How to discipline my 12 year old daughter?
oh 12 is a hard time. I remember thats about when i started acting out. But I think i was mostly seeking attention cuz my parents had just gotten divorced and my mom was starting to see other guys and she wasn't home often and refused to help me with my homework and stuff. Could that be an issue? Maybe thats why she is acting out like that. But all in all 12 is a bad time anyways kids are getting curious about stuff and there is peer pressure and all sorts of things, you could have these problems until she is 15 or 16 hopefully not tho. I think spanking is out, she is too old and she'd just be embarrassed. I like the idea of taking her door off so she has no privacy. Take away phones, t.v. time, all computer access and anything else that she likes to do. Make her come straight home after school and do chores around the house, even make her get up early in the morning to do chores. Don't just do it for like a day either, make it a week 2 weeks even and the worse she is the worse and longer her punishment should be.
How to discipline a 12 year old ADHD child?
Yes, adhd is crap. It is something school systems started for your average active child. Many studies have been done and kids who have taken medicine are now having a lot of problems. What use to be a class clown or a talkitive person is now labled adhd to make teachers lives easier. Tell the school to deal, and love your child for who they are. If the teacher starts singling the child out then take it all the way to the school bord, for harrasment! I am a deveopmental psyc major!
What is the best way to discipline an 11 year old boy?
Talking is good, but keep in mind they stop listening if it goes on too long.Without any details about the crime, it's hard to make a punishment that fits. Personally, for run of the mill disobedience and shenanigans I start with taking away access to anything with a screen for an appropriate amount of time. Usually, no longer than a week - after that, it loses effectiveness. If it's for bad grades, they lose it from Sunday after dinner until Friday after school for the grading period. they can play on the weekends. I generally don't take away TV, as I don't want to have to manage TV for the whole family, but I will take away the ability to choose a show or change a channel. That one hurts. It also encourages good relations with siblings, who they may try to bribe to pick a show they like.If you're asking because all the normal stuff doesn't work, be creative. Kids are gamblers by nature. They're taking odds on what they can get away with. If the punishment isn't worth the crime, they won't take the chance.But above anything else, follow through and be consistent. They have to know you mean what you say, and that you'll carry through. Otherwise, nothing is going to work.
Your 2 year old boy and hitting / discipline?
My 2 year old boy is full of energy...always has been. He's incredibly friendly and runs around like a maniac. He also gets emotional sometimes. Sometimes he embarrasses us a lot in public places, like crowded restaurants. We have only been to one in the past six months or so, and it was a big mistake. He was throwing food, eating off the floor, getting up and running around. I like some control and discipline over a situation. When we got out I slapped him on the face lightly, but enough to cause some shock and I made him say he was sorry. He had been truly horrible and we usually don't use any kind of physical discipline other than Daddy restraining him during "time outs". Would you slap your child if he was acting horrible? Another complication is that this was last week....I got a report today that he slapped three teachers at his daycare center yesterday. He has good and loving teachers. One said she removed him from an altercation with another student and put him in a chair and he pushed her and kept repeating "no." I feel bad for my child and want to know what happened. He's 2 years and 4 months old. He's had a lot of problems with discipline at daycare and is being observed by a behavior specialist there. I don't want to talk about slapping him but do you think slapping is either : 1. necessary or 2. a big mistake? If it is a mistake, what on earth is the alternative?! He's an only child, an only grandchild, and we don't socialize much with other parents and small children, unfortunately. So, he is quite spoiled at home and there's no way around that. We adore him and constantly humor him because we find him so loving and cute, until we realize he's trying to get away with things, some of which are quite bad. He sometimes slaps me or my mother. Any ideas on how to handle the situation? I am considering pulling him out of daycare but I am also caring for my sick mother and would need to get a nanny or au pair in order to do so.
What is the most effective way to discipline a 2.5 year old?
We’re right there with you. This is a tough age, and she’s headstrong and cranky.Um, here’s what’s worked for us, so far:Giving choices: Generally, both choices favor us (the parents) but still enough for her to make the call and make it feel like it’s what she wants. If she doesn’t make a choice, we inevitably have to make the choice for her….which is a consequence of not making a choice.Consequences/Rewards: Eat dinner, get some leftover Easter candy. Don’t eat dinner, don’t get candy. Generally, it’s a sliding scale. Eat everything, turns into eat your chicken, turns into 2 more bites of chicken….of course, we can’t force her to eat if she’s full, but it still allows her to understand the concept of doing what we ask. Just make sure to follow through.Eye contact/Belly Breathe (from Elmo): When she’s in trouble or upset, calming her down, getting her focus, and explaining the situation. “It’s NOT OK to hit” for example.Time out/Ignore her: Her biggest thing is getting attention. If she did something really bad, the punishment that seems to be effective (for her) is when we make her stand in one place or we pretend to ignore her for a short amount of time. Time out used to not work, but now she stays put and if she protests, she’s told “I can make it longer.”Routines: Absolute top problem solver. A bedtime routine and a morning routine fixed a LOT of problems across the board. Behavioral problems, eating problems, attitude, sociability, communication, and continuous sleep patterns.Self Sufficiency: She’s active and talkative, but she’s still figuring things out. She was potty trained at 22 months, so it came down to giving her the ability to do it without our help. This meant giving her a bathroom stool and me adding a second light switch that she could reach, my next task is letting her get her own water and put on her own TV show (I’ll probably have to put the TV on a timer to prevent abuse of this freedom). Simple wants and needs can be tackled without her making a fuss.
What is the best way to discipline my autistic 5 year old?
Lets begin with getting rid of the notion that disciplining is always the best method to use when trying to modify the behaviours of other individuals, especially not those we love and care for who have autism and who might be sensitibe and unable to respond to normal cue’s that would act as a trigger or signal for them.Fostering, “helping your child develope skills” with which they are able to cope and relate with circumstances, in positive ways, is key.In most cases, if not all, when your child is upset, you will be unable to get through to them in any meaniful way, so, creating an environment that triggers calm and associative response, is crucial.It would probably be best if you had lots of good support and perhaps, from time to time, professional help, “which would include someone to give you some down time for yourself.”Good luck!
How should you discipline a six year old who spits in your face when told to go to bed after a half hour of bedtime prep?
Most modern behaviorists and child psychologists will recommend against corporal punishment.With that said, spitting in someones face is completely unacceptable. It is assault and battery, which is illegal. At the age of 6 there isnt crime and punishment per se, however it you dont attach a consequence (and a heavy one) and they continue this behavior they will encounter serious problems later.Doing what I do I have been assaulted hundreds and hundreds of times. Being spit on is probably one of the worst IMHO. Remember to slow down, take a breath, and realize that as terrible as it is, you are not injured.I would recommend approaching from two angles. The first is loss of privileges. Anyone who assaults should not get to enjoy there favorite things for a while. What that is depends on your child. Maybe its computer time, time with a friend, tv time. Restrict that a reasonable amount of time depending on your child (a day, a week?)You can also set up a reward system for exhibiting expected behavior. Make a list of all the different bedtime tasks (brushing teeth, taking a bath, laying down in bed, listening to a story, staying in bed once the lights are out, having friendly words/voice the entire time and being safe/respectful. Each of those behaviors earns a star. When a certain number of stars (that both of you agree on beforehand) are earned, then the child earns a reward (that also has been agreed upon beforehand).Make it easy to attain at first, and every time he is successful increase the difficulty to earn the reward.Eventually you can fade the reward system out as the child learns and exhibits the expected behavior.