I don't want my boyfriend's sister to move in with us!?
My boyfriend and I are looking for a new apartment together and his older sister wants to come live with us after we find one. Their dad is moving to another state and she does not want to go so she figured she'd move in with her brother. I did not ask how long she would be staying, but I have a gut feeling it would be permanently. I do not want to live with his sister because she smokes weed, is bipolar, loud, lazy, and she manipulates her brother for money. A month ago, she called my cell phone and demanded that I let her live with us. She said that she was my boyfriend's sister for life and that blood is thicker than water. The last time we visited his family, she kept knocking on our door while we were trying to be intimate and bothering us with stupid requests. She needed my boyfriend to come get her cell phone back from this guy she was dating because he stole it while in a drunken stupor. My boyfriend doesn't mind if she lives with us, but I don't want her to. Help!
How to tell my lazy 22 year old brother to move out?
Just sit him down and tell him he either has to start pulling his weight around your place (emphasize "YOUR" place) or he has to move out. He should be contributing 1/3 of everything--groceries, utilities, rent, etc. And since it is YOUR place, one of the requirement is that he keep his own room clean and tidy, and that he help keep the other rooms everyone shares tidy and clean too. Everyone has to contribute to the "family" or else they have to move out to a place of their own somewhere. And you won't be supporting him if he decides to go it alone. Give him a couple months as a deadline so he can look for a place since he probably will think living where he doesn't have to follow any rules is far better then staying and paying at your place. You've enabled him long enough; time to grow up.
Boyfriend wants his brother to move in with us?
We are looking for apartments, and my boyfriend keeps saying his brother should move in with us. I don`t want him to, I will be moving out of my parents house (which I like living very much in) to move out with my boyfriend to the state his brother and mom live in. I just think the point of moving out is to be alone. Why would I move out, away from the people I love, to move in with another person where I wouldn't be able to do what I want cause he'd be there all the time when he's not at work and I just don't feel comfortable with another person there. My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand why I don't want him there. Am I being irrational?
How do i tell my parents i want to move out?
it's hard living with over protective parents especially when your in a relationship and you feel separated. stop and think about all the little costs before you take steps to move out, food, bills, rent, transport money, little extras that crop up. it all adds up $$$$! make sure first of all you can actually support yourselves once you move out and live comfortably, not on the base line. as for how to tell your parents i'd sit them down and just tell them calmly and matter-of-factly that you'd like to start planning to move out. not move out specifically just that you're THINKING about it as you're all grown up now (you moving out means they are successful parents!). this gives them time to adjust to the idea and they won't feel like they're losing their little girl straight away, it even gives them the chance to be part of it.
How to get my Brother to move out of my house?
Back in 2006 I had knee surgery. I couldn't drive for a month and I wanted to still go to work so I asked my brother if he would like to help me out for the month and drive me because he wasn't working at the time. He agreed, but complained driving me the whole month. When I was ready to drive again I told him that he can go back to our parents house but refused!!! My parents didn't help me with getting him back home. Over 6 years later he is still with me! The first 2 years he wasn't paying anything and still refused to move out then I started charging him a small rent fee.I got him a job at where I work. His only bills is $500 a month for rent, his cell phone bill and his car insurance. He claims he has no money but I do payroll at the job and I know how much he makes. He still has the option to move back home and refused. I asked my parents to help me and my mom says I'm an adult and to deal with it. She said she is tired of hearing me complain that my brother still living with me and that it's not her problem, it's mine. But yet she would be mad if I leagally kick him out. My parents won't talk to me if I serve him papers. Keep in mind I have no privacy. He lives in my partially finished basement, uses my kitchen and bathroom and does not clean at all. I do all the cleaning and food shopping. He smokes and leaves cigarette butts all over my lawn and driveway. When his car broke down he used my truck for 2 years but never help paid for insurance on it and he left my truck dirty and smelling like smoke, after I asked him not to smoke in my truck. I cannot live like this anymore. I've been on anxiety medication and I don't even want to go home anymore, in my own house that I work hard for. But it's like my parents don't care that their own son is 34 years old and doesn't want to go out on his own. I've asked him every month that I don't want him there and I want him to move out, but he literally curses me out. If I serve him papers I don't know how he is going to react, he could get violent. What do I do?
