My best friend is hanging out with the wrong crowd?
Ok, so my best friend and I have kinda had rocky times lately. She has a best friend from a long time ago, and they're still pretty close, but OFTEN they get mad at eachother and dont talk for awhile, then go back to being friends, but they're slowly growing apart I think. But now that we're having rocky times, shes hanging out with her old best friend more, and her old best friend hangs out with the wrong crowd. As far as I know, her other best friend doesnt seem like someone who would do drugs, and I dont think she has, but the people she hangs out with definetly have. I think if her old best friend continues to hang out with these people, she soon wont be any better than them. I dont think my best friend would still be friends with her if she started doing bad stuff, but I'm not entirely sure. And if she keeps hanging out with her and her crowd, than she could become bad. I really care about her and dont want her to be around people like that, but I cant stop her from hanging out with them. Help?
Why do groups of 3 friends never work?
Two's a company, three's a crowd is a famous saying; and unfortunately through experience I have come to realise that it is true. Groups of friends consisting of three members never seem to last long and it always ends up with someone feeling left out.. At work I ended up being friends with these two girls.. now i knew one of them before the other BUT the minute this other girl comes in, lets call her kate, she automaically seems to have ALOT more in common with my other friend then me! now were all friends.. somewhat but kate is friends with "us" because of her.. and im friends with kate because of my other friend. I always seem to find that ANY time I become good friends with 3 people someone always ends up feeling left out or becoming jellous and leaving the "group" i mean even on the hills (for those of you who watch that show) Audrina was friends with Lauren and LO is friends with lauren, lo and Lauren have more in common then Audrina, Audrina feels left out and starts to spend less time with them... and thats a very similar situation im in!!
I think my friend hangs out with the "wrong crowd"?
At school I have a group of about 10 best friends, and one of them (lets call her Amy) seems to be hanging out with the wrong crowd. I'm 14 but Amy and most of my other friends are 13. When Amy's at school she hangs out with me and all my other friends. But at home she hangs around with chavs, even though I live just as near to her. I know this will sound really harsh and judgemental but these are the reasons I don't like her when she's at home, and why I don't like her friends that she hangs around with at home: - she gets drunk quite a lot, with her mum's permission, but she's 13 ffs. - her friends are either fat or have greasy hair. I feel physically sick when I see them. [I know I sound horrible for saying that...] - she's really narrow minded about gay people and stuff (although she's like that at school too :/ ) - she's not very intelligent anyway, but she doesn't spend long on homework. - she has had 5 boyfriends in 2 months. AND the boy she's with now is one of my best friends so I don't want to see him get hurt, BUT I know she barely likes him. I know we're still young for relationships and stuff, but it should still mean something, right? - her friends are the type who like to ***** and go out looking for arguments. -she spends ages on her makeup I wrote some really mean stuff up there, and I know that's bad but I wouldn't say it to their faces. I just feel uncomfortable about the stuff she gets up to, and it seems bad because I know she has the potential to be so nice and do so much... Anyways, what do I do? Tell me if I'm just being stupid. All opinions appreciated :)
Why do groups of 3 friends never work?
Why do groups of 3 friends never work? Two's a company, three's a crowd is a famous saying; and unfortunately through experience I have come to realise that it is true. Groups of friends consisting of three members never seem to last long and it always ends up with someone feeling left out.. At work I ended up being friends with these two girls.. now i knew one of them before the other BUT the minute this other girl comes in, lets call her kate, she automaically seems to have ALOT more in common with my other friend then me! now were all friends.. somewhat but kate is friends with "us" because of her.. and im friends with kate because of my other friend. I always seem to find that ANY time I become good friends with 3 people someone always ends up feeling left out or becoming jellous and leaving the "group" i mean even on the hills (for those of you who watch that show) Audrina was friends with Lauren and LO is friends with lauren, lo and Lauren have more in common then Audrina, Audrina feels left out and starts to spend less time with them... and thats a very similar situation im in!!
My best friend has left me for the "popular crowd"?
