How do I fix things with my mom?
Our conversations are limited to: school, work, and things I've done wrong or are wrong about me. I decided to tell her how being repeatedly asked the questions she already knows the answers to or how being intimidated by her makes me feel and she perceives it as being 'disrespectful'. We usually don't talk about our feelings because it often ends like this, so I internalize it, causing the tension and hostility between us to rise. She generally assumes the role of the victim instead of accepting the fact that we both make mistakes. Yeah, her intentions are usually good, but the slightest bit of criticism drives her up a wall. Right now, I've been having trouble with getting back into school because of my lack of knowledge of the process and social anxiety, so I've been staying over at a friend's place because they are in university and are willing to help me. My mom thinks I'm just dicking around when I've been accumulating information about transferring schools and talking to faculty about what degree program would be right for me. I tell her this and it has no bearing on what comes out of her mouth. She'll just continue to ask the same questions and assume the same things about me. She claims I don't understand how she feels when she often goes out of her way to express how much of a deadbeat I am and how harmful I am to her health. My grasp of the English language isn't bad, in fact, it's one of my strongest points, but I still can't get through to her. How do I fix this?
How can I fix things with a girl? I thought she didn’t like me, so I told her I just wanted to be friends, and that made her mad because she thought I was stringing her along.
Thanks for the A2A !Well, am not the person in right mind who would like to amend things with a girl, after it got screwed up. But you learn from your mistakes and so did I. What i write further may not work wonders for you, but try giving it a shot.i) First and foremost, donot look down upon yourself and stop calling yourself a dumbass, for the sake of people who love and care about you. I assume that you are relatively young and have lots to do and see in life. You learn from your experiences, so you would learn about women too eventually.ii) Question yourself that why do you want this girl so badly, and what is the existence of this female in your life at any point of time and is it so important that you are leading a conflicted life because of that. If you can convince yourself with the answer, read further else try to figure out what is wrong.iii) Misunderstandings do happen and we all being human tend to do that. But its equally important to clear off the air, which you want to do. And how can you do that ?, reach out to her by call/mail/ watsapp or whatever technology suits you better. Do not let the preconceived notion of "i think she would or i am not sure how she would" come in picture at all. How can do you even think on her behalf. I smell more of a male ego here, so let go of that.iv)If the technology aspect doesnot work, find a close friend of hers, explain the situation and if you are desperate, you would find means to have a meeting with her. But donot stalk her or follow her, women find it creepy.v) Now when you have got to meet her, remember one thing. This might be the last opportunity to meet or talk out to her. So pour your heart out. It okay for a man to be emotional, so show you emotional side rather than the masculine one.vi) And always keep it in mind that there's a thin line between conversation, an argument and a fight, so keep your nerves under control. And its always a woman who decides the difference between talking and harassment, so donot let things go out of your control.All the best, give it a shot. I have a gut feeling that you will get through this. P.S. If the lady in question does not a give a damn despite of your attempts to reach out to her, perhaps she is not the one for you. Accept the fact and move on, life has certainly a better one in store for you.
How to fix things between me and my crush ?
I did some stupid stuff...nohing serious like hitting her or sth but things that mess things up..we had a mini fight (lol) and exchanged blocking on all social medias (lolol) . It's been 7 months and we're gonna meet in a class reunion and I really want her to see me again as a "friend"... for now at least :D So any tips ? Thanks !
How do I fix things with my now ex-girlfriend?
Hi, I am madly and deeply in love with my recently ex-girlfriend. I ****** up, I'm not even going to try and justify, I plain ****** up. I have a friend, a girl, whom I sort of talked to a lot during our relationship. I never thought anything more of her than a friend because well, I had a girlfriend whom I love very much. However, I did say some questionable things to her, I would kind of use her as a vent to rant about my frustrations about my girlfriend and I did say some insulting things about her. As well, I told her that I loved her, as a friend, and I was semi-flirty with her. My girlfriend went through and read all of our messages to each other and she feels like I've lied to her, betrayed her trust, and cheated on her. And although I did not cheat on her physically, I did go a little too far in some of the things I said to my friend and it was completely inappropriate to do as I was in a relationship. I've cried and plead to my ex-girlfriend over these past couple days telling her that this girl meant nothing to me, and I was completely in the wrong. I've told her countless times how much I love her but she just doesn't feel like she can trust me anymore. And yes, I've told her all of this, I've told her that I just wish we could cry our hearts out, be completely truthful to each other about everything, and work this out. But it just doesn't seem to be working. She told me that she wants to try and rebuild her trust in me as friends but until then she can't be in a relationship with someone she can't trust. She told me that she is still in love with me and she hasn't lost hope in us just yet but I'm very scared of what our future holds. I've been talking to her non-stop as always, that much hasn't changed. But I'm wondering what I should do from here, should I still be talking to her? Is that going to make her comfortable with the idea of being just friends with me? What approach should I take to this? I really ****** things up and I feel like a worthless piece of **** for what I've done. I love her very, very, very, much, she's the best thing that's ever happened to me. What should I do? (Sorry for the wall of text.)
Do you prefer guys who can fix things, or guys who can pay to have them fixed?
i prefer a guy who can fix things, but knows when to say "ok... thats too much, i'm calling someone".. lol. i like the hands on type overall. having the money to fix things is good, but i like a guy who's good with his hands. hehehe. i think thats why a lot of girls like musicians. but he needs to know how to draw the line.