How did you get over your first love?
Realised what a massive douchebag he was. Mind you I saw him on Facebook more than 20 years later and still felt like punching him, so I guess I still haven't completely got over the break-up. My husband said he would happily arrange to have him killed though, and I found that comforting. So I guess my advice is: - get a lot older - get married - don't go on Facebook - eventually have him killed
How do I get rid of the pain of losing the first lover?
I would add to Habib Fanny’s suggestion of “Time” by adding “Distance.”One of the most difficult things to deal with after a relationship disaster is seeing and potentially interacting with the person in your newly defined relationship, particularly in social situations familiar to both of you.You can do this best by putting geographic distance between you, either by a mutual agreement that you or they will avoid certain normally shared hangouts on particular nights or at particular times, or by actually just avoiding such potential interactions on your own by avoiding those places.In extreme cases, such as “losing the first love(r),” the pain may only go away when you remove virtually all possibility of seeing the other person… i.e. by literally moving far away, perhaps to another city or (for extremists) the other side of the world! I put parens around the (r) in your question because the pain is more often associated with the first true “falling in love” experience than with the simple “first time I had sex” experience.When the two come together with the same person then the pain can be magnified even more. This happened to me in college and I wasn’t able to truly bounce back from it until I graduated and continued my education in another city a hundred miles away. Time by itself wasn’t helping… I needed the distance to “cement” the break-up.MJM
How can i help my best friend get over her first love?
my best friend just broke up with her first love because he was cheating on her. she's taking it really hard, and she'll be okay for a little while, but then she just starts crying, and i don't know what to do anymore. i've been just trying to keep her mind off of it, and make her laugh, but that only lasts for a few minutes. i've never seen her so depressed, and she thinks she'll never get over him. i just don't know what to do anymore...
How to get over losing your best friend?
We'd been best friends since we were 7 or 8. We always did everything together. We were so close. When we were 15 something really bad happened to me, and I tried to talk to her about it, but she just turned her back on me and called me a liar. She was so selfish and kept hurting me from that day on. I'm now 18 and I still can't 'get over it'. She's moved on, very clearly. She has a new best friend, who I know and she's a good friend of mine too. I've got a new best friend and he's amazing, far more than she ever was. Is it normal that I'm still not over it?
First love had died and I can't get over it.?
Not crazy at all. If going to the graveside and saying a personal goodbye is what you feel you should do, then do it. It's nobody else's business what you do. You had a nice relationship with him 25 years ago. It didn't work out and you both moved on. Had you tried again, it's highly likely that whatever broke you up in the first place would happen again and you'd part again. However, this didn't happen. He ended up as a nice friend and a fond memory. You had a 10 year marriage and probably in times of strife, you thought of your nice, safe, fantasy first-love which is all perfectly natural. You didn't see him for years and possibly, if you had met up again, he would have looked different to your memory of him - as would you be different from the girl he went out with all those years ago. You didn't meet though and because he's dead, he's never going to be anything more in your mind than that wonderful person of long ago. That's hard and because you feel you have unfinished business with him you need closure. If that means going to see the grandfather's grave and talking to him or saying prayers there or whatever, then I think that's a very good idea. Maybe you could have a chat with a counsellor afterwards if you don't feel that you have peace of mind. It might mean you need a little bit of help to reclaim your equilibrium. Good luck. Time does heal, but it doesn't happen overnight and you've had a shock so don't be too hard on yourself. Lucky man to have been cared for so fondly for so many years.
How did you people cope with losing your first love?
its hard to do. i lost my girlfriend almost 3 months ago and is still very difficult to deal with. im actually talking to someone on the phone right now who has helped me a lot and helped cope with everything. you deal by still being. by still working. by still accomplishing. by still living. its hard and always will be. i want to say ive moved on and am. but i still think about her, even though im involved with the girl im on the phone with. she also just got out of a very serious long relationship. i hope this helps or answers your question, but im cutting this short so im not rude to the girl im talking to. if you want to talk more i will be glad to talk to you more about it. feel free to email me.
Do Libra's ever get over there first love?
Well, I'm a Libra. My first love (a Cancer) was abusive, so although it took me a while to heal from the relationship, I did get over it and come out stronger. I did fall in love with an Aquarius, and there will always be a part of me that will love him. We're best friends now, and we know each other too well to really make a relationship work. My Leo boyfriend just dumped me about a week ago, and I'm still hurting a lot over that. I was really starting to fall for him. I never forget any of my boyfriends or my loves. And I have a great memory. But I'm also always open to meeting new people and falling in love again with someone else. I think my Virgo guy friend has a thing for me and is trying to cheer me up because of my break-up. I try to be honest with him on where my feelings are, but I'm not opposed to getting to know him better. See where your Libras at. If he just broke up with this person, it may take a while and he may not really be receptive to your affections. If it's been a while, try just doing something fun, like going to an amusement park or bowling to get his mind in a happier place. I don't think it would necessarily be a lost effort, but at the same time, if he's not giving you the attention you want, you'll need to move on. And I do have a Libra guy friend who is always whining about the last girl he dated (even lost out on my Sagittarius gal pal I tried setting him up with). If your Libra is the type where all he does is whine and probably won't cheer up anytime soon, I'd say let him go. He'll just drive you nuts (as my Libra friend does with all the girls he dates). And soon enough, he'll realize what an idiot he's being for staying down in the dumps. But if he just broke up and is just feeling in pain, he should get over it eventually. Good luck!
How should I forget my first love?
First love!!! Remember how we are taught to walk,talk,to eat,read,write and stuff.But ever thought this,nobody teaches you ,how to love.Because it just happens.its not something you plan to do.thats why most of first loves fail and we say ,pyaar andha hota hai(love is blind)hahahaha!!!!.Jokes apart! It's really a beautiful feeling to fall in love but it's wise to know where to stop.if you don't see future for your feelings, you need to stop building ideas taking it further.Need to accept that you can just have that person in your as they are now and not more than that.And whether you are expressing them to the person related,first explain this to yourself.It will prevent you from being all needy and help you do this difficult job.Yes accepting that the person you love is never going to love you back is pretty damn difficult!!!! But be an iron man,dil bada rakho and let your friendship be preserved. If this person is worth your love then definitely deserves this.Your first love, It deserves to be cherished among your best memories,And everything about your first love is among the best time of your life.let those feelings breath in the best version of you.How can you not want in your memories those first having butterflies in your stomach ,when he says your name, that thought of getting lost into his eyes that you even forget how long you have been staring each other , the thunder you felt when he hold your hand for first time ,the blush on your face when he opened door for you,that first ride ,that first kiss,and what not.All these things are part of you ,adore yourself.Now don't push yourself that you need to get over your love and you have to do this sacrifice blah blah blah!!!!!Don't struggle with your feelings , don't try to fight with them.the more you will fight the more they are gonna come back.let them breath.Because eventually we all get what we deserve,there is somebody out their who will love even more than that and will make you forget about these but till then don't be so hard on yourself .And trust me all of this goes away.It's just like being underwater struggling to get out in air ,for those feelings .If you are making them rush they will go nowhere but will make you choke.So just take rest and let them go down and rest at the bottom.Trust me, there's lot of peace ,down there.So,just take deep breaths and relax!!!!Now go get some sleep you over thinker insomniac!!!