How to forgive and let go?
It might help to journal those negative feelings. When someone has abused you, these feelings do not go away over night. You might find a group that deals with whatever the issue is . In my personal experience hashing that stuff only made me feel worse.If you go for a month or two, you might find people who understand your pain. That is the one great aspect of groups for domestic violence You have to distract yourself from the pain, Discipline yourself to change the channel playing in your mind , after you fully comprehend what they did to you You want to learn to be in the moment and knowing what happened can keep you from allowing it to happen again and again. Do not think of yourself as a victim but as someone who is unique enough to handle a horrible situation. Ask people for prayer . If you think of revenge and we have all had those thoughts. just realize it is a hollow victory. If you love God, you will feel compassion for them. King David prayed that God would defend him against his enemies. I have prayed this way although Christians do not follow the Old Testament laws but my enemies are unforgivenhatred , anger so this works.
How can i forgive and let go ?
I suffered from several things. Like depression. Even though im still young. And crazy *** mood swings cause i have hoshi motos desease. Sometimes i see something and i cry. Like we were watching family guy, and something happened, not quite sure. And he was killing the chicken, and i felt this burst of sadness. Idk , it was suppose to be funny, but for that minute it wasnt. Though i got over my depression mostly. Think. Just forget it. Ignore it. Revenge works for a second. And sometimes i smile cause im happy but then... it doenst work so well. cause what i said was really mean. The only thing i ever found that really helped, was moving my mind. like music. I let the music be my thoughts. i have no thoughts, just music. And i could sleep, carefree forever. It seems. it helped. Sometimes i just hang with my friends, my mind totally away from some of things that happened to me. I remeber it all. but you dont care after you have new friends and you arnt sad all the time now. some people paint, like theyre in this whole new world. And its just them and that white paper. And some color.... and then the color expands and engulfs you i guess. It makes you forget. and after forget a little while... you can forget for longer.. and longer... until you dont even care. :] . some poeple even make it all a joke, like my kitty has to get surgery... and he'll only have one eye. and my sister happly said, we're gonna have a pirate cat! It was funny, and it made the gloom seem less of a doom, without the big boom. --calla,13
How can I forgive and let go?
I have been hurt by my boyfriend. Last summer we had awful problems and he lied to me and since then I haven't been able to trust him. He also moved to London to study there and I can't get over the fact that he left me. I feel like he has abandoned me to rot away in our home town. We speak on the phone all the time and we spend every weekend together- but I am still resentful of the fact that he has started a new, fun, exciting life in London. I need to let go, I am so full of bitterness, intense anger and resentment and it is literally destroying my life. I became a recluse, I stopped speaking to my friends, my self esteem plummeted to nothing and I feel worthless constantly, so much so I convince myself that he doesn't love me, that he is cheating on me (why would he move away from me if he loved me?) and that I am a horrible person and I must have done something terrible to feel this way now. I am also hurting my boyfriend. I fight him all the time, I go over every wrong he did to me over and over in my mind until I explode. I have become violent towards him now, I don't recognise myself. I have become a violent psychopath. The thing is, I know I'm lucky to have him. I can't believe he has stuck by me for a year of my sadness, anger and bitterness. I know I am nothing like my former self. Now I am paranoid, controlling, insecure and angry. The thing is though, I blame him for starting this downward spiral in my life (as it started with him lying to me) so I continue to resent him! Please can someone help me, I think I'm depressed, I've been thinking about suicide because I can't bear to go on. I'm so full of hatred, towards him and mostly myself. I have always been like this. I have a terrible relationships with my family because I can't forgive them for things that happened to me years ago, during my childhood! Please help, I know that I am only hurting myself by being so bitter.
Should I forgive him & let go?
