Too self conscious for sex?
That is so normal. I remember standing naked infront of a guy for the first time and I felt horribly ugly, my thighs were albino white and my boobs were tiny and pointy and everything just looked SO wrong and not at all like what magazines/tv tells us is sexy. 6 years later and I would live naked infront of my husband, body confidence comes with age and practice, I think. I mean, it is the first time you are getting naked for anyone probably since before you hit puberty. Its a major thing but I doubt any guy has ever run scared, they probably have hang-ups too.
Why am I not self conscious about my body but about my intelligence?
I’ll introduce you to the idea of the identity as “a bucket of concepts.” Human beings have psycho-mechanical processes which attempt to define, stabilize, and validate the ego or identity. You can think of this like a bucket, where we sort through all the different facts, choosing certain ones to be “the meaning of I”.If a fact gets chosen, it goes into the bucket which defines “me”, “I”, or “myself” in the mind’s schema of reality. So for example, I’m an engineer, and the machine says “oh! that’s important, we’ll put that in the bucket of me-ness”. But I also have 10 fingers. It does not consider that important, so if I lose a finger that’s not changing my self-definition.If you examine the rules which sort things into “in the bucket” and “not in the bucket”, you will find that they’re incoherent. You can analyze them to death, and you’ll never find some deep truth which sets up these rules and verifies that they’re correct. They’re “constructed” — i.e. “selected with a high degree of arbitrary choices” by social norms and similarly ungrounded phenomena.This causes an unconscious anxiety for anyone with a modicum of self-awareness: we suspect, without quite understanding our suspicions, that there’s “something off” about our self-definitions. It’s one of 3 things that I call “the Dreaded De-s”. The Dreaded De’s are “deconstruction”, “debunking”, and “devaluation.” They’re the Death-Eaters to the human identity — the things that the mind fears most, regarding the meaning it has poured into the bucket-of-concepts that we call “my identity.”Deconstruction refers to this business about the rules which determine what defines us. Debunking refers to whether or not the contents of the bucket are actually true — like “are you faking it?” Devaluation refers to whether or not the contents of the bucket are valuable and worthy (i.e. high or low self-esteem).The ego maintenance machinery fears the Dreaded De-s, and is constantly playing games with the contents of the bucket to try to protect it from devaluation, debunking, and deconstruction.In your case, the machine has chosen “intelligent” for the bucket, but not “body shape”. So it’s nervous that you might be called dumb, but it doesn’t care if you’re called weak. Go figure!
I'm really self conscious about my body?
So I have been looking at other questions like this and everyone I see they all have pictures of them self and all the girls are dead skinny have a nice body and really pretty. Me on the other hand i'm like fat i'm 14 and i find it impossible to lose weight when i'm at school i feel HUGE! and i feel as if everyone is staring at me and judging my body and the way i look i have really low self esteem i can't eat in front of people at all unless it's my family i don't eat at school i'm super self conscious and i hate it when people call me fat and say there joking cause i take it to heart. last year i got picked to do running for sports day and i was so embarrassed of knowing almost everyone in school would be watching me i'm not even that fast i don't know why i was picked for it plus i was up against really fast runners i knew i'd come last and i'd just want to hide away in a hole so i told my mum i was ill and got the day off thank god but when i was telling josh my now bf he said no u should u need the exorcise i felt like dying inside. He said he was joking but yeah i'm really sensitive. One of my best friends is a guy called lewis he's kind of new to our school he's been there for about 6 month i would say and before he moved here i seen his pictures and he used to be MASSIVE! and now he's as skinny as a stick i'm like wth o.o all my friends have lost their puppy fat and are dead skinny where i'm just fat :/ i hate people looking at me and sometimes i just want to just cry because i'm tired of looking like me i deleted all my pictures of my self off facebook i only have ones from when i was like 5 I refuse to have any of my pictures taking at school. In just want to be skinny and pretty v_v
I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I'm so self conscious about my body?
Don't worry about being a little overweight hun. Find some lingerie that makes you feel sexy; that draws attention to your great curves. It'll give you more confidence and he'll find you even sexier than he already does.
Why am i so Self-conscious about my smell?
I have no body smell, if it's anything, it's in a good way because of shampoo and soap. But I'm really self-conscious being near people or walking past them like going between 2 people in a room or class desks because I'm scared I smell bad. But I've asked everyone and I have no smell, I don't understand, how do I stop this?
I want to have sex, but im self conscious!?
alright so me and my boyfriend have been talking about sex for a while, but im just really self conscious about my body. well not necessarily my body, but more my boobs! they're not big at all, and yeah. do guys care alot about that? I kind of want to keep my bra on, but theres no way he'd want to. :/
I'm really self conscious about my body and am having sex tomorrow, how can i get over this?
I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time about 2 weeks ago and i haven't since then as I have been busy with work. I'm seeing him tomorrow and I'm sure that we'll have sex as we both really want to. The problem that I have is that I don't like the way I look out of my underwear, I like my legs and stomach but that's all that i really have going for me. Last time we had sex it was in the dark so he couldn't really see anything, but tomorrow it will be in the middle of the day. I've never liked my boobs as I think they're too small and I have inverted nipples, nobody has ever seen them before and I don't know how he'd react to this. And men these days watch so much porn and no women on porn seem to have inverted nipples, I'm so insecure about them. I know that he likes me for who I am but It still gets me down. I don't want my self consciousness to get in the way of us having sex tomorrow. Is there anything that I can do to stop feeling this way or to sort of forget about it during sex? Any advice you can give me would be much appreciated. Thank you.
I'm self conscious of moles on my body. Are most peopled disgusted by these?
I've got tons of moles, big ones, small ones, sticky out ones and flat ones. They've always been there and I've never had a problem with them. I've had quite a few boyfriends and they haven't said anything so I presume it wasn't a problem. The only problem I've really had with them is when I go to the hairdressers, sometimes those nasty rough ladies scrape the bush over a sticky out one on my neck. Now that hurts, I can tell you!