My 5 year old won't listen to me?
It sounds like by "not listening" you mean that when you tell him to do something, he either ignores you or starts arguing with you. Is this right? Both of these things are relatively easily solved. For ignoring you, one thing that will help is first off, before you ask him to do something, make sure you have his full attention so that he can't just pretend like he didn't hear you. This means switch off the TV, take hold of his toys, or block whatever he is doing, and get his eye contact and THEN ask him to do it. Tell him that as soon as he does it he can continue to play/watch TV/whatever else he was doing. Stay there in front of him and don't let him continue playing (block his access to his toys or to the TV or whatever) until he has done what you've asked. For arguing, it takes two to argue. When he argues, he knows you will argue back and the longer he can keep you arguing, the longer he can put off doing what you've asked. For instance let's say you've turned off the TV and told him to put away his toys and as soon as he is done he can turn on the TV again. He whines "I don't WANNA." You say nothing, just point at the toys. "But MOMMMM, I'm gonna miss the show!" You say nothing, just point at the toys. "Please, just one more minute??" You say nothing, just point at the toys. "You're the meanest mom in the world!" You say nothing, just point at the toys. He hits you to see if that will make you argue with him. You say nothing, just point at the toys. Continue this for as long as it takes. Once he realizes you're not going to argue with him and that you're not going to allow him to keep playing until he does it, he will grudgingly decide to do what you've asked. Then thank him for following your directions, give him a hug, tell him you love him, and tell him he can turn the TV back on now.
My mom grounded me for listening to metal?
Well my mom is religious and I'm not into Christian music anymore. I started listening to metal like Slayers, Judas Priest, Bring Me To Horizon, and lots more. I like it and then my mom found out I was listening to metal and she took away my MP3 player then she grounded me for a month. She told me I'm going to hell for listening to metal and she calls it "Satan's music". I'm 14 years old and my interests change and I'm just not into Christian and gospel music anymore, I'm into rock and metal. She's making me read a couple of bible verses before I go to school, after I get home, and before I go to bed while I'm "grounded". What should I do?
Should you always listen to your mother?
Your mom's history should give you some insight into why your mom is so hard on you. You may be dealing with something that has bedeviled us for ages. It's called the double standard. It happens because we're easier to control than guys. It may not be true in your case but this is how it usually works. You may have noticed that your parents stopped spanking your brother about the time he became a teenager. If this is what happened it was because your parents either knew or found out that spanking older guys usually causes more problems than it solves. This happens because as guys get older they are more likely to treat spanking as an attack rather than disciplining. Meanwhile you continued to get it even after becoming a teen. This happens because we are more willing to change our behavior after we've been spanked. This has been going on like forever. It's not fair but it's the way the world works. Being a strict parent can be a two-edged sword. If parents are too strict, we sometimes can rebel and get ourselves knocked up. If parents aren't strict enough, we can run wild. When you think about what is going on remember that your mom has gone through all of this before. She's been your age. She understands the dangers. If you have a problem with your mom, learn to negotiate. Talk to your mom about your rebellious streak. Be honest about what makes you behave and what makes you want to rebel. For this to work you have to talk to her like one adult to another. Whining and complaining won't help matters. It requires maturity. Sometimes it means owning up to what you've done before your mom finds out and accepting the consequences even if it means taking a paddling. As you become more responsible, more honest, and more cooperative you may find that your mom will loosen up a little and trust you more. To keep your mom's trust, don't violate it. In the end she probably only wants what is best for you. Once the two of you can work together to turn out the best girl possible you may find that life is easier for both of you.
What does it mean when someone moves their lips while they're listening to you talk?
