Why people are so selfish?
when I was schooling everyone was selfish in my class, then my old friends who were in my street were selfish they bullied me, teased me, ignored me and helped nothing but I helped them a lot whenever it's possible, now I had a couple of friends and they are also selfish, I recently found my girlfriend and apparently she is selfish too. why everyone is damm so selfish like this? it seems I am the only one who care about people. It's me who always help people, in college it was me who helped other students to get higher marks, in the relationship that I had it's me who sacrificed everything while she did nothing for me. as far as I remember I have helped a lot of people but barely someone steps up to help me. no one even cares to ask how am I and no one even cares to see whether I even exist or not.I have to go and talk to them. I currently have a friend on a penpal site she sometimes asks me how am I but she barely can speak English (English isn't my native language too but still her language ability is worse) so it's impossible to communicate with her. I don't understand why people are so selfish , I try not to help people but my empathy doesn't allow me to do that,my conscience pushes me to help someone when I feel like they need a help. >.<
How do you deal with selfish people?
TRY THIS How to Stop Being Selfish Everyone is selfish from time to time. It's part of human nature, but if you do it too much people could easily get fed up with you. [] StepsListen. There is a big different from hearing something and letting something go in one ear and out the other and actually listening to what people have to say. Don't interrupt people. Let them finish their sentence, your points can always wait. If it's urgent (like if you have to leave) say "excuse me". Put the needs of other people before your own. Pay attention to the people in your life to find out what those needs are. When choosing gifts or cards, buy something that reflects the personality of the other person. Don't just buy something because it's convenient. Remember birthdays. Keep in touch with your friends and relatives. Volunteer. Be honest and loyal. Consider the advice people in your life give you. Take it if it makes sense. If you have to ask someone for a favor, offer to do something for them in return. Compliment other people. Don't just go on about how great you are. Make sure to be considerate and include everyone you know and like when inviting people to parties and events. No one likes to be left out. Don't butt in front of people in line. Also, if you see someone in a walker or a wheelchair, slow down or help them instead of just cutting in front of them. Be on time. If at all possible, call if you know you are going to be late. [] Tips: Don't expect to become a saint overnight. Don't hate yourself because you think you can't change. You'll get there. Changing who you are will take time, but recognizing that you have a problem with your behaviour is a big step. Warnings : Don't be sharp with people just because you are stressed. Don't rub your good deeds in other people's faces. The point of volunteering and being considerate is doing the right thing not getting glory.
Who is easier to deal with a conceit person or a selfish person?
a selfish person = a stingy cold hearted person and don't care about other people but themselves ; a conceited person = a person who craves compliments even if it's a lie both kind of personalities are not good to have because they are both dumb in a different ways, but it's easier to deal with a conceited person because if you want them to do something for you just tell them that they are beautiful even if they are ugly then they'll do anything for you because the conceited person can be easily manipulate. when asking a selfish person for help or any favors they will just say no because they are selfish and cold hearted. Conceited and selfish person are not the same as I described.
Why are people so selfish that they want other people to stay alive just so they won't have to be sad?
You know, I've been trying my best to put myself in your shoes for about a week now, waiting to see if you have finally helped yourself. It's not my intention to be mean to you, but it seems to me that you are so self-involved, it's pathetic! You want desperately for people to feel sorry for you with your perpetual "cutting" questions, and then you turn around and symbolically slap the faces of those who are trying so hard to help you by asking a question such as this one! You answer other questions as though nothing is wrong and you have such valuable advice to give, and yet you seem to become someone else entirely by reverting to the "poor, poor pitiful me" mode! Who are you, really?! Are you so lonely that you have NO family or friends, and you have to turn constantly to a computer to give you solace??! Our attempts to figure you out, and to try to enable you to feel better about yourself are constantly met with your self-imposed Hamlet Syndrome, where you are whining "to be, or not to be" in one question, and then doing a complete "about-face" by giving a totally inane and unrelated answer to someone else! I have reached out to you on three separate occasions, hoping beyond hope that you can turn things around for yourself, and create something hopeful for yourself. Yet you continue to mire yourself in pity and pathos, and come back with a question like this that says you RESENT people trying to help you!! What is it with you, if you can be honest?! We are going out on a limb for you, trying to help you with whatever self-important "trauma du jour" it might be! Do you actually WANT help or advice?? How long will you continue to moan and complain on this site before you actually take some positive steps toward good mental health?? We are opening our hearts and lives to you, and we get SQUAT for our efforts! Does it mean anything to you?! I'm asking you to take a stand, one way or another! Don't toy with good Samaritans by looking the proverbial gift horse in the mouth!! One way or another, you're going to have to take action, whether it is to turn your life around, or cut yourself into a thousand pieces!! I'm asking you for your own sake: What's it going to be??!!
How to deal with a selfish girlfriend?
Any ideas on how to deal with a person who only thinks about themselves? Is growing up the only answer? I try to see the good in all people, but man it is difficult with people so selfish.
How do you deal with selfish/inconsiderate people (details)?
I feel constantly annoyed by so many people in my life, to the point where I don't want to deal with them anymore, although a lot of them has been part of my life for a long time. It's not that any of them are being intentionally annoying, it's just that I can't help but see everything they do, even if it seems caring on the outside, has selfish purposes. And everything they do is for themselves, and is truly inconsiderate of others. If you really care about someone, isn't it because you want the best for that person, not because it's to fulfill your own needs? It's like I don't understand any type of relationship involving people anymore. And I know everyone needs to be a bit "selfish" in order to survive, but what good are any form of connections if it's just for your own self. I guess I'm kind of fed up with people always not being more considerate of others, and always only thinking of themselves. Why do I always feel stuck like this about people? What is the matter with me? Or is it them? I don't understand. Constructive criticism and constructive advice would be greatly appreciated.