I lied to my best friend, but it wasn't huge?
Ohkaii, i was meeting a guy and i knew my best friend would get so angry if she knew, so i said i wasn't. She gave me a massive lecture, and i decided her friendship means so much more to me, than some *** hole anyway. Anyway, i have another really close friend, who i told about this guy, because she isn't as judgemental towards me, and wouldn't care. Anyway, i said to my bf that my other close friend doesn't know hardly anything about this guy. And if i told my bf she did she would get jealous and scream at me. Anyway she found out that, and is now really angry at me. Its not a major lie, but i dont understand what i can do? I just want her back, she means so much!
I lied to one of my friend and he found that I was lying, after that I asked Sorry for him about what I am.Does this hurt our personal relationship?
Yes, it hurts your relationship. Lying is ok but if you do it continuously then it will eliminate the trust between you people (especially his).If you're lying and he figures it out then I don't think it is a problem but if he is informed from someone else or from other sources that you're lying to him, things will turn into worse.Avoid it.
Why would a guy lie and tell his friends that he slept with a girl?
Simple answer is: guys can be stupid.( I just want to say that as a male myself, I can certainly testify that I have done some very stupid things. And yes, there are certainly intelligent men out there :) )Complicated answer is: everything has to do with the role human males have played throughout evolution and how modern society affects men.A LONG time ago, when we were still still on the left side of this chart, the “end goal” of organisms were to mate and pass down their genes.That means that when they had sex, their brains were telling them, “YES YES YES YOU’RE DOING YOUR JOB!”That is why orgasms feel so damn good. If sex wasn’t enjoyable, organisms would not want to reproduce, which would end their species.Modern society have changed human beings a lot. We no longer only want to have sex.Instead, we are trying to:find the meaning of lifefind the next largest prime number (the largest known prime number as of Aug. 24, 2017 has 22,338,618 digits)colonize MarsLITERALLY ANYTHING ONE COULD THINK OFNow… we still must remember that deep down, we are still animals. We want to reproduce because it passes down our genes and it feels good! A bonus is that in this society, if a man can claim that he has slept with multiple women, that is considered “success.”Because of evolution, people are programed to want to reproduce, but it is even worse how society misleads younger generations into thinking that having sex is something to be proud of and worth bragging about.This is when we know that we have a problem on our hands. Guys are lying about having sex to try to be the man that society wants them to be.In order to fix this problem, we need to start changing the way people perceive masculinity, and let guys know that they don’t become more popular by having sex.I can't apologize on the behalf of all the men out there, but I am sure that many of them out there feel the same as I do.I am sorry. Nobody deserves this.
I have lied to my friend and she found out. What would be a good course of action?
Context is important here. I'm guessing (insufficient data to do otherwise) that this 'lie' was not planned rather it sort of slipped out before you could moderate. On that basis I can say that I suspect all of us have had similar unhappy experiences. Speaking first thinking next is a common human frailty. The word 'lie' is a powerful fellow. Imagine words on a continuum like 'Truth' at one end and 'Lie' at the other. Travelling from one extreme (truth) to the other we pass through gradations to the opposite (lie) maybe what you said was untrue, which is rather like a station on the road to telling a lie. I'm here arguing philosophy and not semantics. A question arises as to your intent at the time but again there is not enough information to go deeper with that thought. How to get out of the moral dilemma in which you now find yourself locked? Talk to her: "Remember the chat we had a while back? I said something that wasn't true and it's bothered me ever since. I didn't plan it, it just came out and I couldn't retract it at the time. Our relationship is important to me so I guess that's why its troubled me. I'd like to put things right if that's okay with you?" You owe it to yourself to reconcile the matter, whatever the outcome.
My friend can't take a joke, now he is mad how do i fix it?
So my friend and I just hung out all day, after I get home, he texts me something funny that he was trying to do before I left told me it worked but still wasn't good. Before I left he told me something out of context something that had no meaning at the time. It was about this girl, who has a boyfriend, though he likes her. So as a joke I text him, that she texted me asking about him. Just to **** with him. Though the who thing turned to ****. He took it so personal, said I could never be trusted again, offered to return everything I ever gave him. Said he told me that in private, which I replied yeah, and I sent that joke to you in private. Then I go off sending this super long message apologizing and explaining that we are friends, that I would never betray him. Also why get mad at me over this girl, that is ALREADY TAKEN. I asked him to rethink his action, before he says the wrong thing. After that he backed off the attack, though the tension is still there. Said we are still friends but that he will never trust me again. I told him how can we be friends if you don't trust me. I even said heck man I will even prove it to you. I NEVER FREAKING LIE ( Okay one lie, to him.). Heck man I even gave up on my girl because he said she wasn't good for me. I FREAKING GAVE UP ON HER, (did) because everyone hated her, and he told me that I should forget her, that she isn't good for me. SHE IS A DREAM GIRL. Anyways I gave up on a girl, because my friend said so, and here he is giving up on me because of a girl. PS. I NEVER GAVE UP ON HER SSSHHH. We talk all the time, she is freaking perfect. SSSHHHH. I just told him I did. Though that is not the point. The point is why, why, why, why, get so freaking mad over a joke, that you would throw away your friend for?
I told a lie, how can i fix it?
i went to my college orientation (ohio state) anyway i was assigned a random student to room with for the night. once i walked in i thought he kind of looked like a douschebag. we started making small talk and for some weird reason when he asked me which school i transferred from was columbia. he was amazed with my little. he was enamored with columbia and one day hoped to finish his doctorate there. well, it turns out the kid was really cool. getting to know the guy i really started to get along with him. we became really good friends and we agreed to meet up once fall semester begins. i cant keep up the lie forever. how can i fix this, i dont want him to hate me or look down on me for it.
How can I fix the negative things I already confided to my friends about my boyfriend?
Are the negative things you told your friends a lie? If so, correct them and apologize to them for lying to them, and to him for lying about him.Are the negative things you told your friends about your boyfriend true? If so, what is the problem? And, why are you still with him?If you are triangulating your own relationship, ask yourself why you are doing that?