I am 20 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. We have never broke up aside for a when I was younger for reasons I am about to explain. I want to know if I should forgive my boyfriend for having sex with another girl. It happened in the first year we were dating. I was his first girlfriend & we were young & definitely fought a lot, mainly because I was on a medication called adderal for ADHD and it made me particularly moody. He liked to go with his friends a lot. There was a night the first year we were dating where an incident happened and he was very drunk and we were in a bad fight and he had sex with an old friend from high school. She is "slutty" and seeks male attention, and she admitted to me that she was all over him trying really hard to get him to do that. After that they didn't talk for some time she contacted him 2 times for pot & he did give it to her. But told me later on. They did not hook up again. I didn't find any of it out until a year later when his friend told me. From what my boyfriend claims we were broken up at the time because of one of our fights. We broke up a lot on the weekends because of my issues but always got back together. I chose to forgive him but part of me cannot let it go because I feel I cannot trust him again. I have always been madly in love with him. He is my best friend and we connect so good. I have gotten off the meds and we get along great now & I can tell he loves me to death. Should I forgive him?
How can you forgive and let go?
I dont know what happened to make you break up, whether you just grew apart or if there was someone else involved. Sometimes you dont forgive, you just learn to accept that it was something just not meant to be. You are hurting not because you havent forgiven him yet, but you are grieving for something lost from you're life. 3 Months really isnt a long time. It cant be measured as everyone is different, but you seem to be doing all the right things, and finding other activities to fill the gap which has been left. This will also help you to meet new people who may just be friends but will bring trust and closeness back to your life and help to heal. If he did something bad to you, in time you will be able to see that in a different light, and you will know yourself that you would want to be with someone who really loves you and when you open up to that idea, the right person will appear as if by magic.
How to forgive/let go of grudges?
I am sentimental and yet enjoy change. It's the change that keeps things from becoming boring. But grudges are different. I used to hold on to them and push a bit for evens. But I've learned as I get older, those people that have done things to me in the past live their lives in a way where they do reap what they sow. Sooner or later someone gives them what they deserve without any effort from me. And I've learned to forgive. Grudges and hate take from your essence and leave an ugly mark. I've found to forgive people is the way to go whether they ask for forgiveness or not. But it doesn't mean I don't keep my eye on them. I'm not that stupid. But hating takes more from you than the original act. Let it go. But those people you want to kick down the hole, end up falling in there all by themselves. Yes, I will laugh when they go down. And change. Change is everywhere and all the time. I think of the difference of my life now and when I was much younger. The changes have been spectacular. And I have worked to change myself. . .to be the person I wanted to become. I've tried anyway. You must always work on yourself and to me that's learning the things I need to know and changing some things and fighting to hang on to others. Actually I guess I am the one that works hard to change others. I push politicians to do the right thing, I push people to take care of their pets and animals. I work hard to learn all the new things that keep coming along. Maybe I like change. . .never thought about it. And maybe it takes all kinds to keep the world like it should be...balanced.
How do I forgive and let go of the hurt?
Four years of memories will be hard to forget over time. The easiest way to do that is to replace it with new memories. In order for that to take place is to let yourself go of him. If he has issues of substance abuse, that will take him in and out of the calls he is making and may not realize fully of his actions. The best thing you should do is to be there for him temporarily as he call for now. I wouldn't meet up with him, no. That will only stir up the emotions and memories of the past. Keeping your distance is the best way to get this monkey off your back, as you say. When both of you are on the phone and in good spirits and knowing that he is in good comprehension, then let him know how you feel of what you wish to get off your mind. Explain in a calm manner and forgive and forget. Let him know you are trying to start off on a new foot in life and you may not always be around to pick up the phone. Just indicate to him sometimes the memories are painful and you need to move on to eliminate those pains in your heart. There is no doubt that there will be new pains from this by both of you. But it will be temporary until a new smile enters your heart. When those smiles start healing the pains, the memories will flood in to replace the past. It took me a lil while after a 7yr relationship but it 'can' be replaced. Be patient and have faith in yourself. Best of luck =)
How can I learn to forgive people and to let go of the bad things?
If you confess your sin to Jesus- remember that. You are not perfect either. If Jesus has forgiven you- remember that. Forgive as you have been forgiven. Dwelling on and allowing what has been done to continue to bother and hurt you is to be a slave to the past. Its like picking at a scab. Soon it will be a scar. Every moment starting with right now is a new opportunity to move into a new and bright future without the darkness of the past. If Jesus is your love and life- look to Him for lessons He wants you to learn. The bible tells us that He works everything for good in the lives of those who trust and obey Him. You are not alone. You are not forgotten. You are not a victim. You are His precious work in progress. Work with Him and see what glorious blessings He has in store for you!