Did I do the right thing by telling my brother he needs to move out?
My brother (who is 35) moved in with me a year ago when I moved to New York. He has been in New York for over 10 years and can't keep an apartment and got fired from his job. He was married and got a divorce about 3 years ago. He also has a 6 year old son. He's been out of work for over a year and has been sleeping on my living room floor (I only have a 1 bedroom apt). I told him that he needs to move out by the end of June (still doesn't have a job). My dad totally agrees with me however, now my mom won't talk to me. He won't move to Florida (where my parents live) because he doesn't want to leave his son. It such a double edge sword. He does clean and cook. But I don't get any other money for rent. Finally he got food stamps (about 3 months ago) and has been buying groceries (no rent $). While he's looking for a job, he also is smoking weed. But this is the first time for me moving out (I'm 27) and I want privacy and space. Now I feel really guilty. Did I do the right thing?
My boyfriend's brother tried playing footsie under the table with me while sitting next to his wife. What do I do?
First make sure it was footsie and not an accidental bump or anything like that. (My husbands advice just given) This can happen and it’s not always footsie, but it can be embarrassing as it’s automatically taken as such. However, if you know this is flirtatious, and you feel this is not something you want to share with him, or go behind his spouse, keep your feet tight against your area, and speak to him later. If this is to hard for you, you could try speaking to your boyfriend or leaving this man a message/text. If he does not take the hint perhaps you and his wife could have a little chat. But that is a last resort I’d think.
How can I get my husband out of his brother house?
Ask.You do not state which culture you are from or he is from. Some cultures live routinely with or very close to extended family members or even immediate family. In some cultures, women are EXPECTED to live with and join the husband’s family household, to share common labor and housekeeping.You may discover there are other reasons for staying with his brother. Those reasons could be financial. But regardless of the reason, you need to talk to him calmly and rationally about your desire to have more room, privacy, to be more intimate, to start a family, be closer to your/his job, whatever. You cannot MAKE him do anything he doesn’t want to. Your alternative is to find a place to live, invite him to embrace to possibility of change, and consider moving alone without him, if you truly cannot stand or will not continue to live with your brother in law in his home.I will say this much. If your brother in law has been inappropriate toward you, then I believe you have every right to INSIST on living elsewhere. With or without your husband. You need to speak up about the issue and again, speak to your husband about that. You have a right to be free from harrassment or intimidation, and to feel secure in your person and privacy.
What is it like to move out of your parent's house and become independent?
Awesome. I mean, I was always somewhat independent. I had a job since I was 13, and worked every day after school until midnight, plus full 8 hour shifts on Saturday and Sunday. I really did not enjoy being a kid, or being poor, so I wanted both of those things to end ASAP. I was 16 when I moved out. Beginning of Grade 12. First I lived with my boyfriend and his parents, then we got our own apartment. It was tiny but new and nice.Some things that struck me then were things like you have to buy stuff like a shower curtain. Don’t those just appear in the house? Nope. Lol, obviously, but how would I know that? And cleaning products, and a vacuum. I hate to clean and I have a high tolerance for filth, so I resented having to buy things to clean with. I still hate that, actually, although now I appreciate the feeling of a clean, well-organized home, and then I didn’t know what that was like so I didn’t know I would prefer it to clutter and filth.What I liked best was not having anyone tell me what to do, or criticize my choices. If I want to wear 10 coats of mascara I damn well will. Still do, most days, too. If I wanted to watch TV all night no one could say anything. Mostly I didn’t. But I enjoyed having that freedom.It was a bit weird being in high school and not living at home. Like when they sent home permission slips I’d be like “should I just sign it myself?” And I remember once on a band trip I asked the teacher to drop me off at my apartment as we drove by it, instead of going back to the school with everyone and then having to take 2 buses home. He did and it was fine, but I could tell he was a bit nervous about not following the school procedure.