Why is my friend going down the wrong path in life?
I'm in a similar situation except its the complete opposite. My best friend used to be quiet (nice and fun to be around but quiet) until she got a part time job. Alot of guys became intersted in her, her confidence grew which was good at first but now its all gone to her head. She's slept with half the guys that work there and she's going out with her manager. She goes out drinking, she's become fussy over her food and i just dont know her anymore. She would talk down to me but when she screwed up (e.g got pregant 3 times) she came craling back to me and i had to sort her out. Now i'm not just turning this question about myself i'm just trying to relate to you. This is what i've learnt: YOU HAVE NO CONTROL. You cant control her, you cant even suggest things because at a time like this "she knows best blah blah blah". You warn her and she just wont listen thats what i found. Then things go wrong she comes crying back to you saying "i should have listened..." and then they go and do it again. This has happened with a few of my other friends, to seems to be a phase they go through before they settle down and land back on their feet. I think i'm immune to it lol sounds like you are to, thats a good thing. The best you can do is comfort and support her. Let her know your always there to talk if she wants to and let her know you care what happens to her. This will tie her down a little bit and hopefully she'll pull through. If things do start to get really serious then i'd tell an adult or her parents which i've considered but i have faith in my friend because i know who she truley is. I hope everything works out and she sticks to the right road. Be the good friend that you are and hope for the best. .ᄂIᄂΥ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ -xXx-
I want my ex girlfriend back so badly, please help?
Out of nowhere last week or so she broke up with me because I 'didn't give her enough space' and stuff like that. She suffers from really bad depression and says that a relationship sometimes is too much stress for her. How can I make a relationship less stressful? And I love her so much, and I think she does too. So anyway, I didn't call her once this week, Thursday we had a bit of a chat for like an hour and half or so to catch up because we've never not spoken for that long because we've been best friends for such a long time, even before we were dating (we dated for 3 months). We were talking and she was like, 'I miss you' and stuff like that. So anyway, I saw her on Friday for about an hour and she wasn't doing good, and I got really upset about how we should be together. She gave me this letter she wrote which was really sweet and said amazingly nice things in it. I then on Friday night sent her a really long text about how much I love her and stuff like that. This morning I saw her and we've planned to do something tomorrow, we are going to go out for some lunch and then she's going to come back to my house and we are going to watch a movie and then I was thinking about maybe trying to rekindle our relationship. How would I do that? But this morning she wasn't doing good either, she seemed quite upset and down just about everything. It's my birthday on Friday and I really want to do something with her, because regardless of what happened between us, she is still my best friend, but it is killing me inside seeing her and not being able to actually 'be' with her. I just want her back in my arms again. What should I do about all of this? I'm madly in love with her and like right now I want to call her so bad. Should I? Or should I leave it? What are the best techniques to making her like me again? Please help, any other advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Always feeling paranoid, is there something wrong with me?
Whenever I go outside I feel like people are watching me all the time, thing is I get very embrassed and stressed from that and think alot about not trying to do anything stupid to embrass myself in front of people. Like yesterday I went to a library, it was unexpectedly packed with people while I tried returning some books... feeling totally watched and embrassed I ended up pretending to use the toilets and quickly walked back out. Is there a mental problem or issue with me? My best freind just thinks that I have low self-esteem and nothing more.
Overthinking is ruining my life - to the point where I overthink myself out of living. Why do I do this, and what should I do? I do suffer from severe social phobia and depression and have been through severe abuse in my life.
One day I came up with really great article about overthinking and I really want to share it with you.It could change your lifeThere are pointed out 10 points how you can stop Overthinking:Overthinking does not lead to insight. You want an understanding of which decision will be best. For this, you need a level of insight into what each decision will lead to. Thinking this through, however, is futile.You never, ever know what something will be like until you experience it.Your decision will never be final. Over-thinking often comes from the notion that you will make a grand finale decision that will never change and must be correct.Learn the reasons why over-thinking is harmful, and let it motivate you. Stress only occurred if the individual engaged in negative over-thinking about the events.Do physical activities throughout the day. Do you want to know one of the main reasons you over-think? It’s because you have the time to. Consider daily exercise—any physical activity that raises heart rate and improves health.Become the ultimate skeptic. If you think about what causes thinking to be so stressful and tiring, it’s often our personal convictions that our thoughts are actually true.Seek social support, but don’t vent. It is really powerful impact of social support in the reduction of stress.Develop the skill of forgiveness. It’s special because it, single-handedly, can induce the ultimate peace in people.Plan for conscious distraction. When you know the time of day rumination will begin, you can plan to remove that spare time with an activity that engages your full facultiesSolve another person’s problem first, and get perspective. Helping others puts your issues in order by reminding you that we all go through tough times, some much more than you ever will.Remember that a perfect decision is never a bold one, so get started. When your final years are approaching, you will not worry about how well you thought through your decisions, or how thoroughly and accurately you approached life’s forks in the road. You will rest happily knowing you lived true to yourself, acted with confidence, and stood up for what you believed in.Here is full article - 10 Ways to Stop Overthinking and Start LivingI hope this helps! ;)
Why does school depress me?
in short, excuse my language, because school fucking sucks.we wake up freakishly early. as teenagers, our brains are literally not ready to think at 7 am. our circadian rhythms are different than adults and little kids, which is why we stay up late and sleep in. We aren't LAZY, we sleep the same amount, we just do it at a different time. But for school, we are forced to wake up, when our brains are being programmed to sleep more.We sit in our chairs and listen to someone talk at us for 7 hours straight. What ISNT depressing about that? We’ve had the same school system since the industrial revolution, where kids were basically taught to go into factories. Luckily theres more research coming out about hands-on-learning and stuff like that.after suffering through the day, we come home, sit at another desk, and do more work for three more hours. We already spent so much time learning stuff, and now we have to do more. Its exhausting, and its impractical.On top of the physical and academic hardships, we have to deal with the ridiculous amounts of social problems and drama. In high school this improves significantly from middle school, but god if it isn't still there. Our adolescent minds want one thing - acceptance from our peers. even us “weird” kids want that. People stress about who likes who, who’s friends with who, do enough people like them. and that is horrible in its own right.School is a terrible system. Learning is fantastic, and I love it, but our current school system is so fucked that instead it literally gives us all clinical depression.
Can a 16 year old get Alzheimer's disease? PLEASE HELP!?
It's the mad cow (TM Denny Crane)
My 18 year old dog is on his way out, he's been laying in the same spot all day. I think he is finally giving up. Is there anything I can do to "help him along," or at least make him more comfortable in his remaining time?
Hug him. Cuddle with him. Lay with him. You have been the most important thing to him for his entire life. If he's responsive when you pet him, that's what he wants. It is better for him to pass in your arms than on a sterile table at a vet. If you decide to have the vet put him down, be there with him when he goes. He'll be really scared and he will really really want you there.Many vets will come to your home to ease the passing of your friend. Make a few calls.Please don't let your dog suffer longer than necessary. Many people believe that letting them go "naturally" is kinder, but after 6 years in vet med, I firmly believe this is not true. Euthanasia is one of the kindest gifts we can give our pets when they are suffering.When we put my dog down, they came to our place. The dogs are more comfortable in a setting that they recognize. Don't leave him alone though! If they are left alone without someone they know, their stress increases and so does their heart beat. I'm an Animal Rescue Officer, and I have to help put animals down all the time.(creddit) http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddi...