How can I get away from emotionally abusive parents?
People may tell you emotional abuse is not a thing, and other people have it worse, but your emotional pain is real, okay? I've been hit by a parent and I’ve been emotionally abused by a parent, and I will say I'd rather be hit. At least people recognize your struggles and you can get out of the situation. Unfortunately, most of the world doesn't take emotional abuse seriously.Part of the reason people don't take it seriously is that emotional abuse is actually considered an effective and acceptable method of child rearing.Most children desire love and praise from their parents, and so will (most of the time) try to make their parents happy. Emotional abuse takes advantage of that. At first the kid tries everything to be the perfect child, just to make their parent happy.Whenever the child does something undesirable, the parent refuses to show them compassion, something they desperately desire. The parent instead degrades the child, telling them through some means that they are not good enough, that something is wrong with them, that they are worthless. Most of the time, kids follow orders to the best of their ability, but learn expressing an opinion or any little slip-up can lead to a screaming fight.When they finally realize it's not going to stop, they lose whatever connection they had to that parent. In fact, they often lose respect, love and trust for others, as well as their ability to bond with others.Many emotionally abused children become abusive themselves, though some become “successful” - that is, their parent’s ideal. A small few escape the cycle and actually find happiness and success.Unfortunately, from what I've learned, escaping emotionally abusive parents can be very hard. You can try talking to a school councelor or something, but chances are, they won't be able to do anything. Emotional abuse is hard to prove, and most councelors will take the parent’s side. At this point, the best thing you can do is find every excuse you can not to be home or around your parents.Have lots of sleepovers with friends, join clubs after school, pretend to have six hours of homework every night, et cetera. Save for college, get a job, and move far away when you graduate.Sorry I can't be much help. I understand what it's like.
An emotionally abusive father.?
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit each day. Turns out many parents are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you responsible- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also. There are 3 types of abusive people/parents. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great on being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. They tear you down to build themselves up. Abuse causes all known so called Mental Problems. BP OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that there is no medical science in what they do. They do not draw blood to test for imbalances. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them. Google- "Inside the Mind of an Abuser" Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under "emotional abuse" and "dealing with bullies". Talk to me. I have some questions for you Source(s): Experience with people feeling better on a repeated basis.
How to get away from emotionally abusive parents?
seriously..you mother did not birth you to 'make your life a living hell';; your emotional abuse is truly not the term you want to use here because people who are emotionally abused would find this very trivial compared to their 'real' life;; your ADD needs to be diagnosed by a professional & not by you;; I'm sure there were a few conversations between you & your mother that were not the 'best chosen words to use'..but it sounds like their best is also not good enough;; I guess..like mother, like dtr;; hon, your 18, they are going to pay for college if you stay in the area, they won't pay for college if you don't;; life if frankly up to you @ this point & NOT your parents;; you chose not to work cuz frankly, your parents can't stop you from doing that;; you're complaining for actually nothing because you have not done anything to prepare yourself for life;; your parents aren't the only ones helping you to achieve;; you had a million & one people pushing for you @ school also;; if you're on the internet..it's a good resource area..& frankly, so are your parents (paying for college);; all in all, what I'm trying to say is that it's YOUR turn now..get your butt moving by making plans..something you should've been doing for @ LEAST 4 yrs now on what you are going to be doing for the next few yrs;; start looking @ YOU instead of trying to find reasons you're stuck in the same boat you've been in for the last yr;; none of us like to wake up after graduation not knowing what we are doing; start planning & forget about your parents, unless you need them as a resource...then I would start looking @ the things that they truly ARE doing for you...they love you, just not so easy for some people to say when there is such animosity going on toward them;; it's very clear that you hate your parents...but you're blame for hate is placed on the wrong people, again...it's you hating them, not them hating you;; & there is CLEARLY more to this story than you have related...quit blaming & start working!! & btw, good luck, cuz it IS hard work...you can get out of this though, just gotta get the head in the right place..it needs to be on YOU, not them....
How do I move away from my home (due to emotional abuse) if I don't have a job or any money to support myself?
There are domestic violence shelters in many areas which support individuals that need help in moving away from abusive situations. Their services are confidential. You can google a local one in your area and contact them to discuss it. If they can’t help, they might be able to direct you to a more appropriate resource.
Emotionally abusive parents.?
