AFGHAN GIRL SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!?
Hi, I'm Afghan (also living in Canada) and I believe this post is a complete hoax - but it case it isn't let me just explain a few things to you. No one in Canada is going to come to your house the day after your wedding to "check" - not your Khalas or your in-laws. No one in my family did this when I was married nor have I ever heard of this happening here. Secondly, most Afghan men who grew up here are not stupid enough to believe that you will actually remain a virgin when you marry. Most of my guy friends and relatives accept this. Finally, in the future, don't jump into having an intimate relationship with someone after only knowing him for one month. I'm not at all criticizing your choice, I just know that most guys in general (not just Middle Easterns/Afghans) will be turned off if you give up too quickly. Don't stress, and live your life.
AFGHAN GIRL SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!?
Do what women have done for centuries in such situations. Get a little balloon of blood, drain some blood from some meat into it, and stick it up yourself on your wedding night. Be sure it pops inside you or keep a pin nearby to pop it. Get your husband to finish quickly so he doesn't notice anything. Yup, that's actually what women did for centuries and probably still do in many cultures that still have such oppressive religions. Good luck. Another option would be to see a plastic surgeon in the USA, to do a vaginal rejuvenation for your hymen. This is also done quite frequently, wealthy girls from Muslim families fly here to have it done and then fly home, in secrecy.
I'm in love with a girl in Afghanistan and I don't know what to do?
This is such a sad story.. I don't have anything in my mind right now about what you can do but I will force my mind to give you a solution. It's really heart breaking to see what happens in some parts of the world. :( I wish you best of luck and do NOT give up! 1st edit: Thanks for the thumbs down! 2nd edit: I've got some ideas, you could arrange with her dad to wait for you. Your idea of saying you are from Kabul is good one. What you need to do is to move for some time there. If you have some relatives move with them. Say you don't want to EVER return to US and convince them you didn't lost your roots. After this spend some time there with her (as married) and finally say you got a very good job in another country. It doesn't have to be US, could be some other Muslim country. I'm sure after you gained their trust they will not question this decision of yours. I'm not very sure how things go there in Afghanistan but this is my idea. Now think very well, are you ready to do this for someone you talked 45mins and seen in a picture?
My wife wants to leave me while im deployed in afghanistan@! Help?
Seems a bit mean of the best friend to try to turn your wife against you so soon after your wedding in such circumstances. However, there is little you can do from your current location, and this unwanted distraction from your day to day work in Afghanistan is not going to help you or your comrades... Write her a letter detailing how you feel about her, and that you were not aware of how strongly she felt about the issues she has brought up, but how you would like to sit down with her when you get back as it is not the ideal way to discuss such matters of the heart. Oh, remind her of the vows you both took and that you are adhering to each one and hope she is too. You may just find (and I think) that with you not around it is back to the 'girls on tour' lifestyle which at the moment she sees you as the thing keeping her from. truth is she'll probably get bored very quickly of the party and club scene and realise what she really wants is to settle down with you on your return. good luck!! x
How common is divorce in Afghanistan? Why?
Understandably, it is extremely uncommon and the divorce rate is too low, unfortunately for women and girls. Why?The following are the reasons why divorce rate is very low.In Afghan society, a divorce is a difficult process - especially for the women. And marriages are supposed to last for life, even when a marriage fail. Dozens of women in Afghanistan kill themselves each year to escape failed, and often violent, marriages (Sieff, 2012).Divorced women are viewed with disapproval, are thought to bring bad luck, and are look down up by not only their community members but also their own family members (Kakar, 2013). A 35-year-old divorced woman was disowned by her own father (Motevalli, 2009).Divorce destroys a woman’s reputation. Divorce brings shame to woman's family and her entire tribe. Thus, women are encouraged by her family members to quietly and dutifully accept their fate. On the other hand, women endure and manage still to be in abusive relationships are often praised by other female relatives. They are viewed as loyal and strong (Kakar, 2013).A MAN'S LAWMoreover, a man can divorce without needing his wife's agreement. But for a woman who seeks a divorce, under the Afghan law, she has to have the approval of her husband and needs witnesses who can testify in court that the divorce is justified (Motevalli, 2009).So good for men but too bad for women and girlsI think it is so good to be a man in Afghan society, but too bad to be a girl, or a woman.Thanks for asking me. I had no idea about it before and I had to read some articles and I wrote this answer.ReferencesKakar, S. W. (2013). To Be Divorced — and Disgraced — in Afghanistan. A Safe World for Women. Retrieved on August 15, 2014, from http://www.asafeworldforwomen.org/safe-world-blogs/pvp/4441-to-be-divorced.htmlMotevalli, G. (2009). Divorce, suicide; ‘Hell’ in Herat. Retrieved on August 15, 2014, from Divorce, suicide; ‘Hell’ in HeratSieff, K. (2012). Afghanistan: Where women have no choice. The Week, December 17, 2012. Retrieved on August 15, 2014, from Afghanistan: Where women have no choice
An Afghan guy wanna date me. I am not from Afghanistan but I like him. Should I worry or should I accept?
First, I don’t think you have to worry so much if he is a ‘terrorist’ or not. Of course it’s possible, but most guys trying to date a woman outside of Afghanistan are less likely to be Taliban.The big deals you have to look out for are Visa, Respect and Culture.The first one is simple. Loads of Afghans are desperately searching for a way out of Afghanistan. Marrying someone from a freer country is one way out. Be careful that this is not all he is looking for.Respect. This has a little to do with culture. A lot of Afghan guys have been brought up in a quite specific view of the world where women are seen as less important than men. (I do NOT mean every Afghan, of course there are great Afghan guys, but often those are more educated, with exposure outside of the unchallenged ideas in a male dominated insular religous culture). Inherent in this is the idea that women are almost worth less than men. In this mindset Especially foreign women can be used for sex, without the need for respect. A lot of Afghan men (uneducated) that I have met think that what they see in porn defines western women. ie ‘Western women must all love kinky sex like the porn actors we see’. Be careful of the guy who does not see you as worth the same as a man. It will be hard to work that out at first because of course he will say that he totally respects you. Just keep this in mind as you communicate with him and watch how he talks about women.Culture. If you are from a culture that is quite removed from Afghanistan/Iran/The Middle East then you really need to understand Afghan culture before you step into dating an Afghan man (if this is a serious thing for you). The culture in this part of the world has strong expectations of the roles of men and women. I know of Western women who have married Afghan men and they were great men in these cases. But it is a very difficult adjustment for a Western (or similar culture) woman to try and fit in with expectations around hospitality, family, a wife’s role, and religion that comes from being brought up in Afghanistan.Also be careful that he is not already married (organised marriage without choice) and just wants to dump her and get away.Any Afghans please feel free to respond and disagree/agree with me or tell me what you think.
How can I meet an Afghani Hindu or Sikh and ask how life back in Afghanistan is?
There is an annual afghan cultural festival held in London every time I go I always meet Hindus and Sikhs from Afghanistan they are very proud to be afghans. Afghan Cultural Festival I'm not sure when the next one is because they had one a few weeks ago.You might also enjoy watching this documentary of an afghan sikh who lives in nethetlands and travels to Afghanistan. MISSION AFGHANISTAN | Documentary Film HD