How Do You Put Something Troubling Behind You

Why is it so hard to put past things behind you?

We are “simple creatures” Our matter, the fuel driving us is the desire to receive pleasures, happiness. Thus we are constantly, intinctively drawn towards the source of pleasures, happiness.When we do not find them in the present or there is no pleasure, happiness attracting us from the future we turn to the past. The past is like a “bank” where previous good memories, warm feelings are stored, thus we can always return to that bank when the present or future looks bleak.The solution is finding worthwhile purposes, goals attracting us forward so we do not sink into the past. And the easiest way of finding aspirations, goals pulling us forward is entering, and mutually contributing to a positive, purposeful, mutually supportive environment.Life And Pleasure, Part 1 | Laitman.comBuilding An Environment For Everyone | Laitman.com

I have something in my mind that keeps bothering me all the time. How do I get to the core of this unknown problem?

My dear friend why are you worrying. What makes you feel bad? It’s not your mind bro. It’s you troubling your life yourself. Let me ask you is if your mind works without your existence? No, your mind doesn’t work without your existence. Will it work when you die? No absolutely no. It’s you who creating all negative thoughts in your mind and bothering yourself. There is nothing Impossible. Everything is possible in this world. You can Ignore the Problems and You can be aware of the negative thoughts. when you follow good habits and when you know how to think and when you know how to place your thoughts and when you know how to understand. Dear friend, you can feel some thoughts will be coming That makes you feel bad and Reduce Your Productiveness. Thoughts will come according to the way you understand.I can Tell the possible steps to achieve positiveness1.) Think In such a way that You Understand Clarity2.) Consider only Positive Aspects of any person or thing.3.) Involve in work that gives you happier and Joy.4.) Think Spiritually5.) Believe Yourself and Have faith On yourself6.) Keep working On your way of understanding.Another Possible method That make You Feel Better1.) You can try MeditationMeditation that makes self-focus on your Thoughts and makes you understand clearly. That makes you think in a such a way that Makes You develop every day.Steps You need to take while doing meditationDo Meditation twice for a day. Do one morning and another one in evening.Focus on your breathing. Control of your breathing makes you control on your thoughts.Don’t allow unnecessary thoughts allow the thoughts which make an impact on your way of living, thinking, regarding self-development.My dear friend doesn't feel sad when These unnecessary thoughts come to your mind. Be Strong. Cultivate yourself by allowing thoughts which are necessary.Cultivate Yourself with positive emotions and feelings.Change your life style. Don’t be alone Mingle with friends, Roam with them and Enjoy the Life.Allow people to your life and make yourself strong.God has given only one life Why you spending time with unnecessary things.Just get Clarity on your negative thoughts. Work on your negative thoughts why they are coming. Take a paper write all the thoughts and problems which are coming to your mind. The next moment on wards you will start thinking clearly.

What does a person gain by troubling another person, will there be any particular reason behind this?

Troubling other person is of 2 types as i know:Unintentional: For this there won’t be much reasons as such. Even the person who troubled will realize it afterwards only.Intentional: This will have different reasons, taking grudge or revenge. Now it’s hard to tell why they built up a revenge. Few other reasons will be like, people trouble/tease their loved ones. :P If you hurt their friends then they might want to do the same to you when time comes.Psychic disorder or bad fun.So on….Answer to your question, in 1st scenario the person will get nothing but regret.2nd scenario, the person will be happy. Feels relaxed. Or Fun.Thanks

What is something you want to "get off your chest"?

I got gang raped.Gang. Raped.I'm going to give some details… so I guess trigger warningI went to a fish market with my uncle and grandma. My grandma is old and can't walk very well so I was waiting with her for my uncle to get some fish. This huge man comes and picks me up from behind. I'm pretty strong, but this man was much stronger. He grabbed me and ran as I screamed for my uncle to help me. He came too late.So. The big man “A”The other men are “B” “C” and “D”A grabbed me and brought me to a cornerB C D take turns throwing me against a fence as they all undress. They all are on me at the same time. One would be one my face making me suck his dick. One would be masturbating on my chest. One would be doing whatever he wanted on my vagina. One would be holding down my legs.They tied down my arms above my head, stripped me naked, did their rotations, and broke my ankle.I kept squirming so they punched me, gagged me, and stabbed right below my ribcage with a knife. I stopped moving and they rotated a few times. When they were done, about and hour later, they tied to me to fence.They would grab me from behind, touch all over me, cum on me, and then forced me to masturbate. They stuck their fingers up my vagina, put their dicks in my mouth. They made me masturbate on the floor, and then would smack me with their dicks wherever they felt like it.It was torturous. I was in so much pain. They ran Away. The police were searching everywhere, and then one found me on the floor behind a trashcan in an alley. They took me to a hospital, and it gave me so much emotional trauma.Right now, a year later, I am crying in my room, too scared to go anywhere, ripping at my thighs and stomach with a blade. Burning with lighters. I never told anyone else. The only people that know is my grandma, uncle, mom, and dad. I'm too scared to tell anyone.