I'm almost 19 years old and have two emotionally abusive parents but in very different ways. My Mother left when I was 8 and from then on I have only seen her on Sundays. Our relationship is pretty much conducted over the telephone. She pretends to care but whenever I ask her for help concerning my Father, she is quick to dismiss it with a "You'll be alright". That brings us onto the subject of my Father. The biggest problem. For years I've suspected he might have mental health issues but I dare not mention that to him. When my Mother left, he hired a women to look after us for the better part of the day. Because of the absence of my Mother and my apparent similarity to him we became close. It's always been something of a double edged sword. He is overbearing and over protective. He wants to know where I am all the time. I'm not allowed out "too late" and I constantly have to be there to look after him. He's so dependent on me it's unbelievable. Saying that, he won't say please or thank you to me because "He shouldn't have to" in his opinion. He barks orders at me and then complains when I don't carry them out with a pleasant attitude. He won't accept blame for anything he does wrong and always places blame on me. He complains that I never do anything around the house despite physical evidence of the contrary and when faced with this he claims that it's not good enough. He has emotionally blackmailed me into giving him money not only from my private account, but he's also guilt tripped me into signing documents letting him take all the money in my trust fund. Despite this, he claims that I don't contribute to the household and that all I do is take. He likes to play on my fears by dangling my own security in front of me. If I don't do as I'm told, when I'm told, he orders me to move out. He is constantly accussing me of doing things behind his back or conspiring against him. There are a million and one things that he does. All of them are slowly but surely grating away at me. I'm think that perhaps he has borderline personality disorder, some sort of paranoia disorder, scizophrenia or even that he might be an undiagnosed psychopath. What I want is an objective opinion as it's hard to know what you're dealing with when you're stuck in the middle of it. P.S. Excuse the length of this post but I wanted to give a clear view of what my parent's behaviour is like.
What can I do to get out of an emotionally abusive household? I am 17.
Oh wow.Go to the school counselors, inform them of what's happening in the home honey. Abuse is abuse, it NEVER should happen, you are a child.Do not stay silent and I hope you're allowed to work, it will help you get out of the house and help you save to leave at 18. I hope that's soon too.But you shouldn't take this abuse. Now I hope this is real abuse you're talking about and not disagreements with your parents, feeling like you're being treated like a child or not having enough freedom, etc.If it is? Reach out to adults. It's not your responsibility to figure out what to do. Adults, TRAINED adults need to help with what's going on and how to ease any pain, suffering and abuse you may be dealing with. School counselors, nurse doesnt matter. Do it immediately.God bless you and keep us posted and informed about what has transpired.
Why do I keep coming back to my emotionally abusive parents?
Stockholm syndrome is a condition where victims who are hostages develop positive feelings for their abusers or return back to them even.Although a bit controversial, research has shown that as a part of human survival techniques many victims of abuse especially women go back or display positive relationship with perpetrators of abuse. This happens primarily because they get emotionally dependent for things like food, shelter etc on their abusers.In case of narcissistic parents who dont accept their children, the child develops ‘coming back’ as a defence mechanism as in your case because you need them to pay fees etc. You need to be a little pragmatic about this.If you cant get monetary help outside, be in touch with them but keep away from their company on an hourly basis. Engage yourself in socially benign activities outside, staying away from home, returning only during meal or nighttime so that you stay away from abuse.Build your self worth by doing things outside so that you can assert yourself. If that is not possible call over a friend or friends so that they abstain from abuse.Once you are educated enough to be independent, stay away from their behaviors. Mind one thing that abused people become abusers so if you ingest their toxic behavior you may even bring it out on a future child or mate. This is not to scare you but keeping distance is the only option as you are dependent on them for money. Take care.
Emotionally abusive boyfriend and I ca'nt get out..HELP.?
HELP! I don't know what to do about my boyfriend. He never listens to me when I have problem. He just turns it around and makes whatever problem I have into his problem and makes the BIGGEST deals out of nothing. It's gotten to the point where he'll yell at me and just put me down for hours at a time with none stop phone calls. Then after, he'll act like none of it happened and he goes back to not being mad. But if I start to cry or talk about how hurt I am by the things that he says to me (i.e. calls me very bad names, says vulgar things about me, says horrible things about my family), he won't listen to them and instanly gets upset. I don't understand how he can be an amazing boyfriend one second, and the next a complete and totally emotionally abusive prick. andfor some reason I can't make myself break up with him and it's just so hard that I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm downing with no way out. HELP ANYONE>
Can CPS take away children if their parents emotionally abuse them (e.g name-calling, bullying, and body shaming)?
Probably not; emotional abuse is not the same as physical. Would kids want to live without parents? If you mom called you names would you leave her? Kids may tell them to stop name-calling. I do not understand why people can be so weak? Shame on you if your mom is rude and cusses. It is still your mom. What if she is mentally ill? I do not know why some people think that they can choose parents? If they are unfit to be parents and kids are not fed and etc. then it is still does not make them completely abusive; if they lock kids in the barn and do not feed them for weeks and beat them then it is another thing? But if they are cussing at them then how do you know why are they angry at kids? Do not judge without knowing. Could some kids be abusive and too demanding that parents end up being angry at them? You will not take away a child from parents if they cussed at their own kid but did not hit him. I never heard that emotional abuse is a reason to take anybody away from their parents. Unless kids are seriously suffering from it I would not interfere with families. Is this culture like a police state where people can get arrested just for words?