Ah, I see. Yeah, this is a b*stard. It happend to me at some point when I used to go to High School. And no denying, I cant lie, I did it. I dont know why I did it, I suppose it was because, I wanted to be looked up at. I didnt want people looking down on me, and that girl who people just laugh at. I thought that, once I got popular, whatever I'd do, people would love and respect and compliment. Because I thought when I wasnt popular, people would just laugh and snigger at what I do, because I'm not in the popular crowd. I tried for 2 years to be populor. But it was hard for me because I didnt feel confident with how I looked and a shy person. In year 9, I had the chance to be populor. I left my best friend for them. Me and the "popular" crowd were best friend for about 5 - 7 months, and it was going really well. But High school is a b*tch, and some lies come between us. Untrue stories. So the popular crowd basicly told me where to shove it. I went running back to my best friend, and luckily she took me back. What I just said makes me sound like a real b*tch. But I realised how much of a t*at I had been. I still wanted to be populor, but by the time we got to year 11, I realised, it doesnt matter the f*ckinel you hang around with. I dont live to please. Anyone can think what they want. If I wanna scream, I'll scream. No one can tell me what to do. And thats what will happen to your friend. She'll realise WHEN the popular crowd tell her where to shove it, she'll come back to you, and she'll realise how much of a tit she's been. I've changed since High School now. It's being a really big lesson for me in life. I dont care who I hang around with. I'm actully really loud now, and talk a lot. And I've met up with people from the internet (dangerous, but I'm a risktaker) and I've been really loud with them and talked a lot to them. I've met up with them by myself, which is dangerous as well but... When I went to taster day at college I made 4 new friends n_n Good luck anyway, remember. She's not the only friend you have x
Is having a few bad friends better than having no friends at all?
Honestly, I'm in the same situation now. I had a horrible group of friends at high school and they were forever back stabbing each other, and me in the back. But what I did is wait until the first opportunity to try and loose them as friends and make new ones, which is maybe what you should do if they bother you. I am off to college after summer, the college none of them are going to, so I want to have a fresh start. As I said before, my advice is wait till you can leave then, then start again, sounds harsh but its what I did.
How do I stop being friends with someone I see everyday?
You could make your interaction a little more formal. Be polite, smile and quickly move on. If you share a class just don't sit near.However….Think about this too…..This person is clearly troubled. Is it possible they have picked up seriously bad habits and a crappy approach to life from dysfunctionall parents? Is this person actually trying to impress and be accepted in a twisted way? Is this person just trying to fit in with a bad group and this type of behaviour is the ticket?There will be definite reasons why this behaviour is occuring. Yes it is extreme and very toxic. If this person doesn't get this under control then they are heading into a very messed up and difficult life.Could you possibly have it in you to investigate deeper and try to discover why the person is the way they are? Then maybe try to show them that? Is it possible the person needs saving from a bad crowd? And just needs a better quality friend to guide them?Could this end up being you?Anyway,Hope this helpedBasil SimonMusical life coach
My brother has a bad friend circle and they are into drugs. How do I save him from the potential harm? He doesn't listen to anybody in my family and has quite a knack of teenage rage.
Sadly, you don’t…You can try, but once someone falls in with a bad crowd the only way they leave it is by deciding to themselves. Now your parents could move the whole family someplace else, but he would likely just find the same group of people, just with new names (“water seeks its own level”).I have seen this for years when students transfer into my school district. The troublemakers rapidly make friends with the troublemakers already present in the school and vice versa for most of the good kids.Don’t give up on him, but also recognize that he is making his own choices and the consequences of those choices need to be his to bear, and his alone. ABOVE ALL, PLEASE KEEP YOURSELF AND THE REST OF YOUR FAMILY SAFE! DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SHARE CONFIDENTIAL INFORMATION WITH POLICE IF YOU KNOW CRIMINAL ACTIVITY IS TAKING PLACE. Yes, I know some will say no to that last bit. Your opinion is free to be different than mine.