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How Doni Get My Neohew Back From The Adoptive Family

Adoption when you're only 18?

The answer is no.

The fact that you think you're prepared to adopt a child when you are a child yourself, and have never had a child and don't have a partner, already disqualifies you. Foster children often come from severe, abusive, neglective, and tragic backgrounds, and will deal with trauma from these experiences for the rest of their lives. You clearly have not had any real life experiences or done any research about this. Very few people who have had kids, are married and have been preparing for a long time are successful when adopting a child--what makes you think you can give them a proper home? Adopting a child is not like adopting a pet--this is a living, often injured human being who will need intensive care, safety and stability to succeed in life, and, even in the best circumstances, have higher chances of having or developing critical, debilitating mental illness. By thinking you can provide them with everything they need, you've already proven you can't.

Can i adopt my nephews from Mexico?

From your end, the Mexican consulate closest to you will be a good place to start.
There is an attorney on staff there who deals specifically in family matters and who can act as a liaison to the DIF in your sister's city. It would be best to visit the consular attorney in person.

You can also get some background from the "Legal Assistance and Adoptions" section of

Your sister is the one who really needs to assert her rights and the rights of her kids. DIF maintains family-violence programs for that purpose and abusive husbands have been sent to jail as a result. The hardest part is in getting the battered wife to file the complaint. Aunts and uncles don't have much legal standing in this case but, if you can convince the consular attorney with some hard evidence, he or she will be able to ask the DIF to send a social worker to your sister's house to report on the conditions.

Why won't my adopted family accept me?

There are a few things you need to consider -
Siblings fight. Even if your brother was your biological brother, you would probably fight and he would probably say the same things to you.
Teenagers seldom get on with their families - whether they are adopted or not. Most teenagers believe everyone is picking on them and treating them unfairly - that has nothing to do with being adopted.
Have you ever wondered if maybe you react differently to your relatives than your brother does? I don't mean you are doing anything wrong, but maybe they just get on better with your brother. Again, this may have nothing to do with you being adopted. We all have people who we get on with better, and some who we just can't relate to. This doesn't have to have anything to do with whether or not you ar biologically related.
Is there a reason your brother got a laptop and you didn't? Perhaps he had previously told them he needed a laptop for school work?

You might be right - they might be treating you differently because you are not biologically related. But there is far more chance that they are reacting to the way you behave around them. The nicer you are to them, the more difficult it will be for them to not be nice back.

A2A. While adoption of a child by members of the extended family is a preferable arrangement to a child being placed in foster care, I do not believe that the situation as described in the question comments is one in which adoption is a justifiable consideration.In matters of considering economic justifications for placing a child up for adoption, there is a clear line between a child being born into abject poverty and one who merely represents financial inconvenience for an otherwise intact family. The question details suggest this situation is more the latter case, and there are many alternative paths to resolution here such as working with a financial counselor to establish a budget by which this family can learn to support three children within its current level of means.If this child goes on to be adopted by an uncle and aunt, then yes, there will probably be much in the way of resentment from all involved parties later down the road: The child will resent his/her bio-parents for being given up over something as simple as money while still providing for the older twin siblings. If the birth parents’ financial situation improves and they suddenly decide they can reasonably support the third child, there is the anguish to consider from both birth parents who want to bring their child back, as well as from the avuncular/amicular figures who have bonded to their nephew/niece as parents in kind.Adoption should not be a consideration to take lightly in this case, no matter how appealing it seems in the short term as a resolution.

Do you get more/less $ back for claiming ur ADOPTED child on ur taxes vs ur BIOLOGICAL one? What determines this difference if there is one?

It's the same for each child regardless of how you're related to them and even if you aren't. You have to have provided 50% of their support for at least 6 months.

Biological children
Adopted children
Foster children
Step children
Other minors in the home who you've supported (bf/gf's kids, siblings, nieces/nephews).

Newborns/infants under 6 months old can be a gray area, especially in foster care.

As for step children it can vary based on a child custody agreement sometimes parents rotate years of who can claim the child.

I can but generally do not claim my foster kids on my income taxes. Despite not having financially supported the kids the entire year, it's pretty common for a biological parent to try and claim then and it becomes a hassle if they claim them before you file.

My husband and I though don't get an income tax return. He has a high salary and we generally have to pay in.

What does Islam say about adoption?Please quote the Quran?

Of Course Adoption is ALLOWED in Islam
In the Holy Quran Allah Says: {Worship Allâh and join none with Him (in worship). and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al-Masâkin (the poor), the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily, Allâh does not like such as are proud and boastful;}[4: 36].
This shows how caring we should be towards orphans.
The Prophet said: "I and the person who looks after an orphan and provides for him, will be in Paradise like this, "putting his index and middle fingers together".
Among the best and loveliest house of Muslims near Allah is a house in which an orphan lives and the householders deal with him kindly and respectfully.
The Prophet said: "The best house of Muslims is the house where an orphan lives in kindness and respect. The worst house of Muslims is the house where an orphan lives and he is ill-treated".

And If by adoption you mean the adopting parent may claim the child as his *natural born child*, such practice is forbidden in Islam. Allah Says: {Allâh has not put for any man two hearts inside his body. Neither has He made your wives whom you declare to be like your mothers' backs, your real mothers. [Az­Zihâr is the saying of a husband to his wife, "You are to me like the back of my mother" i.e. You are unlawful for me to approach.], nor has He made your adopted sons your real sons. That is but your saying with your mouths. But Allâh says the truth, and He guides to the (Right) Way. }[33: 4].

Allah establishes in this Ayah that adopting a child does not make him child of the one who adopts him and that this practice does not have any weight in Sharia.

In the following Ayah, Allah commands the Muslims to trace back every child to his original father. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allâh. But if you know not their father's (names, call them) your brothers in faith and Mawâlîkum (your freed slaves). And there is no sin on you if you make a mistake therein, except in regard to what your hearts deliberately intend. And Allâh is Ever Oft­Forgiving, Most Merciful.}[33: 5].

I really hope its clear to you. Adoption is highly encouraged in Islam.

Rest Allah knows the best ~!

How long does it take to do a kinship adoption?

This depends on what state you are from actually, however, in NJ when Children Protective Services are doing the adoption they have something called the adoption consent that needs to be completed, as well as a six month period where the child must be placed in your home before the adoption may be finalized. Also the parental rights need to be either terminated or surrendered. There are two surrenders a parent can do, either a general which allows the child to be legally free for the adoption agency to look for a forever home, or, the birth parents can do an Identified Surrender where they name the people they would like to adopt theirr children. With an Identified Surrender if theindividualss identified do NOT adopt the birth parents rights are reinstated and the process begins again.

Your adoption caseworker should walk you through the process, it takes some time but in the long run you are giving your nephew a home he will be grateful for in the future! Good Luck!!