How to get along better with my mom...?
Ok my mom and I never really have seen eye-to-eye. I am 14 almost 15 and I am very open with people I speak my mind. And I like all kinds of people. I am friends with all the goths and emos and scene kids. Like I don't look at that I just look at if you are a good person and nice and not into drugs and crap. Well like my mom doesn't really like the emos or goths. She also tells me to lose weight when she needs to look in the mirror...she hates my music and just doesn't understand me at all! She always asks me why don't I ever smile when I am around her. And its like because u nag me to death and don't want me to be my own person! But I don't tell her that because I am just trying to let it blow over...I want a good relationship with my mom, I don't want to get out of high school then go away to college and not talk to her and not keep that mother-daughter relationship. How can I get it back to the way it was when I was younger and keep it that way. I want my kids when I have themto con
What should I do if my wife and my mother don't get along well?
You have to live separately from your parents for the sake of peace and quiet. That doesn't mean you don't care for them financially, emotionally etc. You should continue to give them the consideration and support that they need. That also doesn't mean one side is more important than the other. It just means you value your quality of life.Your wife doesn't owe your parents anything. She will not feel the same about them just like you won't about her parents. Acknowledge that. If you are all getting baking then wonderful. But if you are not, atleast you can keep some dignity in the relationships.I can tell you by experience that wife and mil dont get along in most cases. No matter how much you try to be nice and understanding to both of them, most people don't share well. At some point, you have to just compromise and not force the issue with them. After all both are adults capable of knowing what they want.To my way of thinking, she may have married into your family. You and your family have the extra responsibility to make nice with her. She maybe a working woman with goals and amibitions and different priorities than your orthodox families would expect. She maybe a nice girl or a crazed person or your parents maybe decent folks or monsters in law. I don't know which combination you are facing. No matter who the crazy person is, the fact is they will stay crazed for life. Trying to mend broken fences again and again is like wasting years of your life chasing your own tail. You will never get anywhere. They are adults so let them figure it out. Keep them separate if things get nasty. Bring them near if they show signs of getting along.Life is never a straight line, there are many bends and turns. People loose sight of the important things that matter. Atleast you don't have to be miserable the entire time banging your head on rocks.
How do I get my parents back together?
Well i had the exact same situation happen to me. My parents seperated a year ago after 16 years of marrige and my mom moved across the country as well. And in the beginning I wished so bad that they would get back togerther so we could be a family again. However i understand now that it was for the best. My mom was sufferin trying to get loved by a man who showed no effort to love her back, no matter how hard she tried. So im not saying theres no hope for them, just o keep in mind what your mom was being forced to go through and to keep the option open that maybe they wont get back together and youll have to cope with that, which is the exact same thing I had to do and yeah i miss my mom and having a happy family, but i would never wish for anyone to go through what she had to go through. I wish you and your family the best of luck.
How can I get my parents to stay together?
Your parents seem to have gradually lost mutual and individual confidences over the years. As children you can help bridge the gap of mutual trust between them and keep them mutually concerned, connected and united. You have to keep on asking both of them how much you need the paternal care as well as maternal love, how you are compelled to live a disarranged life, how uncertain you feel about your future, how much you love and miss them together etc. You may cite examples of happy families.You may give them sermons on love, trust, family bondages, duties of a husband, wife, mother and father or parents, ups and downs in life, comradeship etc. You have to keep on talking individually quite often. You have to remind your mother that one shouldn't leave an old, ailing husband alone and uncared. You should tell her how much you feel about your duty to nurse him.Similarly you should remind your father that in times of financial crisis, it was not proper of him to leave his wife and three children to the mercy of God and escape, instead of trying to find a way out.Ask them that millions have faced financial crisis, but they have fought together, suffered together and consequently emerged together. Separation offers no solution, which can only be found out with a joint effort. You can tell them that you are ready to reduce your requirements and expenses, and even work part time, if need be and permitted.I hope they will soon realize and come together again for the sake of children. As a sensitive children, you have much influence over each of your family and your love for them will soon be rewarded and reciprocated in many ways. God Bless !ईश्वर- अल्लाह तेरो नाम, सबको संमति दे भगवान..!May God give wisdom to all..!
How can I make my dad love my mom again?
The main thing Sam is know that no matter what happens between your Mom and Dad is that they Both Love you and this has nothing to do with you whatsoever!!!!!! Sometimes parents get married too young, Some just like the idea of being married until they get married and realize this is not for them. There are allot of different reasons why couples don't stay together and as hard as it seems to be its actually better they separate than to try and live together and fight and fuss all the time. Just remember, they both love and adore you so get any ideas out of your head it has anything to do with you and ignore the smart comments others make on here. Obviously their parents stayed together and didn't bother to teach them they need to be nice to others. Hope it all works out and when you are with one or both of your parents and one of them starts talking bad about the other, just stop them and say " Hey, I really don't appreciate you talking about my Mom/Dad like that" So if you don't mind I would appreciate if you didn't say anything negative about them to me.
My parents are not happy together, what can I do?
honestly? nothing... tell the you love each of them and let them live their lives, together or apart. Golf or any hobby/passion can destroy a relationship, because the energy is taken by this special thing, as well as available time. But you cannot change what people like. And there is nothing you can do, think of, wish, dream of, etc, to improve their relationship if the two main characters don't feel like it. Maybe after a few months or years apart they can learn to be together again, but maybe not.When they got married, they looked at each other with starry eyes. Now, they don't even see each other. The only person who could change things is your dad, but that means putting your mom through an ultimatum: golf or me, meaning he's leaving if it stays this way. Now, it implies for him to be real and say it's over if it does not change, and more difficult either, replace the emptiness the lack of golf left in your mom by more love, company, seduction, etc. Almost impossible to do. Or send your mom to a psychologist to dig in her mind why golf. Takes years, and no answer is guaranteed.
I've been trying to go into the military. My mom and dad don't always get along, and if I leave, I think my mom will leave my dad. What should I do?
You are not responsible for your parents’ marriage. Do what you feel is best for you.Enter the military if that is your wish. No matter what happens in your parents’ marriage continue to love and support both of them.Let them know that you understand this is a trying time for all of you but that you will not allow them to engage in bad mouthing the other to you. The situation is theirs to figure out. Love both of them but set boundaries. Don’t be drawn into the he said/she said arguments or discussions. It will only cause stress and heartache.I went through a difficult period after my ex left me for another woman, I tried very hard not to draw the children into the fray or place them in the middle of the situation. I was not always successful in that regard but I did try very hard not to engage them in what was happening between their father and I.Remember you are not responsible for their marriage - they are. You do not have a pony in this race.Continue to love and communicate with both your parents, Support them in their decisions whether you agree with them or not. Your father’s health is a legitimate concern and I feel for you,Whatever your parents choose they will always be your parents so love them and support them but do not put yourself in the middle - let them sort things out their way.Good luck to you in all your endeavours
What do I do if my dad hit my mom when he was drunk for the first time?
That depends on the situation, but first you need to stop you dad from hitting her again, by talking to him.As I mentioned it depends on the situation and you are the one who knows it, if your parents are getting along together and major problems between them, then you need to talk to your day after he is sober and encourage him not to try to do it again, your father is a human and he may have been under pressure, that does not mean it is ok to hit his wife (your mom) but he is a human and human make mistakes, but it there are major problems, then your parents need to divorce.I gave the extreme situations and you are the one to know what to do.