I bought something with my employee discount, had friend return for full price (only getting store credit) i live in florida was only $70?
Well, "Emily," you bought something with an employee discount and colluded with a friend to return it for full price. That's called "theft by deception." You and your "friend" are both guilty. They cannot find a receipt in the system for $70 because you paid $50. Keep in mind that most sales to employees using an authorized employee discount are coded in the system to indicate an employee sale and often, the employee's employee ID number. They probably DID find the $50 sale and know that it was returned for store credit of $70. They accused you of theft and they are correct. So, what do you do now? I'd suggest that you come clean and offer to resign in lieu of prosecution as well as forfeit the store credit. And agree to never return to that store.
Why don't people return books after borrowing them from friends?
Though I am certainly no expert on the subject, I certainly have tons of first hand experience not returning books that I have borrowed or checked out. To this day I still have not managed to return a couple of books that I checked out years ago in my hometown library which is now 1500 miles away.After reading your question, I have put some serious thought into why I continue this terrible habit. I can find two reasons.. 1. Laziness/ForgetfulnessThough I hate to say it, what the problem really boils down to is laziness. Driving a single book to the library or a friends house to drop it off hardly seems like a task worthy of my time. So, I tell myself, I will return the book at another time when I am running errands that are near the library or my friends house. However, I generally tend to forget or am too lazy to go back and get the book if I remember on my way out.2. AccountabilityLibrary fines have never been harsh enough for my to consider them an actual burden. Even though the fines increase over time, at most libraries they stop at the price of the book or are reduced to a very low number when I eventually return it.I understand that both these problems are my own fault and that they are in no way excusable. This is entirely my fault, and I think in most book borrowing cases, it is the fault of the borrower if they do not return it. There is no need to feel petty when asking for something that was yours to begin with. If the book borrower is a good person, they will understand that it is wrong of them to keep the book for too long and that ultimately it is their responsibility to return it.
Why do I get nothing in return for being so nice?
I mean...i go the extra mile to make other peoples lives better. I make myself feel sad and sacrifice my happiness for others. I think about whats better for others before myself. I try my best to make days like birthdays the absolute most special day for my friends, I spend days and hours planning and putting my greatest effort into the gifts I buy them and making decorating the box to put it. And when it comes to my birthday, no thought is put into my gifts and nothing special is there. I'm tired of friends treating me like crap, yet I treat them so good. And, when something goes wrong, they come running to me for help, and i always help them, but when I need the help in return they don't want to help me and instead try to avoid me during my times of needs. Not only friends but other people too. Will it ever pay off for being so nice?
What should I buy as gifts for friends and relatives when I return from the UK?
Name brand perfume/cologne, chocolate of any quality, good cigarettes (for smokers), red wine, and souvenirs bearing your host country's flag or other symbols are all a good place to start, especially for younger relatives and friends. Sephora scent samplers provide an easy gift that friends can split up. Lindt, Dove, Russell Stover, and Ghirardelli are some good chocolate brands. Marlboro cigarettes are well-recognized in Asia. Locally brewed beer, and regionally produced wine or spirits are appreciated. Finally, keychains, postcards, flag-bearing clothing, and the like can make good novelty gifts.For older relatives, check out your local grocery, drug store, or health store for vitamins and supplements. Multivitamins such as Centrum or One-A-Day are great, and come in divisions for men, women, and 50+year-old people. Fish oil, calcium supplements, vitamin C tablets, and vitamin B complex are also good choices. These things are very difficult to find in China, but much easier to get abroad! Just make sure that any liquids you carry are In small enough quantities to put in your carry-on, or packed with enough padding in yor checked luggage.You can get sunscreen, facial cleansers, and moisturizers or acne cream (brands like Neutrogena, Clean & Clear, and ProActiv are great), though. Your local drugstore is likely to carry these.Some good makeup categories to buy in: lipstick, blush, eye liner and eye shadow. Clinique is a good brand for low-contamination, hypoallergenic products. Many of the other "famous" brands are hit-or-miss when it comes to heavy metals in their products.I didn't recommend base makeup because many products sold abroad match the local skin tone, not Chinese skin tone. (The majority of foundation, concealer, and highlighter sold in the US just makes you look pinker.) Only go for these if you find a good color, or are concerned about bleaching products or contamination. Hope this helps! Happy shopping!Source: I'm a 2G Chinese-American, with most of my relatives in China. I feel your pain in gift-giving... what /do/ you buy for people in a country that makes everything? The first question to work from is: what's difficult or expensive to find in China, but easy to get abroad?
When I do something for someone, I expect something in return. What am I?
