My husband treats me like a child?
My advice is, you are an adult, behave like one. If you want to go out, then go out. Don't ask his permission, simply let him know you are going, where you are going, and when you expect to return (that's just courtesy). If he doesn't like it then tell him you two can discuss it upon your return at which time you need to sit down and express to him your feelings about the situation, and why he has issues with you going out and behaving as an independent adult (especially when you indicate that he goes out and does things without you). Any good, healthy relationship allows all parties to have their own time to do what they want to do, be it spend time with friends, have a hobby, relax or shop or whatever it may be. A spouse or partner doesn't have the right to dictate our behavior or comings and goings...and someone who really cared about us and wanted to SHARE a relationship with us, wouldn't desire to do so.
My husband puts all the responsibility of his children on me and me alone. Is this fair? ?
I have two step children ages 4 girl and 6 boy and my husband works many hours (60 plus hours). We have joint custody of them and pay no child support (in the papers) and have them every other week. I get stuck caring for them the whole time they are here and when their dad is at home, he spends time watching tv or goes on the computer and I even tell him that he needs to spend time with his children and all of the children we have. We have one together who is 11 months and one on the way. I keep telling him that all the children are going to resent him someday and especially the step kids who dont see him all the time, but he acts like its no big deal and expects me to do all disciplining etc. This would not be so bad if the children actually respected me. How can they respect me when their father says that I am too mean RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM? They both need counseling because they seem to be very selfish and self centered. They think they should get whatever they get at their moms over at our house. They even tell me so. I say that that is not the way it is going to be and that they need to get over it. They both show jealousy and resentment towards their brother too (my bio son). Now my husband has even suggested that we take them every week and their mom would only get them on the weekends and I said HELL NO, I have enough stress and you dont even help me out the way it is and of course he said its cuz i dont want his kids. He then said well your the one that wanted kids and I said yes, but I didnt have the other two and yet even though I love them, I agreed to help out but not be your baby sitter. He has increasingly gotten worse ever since we tied the not a year and a half ago. I know that people have mixed feelings on the whole blended family situation but the custody is set up so THEIR DAD spends time with them, i do not think its fair to me or them that they have to spend all their time with me. I do my best but i am getting fed up with it. Obviously I have a responsibility to take care of my own kids no matter what, but i feel with his, he should take more responsibility then he does. Does anyone feel me here?
Having breast reduction and husband doesn't want to have sex?
I'm sure you have some kind of idea how your husband feels because an operation doesn't happen over night. You've discussed this with him before and he's still not feeling it. I think a lot of times when we don't know how to express our feelings or afraid of hurting the other persons feelings we turn to sex to express ourselves. Don't feel too bad, having sex with him before still would have not changed his feelings about you getting the operation done. It's better to talk about the underlying problem, be it:he's afraid of complications with surgery, afraid of how you may have a huge boost of self esteem and leave him behind, or he's all about large breast and think that the reduction will make you unattractive to him. I think it would do him well to understand that breast reductions are mostly done for health reasons. If he loves you enough he will understand and consider the stress that your body is going through. If not, you have more weightier issues on your hands. I pray that you and your husband can come to a good understanding and continue to love and show each other love.
Husband swatted/spanked me?
There is a very small minority of people out there who embrace a lifestyle called "domestic discipline," and it sounds like that's what your husband is trying to practice. The two of you should talk about it. I try not to be judgmental. If that's something you both agree you want to practice, then you should. It's not for me. I like a good spanking, but only as a precursor to sex. I've *pretended* to be a naughty girl getting a punishment spanking before, but I don't think I'd enjoy being spanked for actual punishment. But your tastes and desires may vary. The important thing is for both of you to be on the same page with regards to what you're going to do. Good luck!
Do my husband wants me to DOMINATE him ,why?
We are married for 18 years.Our children are studying in colleges and we are both 38.And yes,we have a very great and loving marriage and i love him more than words could describe.But my husband told me the other day that, he wants me to dominate him. His words "I don't know whether you like it or not but i have immense desire to be dominated by a woman since i was 13 ,i tried everything to get rid of those feelings and didn't told you about it for all those years because of the fear and shame.The reality is ,i am into femdom and really want to serve you .Its killing me.".His emotions was all over him when he told me this and just left me stunned.I didn't expect my husband to told me this ,after such long time in our marriage. Later ,while we were sleeping ,he said " i am sorry ,i said crazy things to you ,just forget about it " But ,he was looking way too serious when he was telling me all this.He seemed normal today but i know something is bothering him. What was that ? Some sort of emotional outbursts or what ? What should i do ? I want to make him happy but i am not dominant nor i know anything about femdom. What would be your reaction if your husband told you something like that ? Sorry for my English.