How do you find yourself?
Hi Alexis. Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error. That's the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not, you hit a bump in the road, and sometimes you fall flat on your face. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up and starting over. It's not going to be easy - it never has been for anybody - but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you'll find fulfillment and security in your pursuit. When you are yourself, everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Best of all, you will always feel good about yourself. Get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid. Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Don't worry about anything but being yourself and living life to the fullest! "Life's not worth a darn until you can say, I am what I am." When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself. Wish you all the best..) Never forget that life is so precious live life to the full appreciate every moment. Put your hole heart in to everything you do.
How does one begin to 'find oneself'?
You can find yourself in the ways your words and actions affect others. When I see my cousin's teenage son, who I love like my own son, reaching out to help others, thinking for himself, choosing books he can learn from, exploring his creativity through writing, I see all the seeds I've planted and nurtured in him sprouting to life. You can find yourself everywhere you've left a mark in the world. You can find yourself in someone's smile when they say hello to you, or in someone's cry when they come to you for comfort. Much of who we really are, not just who we think we are, is reflected in everything around us. Sometimes I walk through my house and try to imagine I'm seeing it for the first time, and it all belongs to someone else. I look at the pictures on the wall, the books on the shelves, the clothes in the closet, and try to imagine what it says about the person who lives here. I do the same thing when I empty out my purse. What would a total stranger guess about the person who owns all this stuff? It's a good way to step back and give yourself enough distance to see yourself from an alternative viewpoint. Write a memoir, then put it away and don't touch it for one year. When you take it out after all that time has passed, you'll be able to read it as though you were reading someone else's story, and it will give you an incredible insight that would otherwise be very difficult to achieve. The Japanese have a saying: "A man is who he is, depending on what room he's standing in."Once you realize the differences of who you are when you're standing before your mother, your father, your spouse, your son or daughter, a waitress, a homeless person, a co-worker, an angry boss, a hostile employee, etc...then, look for the common denominator. That will be the core of who you are.
You have to lose yourself to find yourself?
yes - often i have hit bottom only to surface stronger. it is not necessary to hit bottom but it is the practice of many spiritual beliefs. losing ones ego frees oneself to many opportunities and insights.
How do I find myself after depression?
There was time when I was recovering for the first time from depression, that I was wondering which me was me. Was it to me who I was before I got depressed or was it the me I was when I was depressed. I asked this of a friend who was a Buddhist monk and he told me that both were me.I knew that, but it helped to hear him say it. Both me's are me. You don't have to find yourself after depression. You are already there. You were there all along. What I've decided is that I was the me I knew all along, but when I was depressed, it was like a filter on a camera. I saw the world differently because of depression. I couldn't help it. The filter was over the lens, and I had no way of knowing it was there until I got to a place where the filter had disappeared, and I could see what things looked like without that filter.I am the me with the filter and the me who sees more clearly. Unless there is another filter over my vision that has always been there and I am unaware of. That's always possible -- for all of us.The thing about not recognizing yourself is how confusing it is. You know you're you, but you don't feel like you and you don't behave like you, so what happened? You want to fight it. Throw it off. Make yourself into the self you knew, but the more you try, the further away from yourself you get. So what do you do?I think an intellectual understanding of what is going on helps, but in the end, it is an emotional task that has to be completed in order to find yourself inside yourself. I believe this task of integration requires that you submit to the depression. You can't control it. You have to welcome it. But isn't it crazy to welcome depression? I have found that when I welcome depression, it takes a lot of its energy away. When I fight it, it never works and in fact, the depression gets stronger. When I accept the depression and even make friends with it, it loses some of its power, and I have an easier time finding myself.I'm not a fighter, though. I'm an understander. When I accept myself as I am, I am more likely to be who I am. I don't know if that makes sense. It's a kind of zen thing, the way I think about it. Not being yourself comes from fighting yourself. When you accept yourself in all your guises, you integrate and become who you are. It's a kind of spiritual ju jitsu.
How do you find yourself after you lost yourself?
We all feel a little lost sometimes. When something bad happens we have a tendency to blame ourselves. We feel the need to find a reason for bad things happening, and it’s always easiest to blame ourselves. When you are feeling lost find yourself, go deep within and learn to listen to your feelings.In fact, stop always tracking other’s lifestyles and actions. It is not doing you any good, but merely taking away time and energy, you could have employed for productive work or self improvement.How to find yourself when you are feeling lost:1. Change Your LifestyleYou might not be able to change your life immediately but what you can change is your lifestyle. Little changes like eating healthier and getting some exercise can make you feel in control of your health and subsequently your life.2. Do Things That Make You HappySpeaking of doing things you love, here is why you should invest time in a hobby. When you have a hobby that makes you happy, you can take a few hours each day and enjoy yourself. When work and family life gets to you, your hobby can be a welcome break.3. MeditateMeditation is a sure shot way to find yourself as all it requires is looking inward and getting in touch with what is inside you. If you do not know how to meditate here is what you have to do. Sit down in silence and close your eyes.Click here to get more suggestion on Find Yourself When Lost.