In a note you leave behind to loved ones when you choose to end it by suicide what can you say to make it as gentle and easy for them as possible?
There is no real easy way to answer that, depending on the situation. I personally am in favor of it, since I am more of a let a person decide their fate, and being a non religious person< i am going to render my thoughts. here we go:Tell them that it was something that was needed, and that even though you won’t be amongst the living anymore, that their live helped you be at ease with yourself, and feel at peace. Tell them that even though they grieve, it wasn’t their fault, and that they shouldn’t feel guilty, and that your leaving this earth was for peace with yourself, and you want them to move on, and are proud of them, and know they will do well in the future, and whenever they feel sad, that posthumously, you will be there for them in their time of need. Hope this helps.
How do I deal with leaving my little sister behind to go to college.?
When you go off to college, try to call her whenever you can. Hopefully atleast once a day. When I was five my brother went off to university and it hurt a lot. I lived in a family where verbal and physical abuse happened a lot and was typical around the house. My brother was the only one who cared and tried to take the beats for me. He always had my back through everything. He would call me before I went to sleep every night for 5 years until he came back home. It was truly something that helped both of us deal with it. Send her a little gift here and there or something. My brother always sent me my favourite toys in the mail (: I'm not saying there is any abuse in your family, but just the burden of missing eachother. Call her before she goes to bed and send her gifts every other month or so. It'll really help get over the fact that you're gone and put her in a better state of mind to carry on through the day, it'll also help you too. Good luck and hope all goes well! (:
How do you deal with the loneliness of leaving loved ones behind when you travel often?
When you travel you not only leave family, friends and significant others. You also miss temporarily your culture. It can be quite hard to be disconnected abroad and separated with the languages and customs of another country.I remember one day I was in a train in Norway. I’m a Quebecer from Canada and right next to me I saw another Quebecer. We started to talk in French and I was very happy."If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart." - Nelson MandelaI was feeling a little lonely and depressed at the time. Just hearing my language lifted my mood. I think also that good quality hotels help to feel like home. I felt safe and the structure was easily to follow.There’s also the possibility to video chat through WhatsApp/Facetime/Skype. Reading about the culture of the others countries help to know what to expect. Use TripAdvisor for the best spots in the city to visit. If you’re able to make friends and meet new people either tourists or locals you’ll enjoy your experience more.
How do you deal with the leaving of someone you love deeply?
I agree with Shakespeare that is better to have loved, and lost, rather than never to have loved at all.However, losing someone you love just flays the soul. It does. It hurts so deeply and so painfully that it takes your breath away. Unrequited love is the same-- your skin literally feels like it will melt off your bones standing next to the person you love, who does not love you back-- or does not know that you feel such intense attraction toward them. Love can hurt.However, maybe ask yourself, "Would I rather know this person, and have loved them-- or have never known them at all?" Most times we are better people because of these experiences. We are richer for the love. Even with the throbbing pain of heart ache- wouldn't we rather know this person than not?If you are losing the person you love due to distance, you still are able to communicate via email, text and phone. I am not sure you need to toss the baby out with the bath water just yet. You might develop a deeper relationship long distance. The future is still yet to be.Do not write the future of this relationship off just yet. Life has an amazing way of organically twisting around and finding a way. Love can find a way. In the meantime, you have to get through the pain. Try music. It seems to soothe the soul. And exercise. Anything positive to bandage your soul up. Funny books or YouTube videos to lift your spirits. Sleep is good as well as I find my subconscious seems to heal a bit after sleeping. Adult beverages can numb the senses a bit, but it is not the healthiest choice. 'More thinking, less drinking' sometimes is healthier. It is going to hurt my friend. I am sorry, but that is the raw truth. Think of this time in your life as an emotional workout for your soul. You will get through it, and you may never be the same after the journey.And maybe that is the point.
When you move you leave your pets behind!!!!!!!?
Ok right now I just want to hug you :)!! We see SO many people at the shelter I volunteer with surrendering cats because "the new place doesn't allow pets" and it sickens me to no end that they can so easily give up their pets. Yes, I do understand that bad allergies can develop, people can fall on hard times and be unable to care for your pets, that people have to move into nursing homes and the other valid reasons for having to give up pets. But moving into a place that doesn't accept them is CHOOSING to give up one's pets. And with as many places out there that DO allow them there's really no excuse. But sadly, a lot of people view pets as possessions - not family members. So if it's between keeping the cat or getting the fancy condo with a pool and exercise room - the pet often loses. Even sadder - these cats are often ones that are 10-15 years old and have known no other owner their whole lives. And unless they're taken to a no-kill shelter they're often euthanized shortly after being surrendered. People like this toss out their cats just as they would a dining set that's no longer the style they want. I pity people that are that shallow and uncaring towards living, breathing beings. And I hope that karma comes back to them tenfold for their actions. Now I want to know what a "pacman frog" is. Is that really what it's called or do they just have really big mouths like PacMan? Oh and Metro is a really cool cat name!!!! He obviously realizes he's found TRUE pet lovers and knows how lucky he is!
Why is it so painful to leave a loved one?
Imagine if you passed away and became a ghost.You'll never be able to interact with that person again. Anything in the future that you thought you had with this person in your life is now negligible. There is nothing you can do, nothing that will make it any better. You don't want them to hurt themselves and you want the best for their future. You want them to live and be happy.When you leave a loved one, it hurts because they are alive but you treat them as "dead" to you. That is where it hurts. You live your life as they live their life. They are there, but they no longer exist in your world. They once mattered so much in your life. They were a part of it. They were your sailors in arms in life.Now that they are off your boat, it feels like your boat is leaking,You don't know if you'll stay afloat.The hardest part of leaving someone are those cold, lingering, remorseful questions:"What if...?"Good Luck.
Boyfriend leaving for Iraq, how to deal with it?
Get in touch with the Family Readiness Group and/or the Spouses Club at his base. Even though you aren't married yet, they'll usually let you join. Seek out others in your situation. If you aren't near a base, check out www.cinchouse.com. There are military spouses and significant others in all stages of life over there. Also, check out books from the library about military spouses that have dealt with deployments. I recently published a review of a BUNCH of these, and can provide that info to you, if you'd like. Good luck, and if you'd like to chat, let me know. I've been through this plenty of times, and am more than happy to help. :-)
How can I deal with my best friend leaving for college?
I'm still in high school, a junior to be exact. But a few years ago I was moving from my hometown and left my close friend there. I was worried about how things would go but I think the key is just keeping in touch. We talked at LEAST once a week on the phone. We would send each other pictures, write each other letters and draw silly stuff. When you're on the same page with somebody, like feeling the same and both wanting to keep in contact then things are made so much easier because that's what a friendship takes 2 people..not one or one and a half. Another thing is be open to each other meeting new people. Be happy for her when she meets new friends but don't feel jealous or upset if she starts to get close with other people. That doesn't mean she's forgetting you, so don't take it to the heart because she's probably always going to have a place for you. My friend took it to the heart and it caused a huge thing to come, to the point where she started to act different and was so jealous and angry. We're rebuilding our friendship now and its been difficult to get close again but its doable if we both stay on the same page. The best thing you can do now is just talk to her. Tell her how you feel and let her know how you'll miss her. Make her a card and write her a note, telling her everything you want her to know like some of the things you'll never forget, how much of a friend she is to you, and everything like that. Spend as much time as you can with her and take lots of pictures. Don't worry. Don't worry about her. Because she's going to be fine and will be your friend even when she's gone. Don't worry about yourself. You just keep busy with things and try to hang out with other friends, you'll do alright. Things will work out, you'll see! :) Hope I helped and good luck to the both of you!