Should I withdraw funds from my 401K?
I messed up on my state taxes (OK) and now owe them about 800 dollars from last year. The payments they are requesting are going to put an extreme financial hardship on my income. I was thinking about just withdrawing the funds to pay it off from my 401K. I just started it less than a year ago and probably have just enough in there to pay my state tax debt. I'm not positive but I think my funds are taken out of my paycheck after taxes so I believe I wouldn't have to pay the tax on it next tax season. Also, my husband has a retirement plan. I could always continue with my plan, I would just be starting over.
Why am I so asocial and withdrawn?
i utterly understand you. We have a quite similar situation. I'm a totally asocial, solitary person just like you, and i was taking anti-depressant medicine for two years as well.i understand that feeling. Most of the time, we enjoy being alone, i don't know you, but i really get huge satisfaction by solitary. Engaging to social activities makes me uncomfortable and unease. i only can get peace when i’m alone.That's my most of the time feeling, however occasionally i do feel lonely. it's unavoidable, because I'm a human, and loneliness is a sense of human nature that everyone can't avoid, especially while being trapped into a difficult circumstances.You said you’re very content with no friends. i don't think so, because if you really content with that, you weren't ask this question. So i would venture to guess that actually you don't fully satisfied with yourself.For me, because of severe depression, i was told by my therapist to open my heart and integrate with the crowd. i did tried, believe me, i tried my best to leave my comfortable zone and make friends. i put a fake smile while i talked to people, managed to assume an air of calm… Even so, i can't pretend myself i’m happy. No matter what i did, my extremely introverted disposition may never alter.So i gave up eventually. i don't wanna do anything that run counter to my real happiness and inner peace just for catering to the crowd. What's the point if you satisfy others instead of losing your real satisfaction? So i started to learning how to accept the real me with extremely introverted, asocial personality.Here’s my advice. Accept and embrace yourself, even you are totally different from the others. it's okay to be different, don't be to harsh on yourself. And when you feel alone, just learn to get used to it, try to take it as your friend and get along with loneliness and helplessness with a tranquil attitude.I really wish both of us can find the real satisfaction eventually.
How do I stop being withdrawn, distant, and depressed?
Hey there! Thanks for the A2A.I feel that a little bit more of context on your situation would have helped me give me a more perfect and a tailor made answer for you.In this case I will make a few assumptions. What I can sense is that you have had a couple of really bad experiences especially related to people. Now, you are hurt, can’t trust them anymore, or they don’t trust you anymore and you can’t include yourself with any circle of friends, family etc.Let me do some perspective shift for you now. The most productive people, the people who make things happen, the winners among us do what is needed. Not what they like, not what they are comfortable doing. But, what is needed in their situation. I have a problem with all those people who identify themselves as being a particular pattern of personality. When you do that, you put a big road-block in the direction of your success. If I take myself as an example, I am neither an introvert nor an extrovert. When the situation demands that I be an extrovert, I will be an extrovert. When it demands that I be silent, I will be an introvert. Period. So simple to make such decisions. In your case, you should stop being a particular way and start becoming what you are needed to be!Hope that helps! :)__Free uplifting content in the form of comics: BeZeroWanna hire me as your coach/counselor? Write to: dirttodiamond007@gmail.com
Scorpio expressed his feelings but now withdrawn?
He feels as though he's now told you too much and is keeping quiet to further avoid feeling vulnerable or giving you more to use against him later. It's a defense mechanism, but if you keep proving yourself trustworthy then he will express more and withdraw less. Don't press him about being withdrawn, act like it doesn't exist and just be happy that he expressed anything to you at all. It's a big deal for him.