some self-chosen time period until the desired results occur. The Japanese pronunciation of them is taught all over the world, by SGI, to liberate the individual, and dissolve the emotional blocks that usually prevent beneficial concepts from being manifested as action. More at wilrang88
I hate school ?
I am right there beside you man. I hate school too. I do like school when it is somthing I want to learn though. When I was in high school I didn;t do so great because I didn't care. Thats the way I didn't let school take over my life. I was more for talking with people in class than paying attention. I wouldn't recommend this though because I ended up having to go to independent study for the last 3 years of high school because I scwered up so much. You sound like you are doing more than you need to. At my high school you only had to finish Algerbra to graduate but of coarse they neglect to tell you that. So you end up going through geometry, and other higher math when you dont need to. When you get to college all you have to have done is algebra anyway. So if hate school that much and are doing unessessary classes then take them off and just do what you need to graduate. If you do this then your senior year will be awsome because you wont have as much class to go to. I am pretty sure the only classes that you have to take until your senior year is history and english. good luck.