This is actually a psychological condition called echolalia and is a symptom on the autism spectrum. People who do this are usually very smart, a bit introverted, and have a sensory need to reform the words that they hear with their own mouths in order to fully process their meaning.I found this out by looking it up on the NHI website after encountering it a few times in pediatric medical records; I found it absolutely fascinating.I also happen to have a daughter and a mother-in-law who do the same thing, only after speaking rather then while listening. Their mouths silently re-form the words after they speak them; NHI says the reason for this is to subconsciously make sure that what they said was really what they meant to say, and that they didn't accidentally spoonerise it or something.
How do I make my husband see my mother-in-law's true personality?
This sounds real crazy. I wouldnt offer any advice but I d tell you what i would do to protect my dignity.Start working. However small or big the salary is join something. This will give you a direction to be independant & to divert your mind away. Remember, this might create more problems for you from your MIL but this would help stand on your legs when there is no hopeIgnore your MIL. I repeat. Dont let her get you. Your feelings thoughts and emotions are internal to you. Dont let external factors affect you. Start meditatingIf your husband is a nice guy. Start loving him without any expectations. He will slowly love you back and without asking he would start shielding you. ( unfortuantely this would take time and high level of patience from you)Tell your friends about the situation and be ready for emergency help. With a single message or call.Dont be alone. Learn some hobby and entertain yourself. This is one way you can make her jealous. Negative people wont like if someone is content and happy before themLive for yourself. Find the ultimate happiness in spreading joy in whatever way you likeDont worry about others. If they are listening to a third person and forming opinions about you they are not worth knowing you. Just keep going the way you naturally are and slowly they’ll come around.I have a feeling that your husband is already aware of his Mother’s attitude. Thats the only reason he is giving deaf ear. Otherwise he would equally get curious to know whats going wrong.A friend of mine has come out of an unhealthy relationship and she constantly inspires me with her fervour(by making a choice at age of 24 to file a divorce) courage and compassion(does volunteering at orphanages and animal welfare). She tells me Hardships are given to people who have the courage to withstand them and emerge as winners. She is grateful for this life and its virtuesShe was and is a winner to me. Never let anyone tell you what you are and what you arent capable of. Believe u are a self sustaining power. Trust your instincts. If your husband doesnt cater for your safety happiness and trust i dont see a future there.Lots of prayers and courage to you. Please let me know if you want someone to talk to & unload burden.
How do you deal with parents who don't care to listen or understand you?
What do you mean by don't care?There is a spectrum here and those on the very worst of the spectrum actually are abusive. In the abusive case you need to just get away.“Don't care” spectrum:Tier 1:They just don't listen to me. My dad says I'm a psych major even though I'm studying sociology. He was telling a coworker once that I did track and field in high school when I REALLY was in cross country.Tier 2:They just don't listen to me. My dad says he's too tired to talk to me and promises to talk later but never gets around to it. I feel disregarded because he forgets and then just tells me what to do all of the time without understanding my rationale.Tier 3:They just don't listen to me. My dad has yelled, laughed, or made noise otherwise in order to drown out the things I'm saying to him. Whenever he talks to me it's usually to do a favor or a chore. If I say no, I can expect a stern talking to accompanied by him yelling at me or intimidating me (eg threatening to take away or guilting me for using basic needs). Otherwise it's to listen to him talk about his job or even the marriage to my mom. I feel disregarded because he actively puts me down with his lack of listening skill and verbal abuse.Sometimes relationships can't be mended (despite what pop psychology will tell you). Can you have a conversation with your parents? A parent in tier 1–2 would probably be open to it. But sometimes you get a tier 3. That's not gonna happen.
Songs about mom not caring?
silhouettes- smile empty soul Don't Let Me Get Me by P!nk Perfect - simple plan 2nd chance - shinedown Welcome to my life - simple plan broken home papa roach - dont really like this song. Not rap..... John Mayer - Daughters - REALLY like this song Here are the songs, but remember. I don't know your life, not sure if your mom ACTUALLY hates you. But remember. Moms say things they dont mean when they are stressed, tired, or angry. My mom calls my retarted sometimes but she doesn't mean it. Just think about that...