How do I forget something bad from my past?
I guess that's something I've thought about.. kind of like a new slate I suppose. It's a great idea but unfortunately it doesn't quite work. Life puts us on the roller coaster and sometimes we face things that may feel a little out of our control. I'm not sure what exactly happened to you but I do know the next courageous thing that could work - is to face it. If its something you did, forgive yourself and don't be afraid to be who you are. If its something that's outside of you, maybe take it to your stride and see who sticks by you in times like this. Take all these things as learning experiences instead of trying to find ways to run away from them. The running away, never quite helps :) Email me if you need to talk! :)
I feel regret and guilt over something I did in the past. I feel I am not that good person. What should I do? How do I gain that trust and belief in myself again?
Hi,I don’t know what exactly happened so i cant comment over how to compensate, but i can sense that you have realization that you have done something wrong and this is the first step that you are already doing something to improve the situation. there are lot of people who do mistakes infact sins without having any realization for their acts so trust me you are at better place.. Guilt is the worst feeling and i can say that because i have spent 5 nights without sleeping when i was feeling guilt for my deed.Think about it ,what can make the compensation. work on it. Do something which can make someone feel better. Good deeds always works!See you cannot do anything about the past. the all you can do is try to rectify your actions. you feel sorry, accept it. make confession to someone what have you done you will feel light and something will come out which can help you to overcome from this.You are a nice person this is why you are thinking this much. Don’t feel disappointed and worthless. trust yourself you are better person and you can do things which can make you better person.Everything is in your hand. you jut have to try. when you will make someone smile you will start feeling okay. Feed to the needy people,try to talk to people who are suffering with problems,spend time with your family the way they reciprocate really sooth the soul, Read a good book to divert yourself are some of the thing which can make a person feel better in these situations.. Best of Luck!
How can i stop worrying about something in the past?
Try to recognize that it is in the past. You cannot change the past but you can find ways to cope with the present if the past is still upsetting you. Each time you start worrying about the past, distract yourself by choosing to focus on the present and what you can do to have an affect on the present. I hope you will be able to settle yourself down. Good Luck.
What does "need to get past something" mean?
It means you need to stop thinking and talking about a particular subject, person, or thing that happened to you. You need to move on and not obsess about the past.If my friend keeps talking about her ex-husband, I might tell her, “You need to get past this.” It means that there’s nothing to be done about the past situation, and it’s best to leave it in the past. She needs to start thinking about the future.It can also be used when a person is going through a period of intense suffering or anxiety. A parent whose child is in the intensive care unit of a hospital may say “we just need to get past this,” meaning “we’re taking this a day at a time, we hope for the best, we will be glad when the emergency is behind us.”
How do I get over bad things I've done in the past?
Your conscience is bothering you. That’s a very good thing. Some people never feel guilt or shame about past transgressions or even give it a second thought. These people are lost causes and can even be dangerous. I’m glad you’re not “that guy”. :-) So far so good.It’s part of our human nature to want to escape psychological pain, which is why you’re seeking a way to “get over” the bad things you’ve done in the past. But, I must tell you that for that to happen, you’re going to have to refocus your attention from yourself onto those you have harmed. Would you like to help them to “get over it”? It takes great humility and courage. Are you up to it?The ideal scenario would be if you can contact those you’ve injured either emotionally or physically and apologize with deep sincerity, letting them know just how aware you are of the pain you caused and that you are working hard toward turning your life around, beginning by asking the forgiveness of the injured parties. Talk is cheap, so it’s imperative that you prove yourself by asking what you can do, anything at all, to begin to make up for the damage you did. Only the most hardened hearts would not be touched by such a sincere attempt to reach out and do whatever it takes to make amends.If, for whatever reason, that simply is not possible, then the alternative is to help others in need, either through volunteer work or even just by helping a neighbor who could use a helping hand. The more people you help, the more you extend yourself, the more you show yourself and the world that you are a good and worthy soul. You have not only hurt others, but your past hurtful actions have also caused great damage to your spiritual self that must be healed.Don’t expect to ever get completely “over it”. There will always be a small place in your heart, mind, and soul that holds the scar tissue from the healed wound. It’s there to remind you that you (we all) have a dark side that can rear its ugly head at any time and overtake our life if we’re not vigilant. The idea is to heal the wound but cherish the scar. It will keep you honest.
Dwelling on the past?
My interest is in the future because I am going to spend the rest of my life there. Life is what happens while you are making other plans. Enjoy life. There's plenty of time to be dead Don't take life too seriously, you won't get out alive. What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner. I'm not too sure which one would fit your needs more, so i got several with slightly different tones, enjoy!
What's the difference between "get past something" and "get over something"?
Get past something1. To overcome or forget something that has happened in the past.e.g. : I am sorry but I will never be able to get past the fact that they blackmailed us into the deal.2. To be able to past an obstacle.e.g. : I need to get past that mountain to reach the ashram.3. To move ahead of something.e.g. : That person is driving so slow. Let’s move past him/her.4. To get past someone(mainly a governing body or authority)e.g. : The bill must get past the Congress before it becomes a law.Get over something1. To overcome something or find a solution to a problem.e.g. : We’ve had to get over the massive meltdown in economy to make our company public.2. To accept an emotional state of a person or the difficulties in his/her life.e.g. : After couple of years, John finally got over his breakup and moved on in his life.3. To recover from a physical injury or ailment.e.g. : I’d love to play tennis, but I’m still trying to get over this knee injury.Have a good day !
How can I get over things from the past that still hurt inside and still make me angry?
A2A. With me, it took time. I used to not be able to forget or forgive anything. I still have my bad days but after I had a huge scare with my health, I'm determined to let things go more quickly.It may sound like an cop out but when we hold onto things, it's not the people who have wronged us who hurt the most. We hurt ourselves.They say stress is a killer and that is absolutely right. Refusing to let something die poisons you from within while the fools go on with their lives. It doesn't bother them in the least.One thing I've learned is when you let go of the negative energy, you begin to feel much lighter and productive. I used to think God moved too slowly. He doesn't.Through much prayer and patience I have witnessed the downfall of a lot of enemies. In every incident, he did it much better than anything I could've dreamed of. Much better.I wasn't sitting waiting for something to happen. I simply went on with my life.Sometimes when I think of things, something rises up in me and I have to redirect my thoughts.In the end, the people who hurt you aren't worth your stress and anger. They will get theirs in time. Forgiveness is for your sake. Not theirs.When you truly forgive people and Karma comes knocking on they're door, you won't laugh or feel giddy.You won't feel anything at all.
How do you get over something extremely, extremely mortifying?
Just realize that it was in the past. You cannot change what happened, but once you accept it, you'll be able to move on. Realize that no matter happened, everyone goes through tough times. There is not a single person on this site who has not had something mortifying happen to them. I bet at the very least one person out of the thousands of people on this site has had the exact same thing happen, some of whom may have lost people they care about as a result. Realize that each day that passes is another giant step away from that incident. Things will be ok. If you still are having a hard time, maybe go see a counselor or a person you trust. It may be difficult to tell people on this site what happened because we're strangers, but whether or not you talk to a counselor you don't know or a teacher you do, they are here to help you and have most likely heard of a situation similar to yours. Take care and try your best to keep looking forward (instead of back).