To be brutally honest... not someone I would ever want to call friend.I enjoy doing things for my romantic partners and friends. I never expect anything in return. I get enjoyment out of the doing.However, if someone does something for me and it is clear they EXPECT a return, then I get no enjoyment out of it and don't feel like I am helping someone because I am being generous, instead I feel like a schmuck for allowing myself to be manipulated, and I resent it, a lot. If it is a continuous, ongoing thing... I exit stage left.If you expect someone's generosity, it is no longer generosity. On the flip side of that, if you only do something to get something in return, it's not generosity.EDIT: After reading a lot of other answers on here, I felt a bit compelled to edit my answer.To be sure, there is a bit of human nature here. We all expect to be treated in kind. However, if you are taking score, which is kind of what I had in mind based upon the way the OP worded the question, then you are not doing someone a favor. You are giving them an obligation. With friends, lovers, family I do not believe that is the mindset you should ever have. However, if you notice that no matter how much kindness you put out there, certain people just never return it, then you have every right to expect better and simply cut them out of your life. I guess I would ask, what are your expectations? Are they specific? Maybe the person you did the favor for does not have the ability to "balance the books" as it were, but rather you would have their undying gratitude for doing for them something they simply would never have the ability to return in kind. If you are a strict tit-for-tat kind of person, then I probably wouldn't want to be around you. On the same token, if you were the kind of person who always takes but never gives, I probably wouldn't want to be around you either. There is a middle road here.Also, there is nothing wrong with random acts of human kindness. You can throw some good will out into the wind and just be satisfied that if even in a very small way, you just made the world a better place for some random person, instead of expecting a return in kind.
My friend borrowed some money from me with a promise to return after a week. He won't talk about it now. Shall I ask?
My friend borrowed some money from me with a promise to return after a week. He won't talk about it now. Shall I ask? Its been months and he seems to be spending too much money. I’m afraid he won’t be able to return if I don’t ask. There’s another friend who hasn’t returned money as he promised he would. I can’t refuse when friends ask for money. Is there something wrong with me? Should I hesitate to ask them to return?I was taught something as a child that still stands today,“Don’t lend anything you aren’t willing to lose.” and “Don’t let someone use anything that is precious to you for things can break, be lost and stolen.”Either give away freely what people ask you for, or tell them you cannot spare it. You can learn from this or keep experiencing the same feelings.If you ask about your money, you might risk the friendship. Don’t keep making friends with people who want more than friendship from you. Yes, there is something wrong with you but it is not irreparable. You believe that everyone has the same values you have, and you are risking your earnings on it. Stop it! You are starting to become the very definition of a person wishing to be taken advantage of. If you keep lending money, you will just end up with more people in front of you with their hands out asking you to take care of their financial problems.Good luck.
Do you take good care and return the things you borrowed?
I see most people never care to return the things they borrowed and even if they did, the thing were not taken good care of and already looks like a junk when they returned it.
Ex friend won't return my house keys and my spare car key. Should I call the police? Get an attorney?
I have a big house and I had a friend living with me for about 8 months until recently because she had run into some serious financial troubles. I am married with three kids and I also take care of my ill father. In return for her staying with me rent free, she was to work whenever she wasn't in class and save a certain amount of her paycheck a month for a car and housing. She was also supposed to help me out with my dad, do some cleaning and basically help me out with the kids whenever I need a break. So, on Valentine's Day, I found out about some things that she was doing behind my back and I asked her to leave. FYI, we've been friends since the 6th grade and we are now in our late 20s. When she left, she didn't leave my house keys or my car key. I have tried to call her, text, sent a letter to her parents house, etc. and I've gotten no response to get my property back. What should I do? Call the police and file a report? Do I need an attorney? Do I need to call the police or is there some other way to handle this? Only serious responses please.
What would you do if your friends didn’t give back what they borrowed from you?
That depends on what it is that they borrowed and how much it is worth to me. You see: Often people forget that they borrowed something from you. Especially if you're not asking for it for a longer period of time. It's no bad will from their side. They might just be a bit careless or thoughtless or just plain forgetful. It happens all the time. It might even have happened to you. ;)Those of your friends who value proper conduct greatly will bring back anything in due time. You'll never have to ask them.But some of your friends might be a bit negligent. Then it is your duty to remind them that you want it back. If they won't give it back to you after several times of due notice, then it will be for you to decide how to react to this. If it is something dear to me, then I would visit them at their place and lay my hands on it, declaring that I'm taking it back NOW. If that person knows what's good for her she will not stand in my way. S/he will thank me for having lent me this and let me go with gratitude. If the person thinks she can prevent me from going away with my stuff, then that person will have to give me very good reasons for that and beg me dearly -otherwise I will just move on out. Usually I expect some gratitude after having borrowed something to someone else. If I perceive that such gratitude is not expressed then I can properly conclude that this "friend" is NOT a real friend but someone who has used my acquaintance as an advantage to him/herself. THAT would then be the reason for me to expel him/her out of my universe and not think of him/her as my friend anymore.