??? 7 year vow renewal ??
Have a some questions? 1. Do you have to do the renewal on your wedding date? 2. We got married at the court house and had a little party at my aunt's house with my family. We would love to go it in his home state so his family could be there. Would it be ok to do a bigger wedding so I could have a real wedding dress or would that be weird? 3. Also how could we have our kids be apart of this whole thing? Our son will be 13 and our daughters will be 11 and 7. Our two oldest are mine from an ex but he has been with us since they were 3 and 18mos. They always tell everyone since the day we got married they have two dads and he treats them like his owns. We would love to do something special for them since we didn't get to in the 1st one since we went to the court house to get married but unsure how or what to do for all of them. We are doing a 7 year vow renewal because 7 is our number. Long story short. We worked together he always saw me in my department on aisle 7 so when he asked me to be his girlfriend he gave me a necklace with the number 7 on it. That year will always be our 10 year of being bf/gf. Please any thoughts would be great. We are just starting the planning. Thank you.
How do you get your girlfriend to trust and love you again?
The first word that rings my (alarm)bell is “again.” If that is the case, regaining her trust, is to listen to her.Talk with eachother. A lot. Get out of the house and go to neutral places where you have no memories together. Where you can build a fresh one. Be understanding. Don't act understanding, but really be understanding. Accept what she says and ask what you don't understand.Show her you are willing to put real effort in your future together. Be very patient!If you have difficulty talking, write her an old fashioned letter. Not an email, but a letter. You can type it, print it and sign it if you have a difficult to read handwriting but make your apology come from the bottom of your heart, be sincere and open to whatever the future might hold.Good luck!
How do I get back my ex-girlfriend if she has a new lover?
When a girl gets over a guy, she usually won’t fall for him again.Speaking from experience; I loved a guy. He was nice, cute, and I felt like we had something. But then, one day he left me for another girl. I was crushed. So what did I do?I cried.I cried. Fought against the urge to text him again. Confided in friends. Ate junk food. Watched a bunch of chick flics. Listened to some sad music… etc.I did whatever I could in order to grieve and get it out of my system. I wanted him back, but I knew that he didn’t want the same thing. I respected his wishes, the same way I hope for people to respect my own wishes.It sucks, I know. But that’s life.Eventually after much needed grieving, I felt better. I stopped thinking about him.I even began questioning why I would want to date someone who doesn’t want me back.That was the moment I realised that I had gained self respect; the simple fact that I wanted equity in a relationship, that I wanted mutual interest.You get what I’m saying? If she’s really over you, it means that she’s passed by the grieving phase and is now in full acceptance that the relationship is over. It can’t be saved, and even then, would the relationship really be same knowing that she’s once given up on the relationship?Personally, if my ex asked to have me back, I would say no to him. Doesn’t matter if he’s grown or matured, fact remains that the experience I had because of him had allowed for me to grow as an individual. I learned from having grieved over him, and am now proud of myself for having moving on from him.So why would I want to go back? I would feel like I have regressed as a person in doing so.I’m sorry. I know you wanted advice on how to get her back, but I feel like the best course of option for you is to just move on as well.Love is mutual, obsession is not.
What is the best answer when your girlfriend asks "Why do you love me so much"?
She always asked me even after our breakup when I asked her to come back than also she asked me the same question Why do you love me? You can get much better girl than me.And my answer was always There is no reason to love someone. If you truly love someone than you never need any reason to love them. And if you find a reason than you don't love them you just like them for that particular reason. Love is something which doesn't need any quality to fall for but crush and like are only because for some quality of other person.If you say that you love her for that quality it simply means you might love some other person too with the similar quality or better quality. But if you can't decide the reason why you love them. Than my friend you are in love.Like you don't need any reason to love your parents. You love them and will always do without any reason similarly you don't need any reason to love your wife or girlfriend. And if you find one that love may not be a love it might be some crush or like.So whenever she asked me why I love her I always replied that I really don't know and I don't need any reason to love you. You may get many crushes because of some traits of theirs but you will fall for only one and that is love. Love is an eternal feeling which can't be tell. It just happens and its very beautiful.
How to Get my girlfriend to Forgive me?
I haven’t done anything wrong I never cheated her I am decent guy have been loyal rather I have refused dozens of proposal just for the sake of love, I am qualified guy have bachelors degree in engineering and masters in business administration the conflict is not I cheated her or not the issue started because I am living in a small town don’t have that kind of job I deserve we were supposed to marry I made her to wait because of financial problems I made her to wait just to give her good life and what answers I am getting ,Gosh “I deserve it” some one replied “I cant force anyone to love me “if it was so why did she made me to love her intensely why didn’t she left me rt. then its not an affair of a day or a month or year we know each other from last 6 years we are in an affair from last 6 years I did nothing wrong I have been forgiving her for her mistakes I did nothing wrong even then I am begging her crying apologizing for all that I never did
My girlfriend says she doesn't love me the way she used to. What do I do?
The feeling of being inlove is always fleeting. But if you decided to love that person for a lifetime, you can always find ways to renew your love every single time. Maybe it is because of overfamiliarity, yoi don’t excite her as much as before, she knew you all too well and you don’t interest her anymore, or maybe your relationship starts to get a little to boring.I suggest that you try to court her again, just like before, go to places where your emotions will soar, bringing again the feeling of ecstacy on the first stages of your relationship. Show to her why she loved you, and try a new side to you that she hasn’t seen before.Try to bond more, do more exciting activities, maybe she just misses the old you, the one who efforts to show her how much you really care. Make her see that you truly love her and that you need her. Not in a clingy sort of way. But at the same time, show to her that you are ready to let her go, if letting her go will make her happier than staying, all because of your love for her.But if all of these failed, it’s not your problem anymore. Somewhere into your relationship, your girlfriend already has moved on.
Why do I keep having dreams about my first love, my girlfriend five years back when she was 15 and I was 19 in preparatory school?
It sounds like the experience awakened something deep in your unconscious, perhaps a connection to your own inner feminine. Your dreams could be a way to renew that connection.
My girlfriend wants me to promise to spend the rest of our lives together or else she will leave me.?
Tell her it would be wrong to make a committment that NEITHER of you can be sure you will keep. Even after a year together, that is MUCH, MUCH too soon to make those kinds of promises and statistically you do need to take it easy even if things seem perfect now. At least three, and maybe even seven years would be more reasonable if you've any sense. Be gentle with her as she's come from a chaotic home background. Tell her you WANT to stay together, and that you promise you'll try, and you hope that that will happen, and that you hope she does too. Her making threats to leave is not a good start. "You stay with me and I'll stay with you".
How do I know shes not using me for a greencard?
This is going to be a long. Please help me , i have no one else to turn to , this is a very serious issue here. I appreciate this, Thanks. Heres the issue, I met a girl whom is much younger then me. She is from another country but she is here now working off the books and supposed to be on a student program. J1 im not sure or f1. Dont quote me .She has been here for many years and hasnt been home to visit her family. She wants to stay here and start a life , school and career. I met here here in Florida walking in a mall we became friends. We been togerther as BF and GF for 5 months. She treats me like a king, No complaints. She says she loves me and shows it and i lvoe her too. This seems like the perfect situation except for one thing that happened recently. Now she asked me to marry her , she needs her greencard so she can visit her family and so she wil be let back and forth from her home country to here .and so she can get low tuition and work permits. She admitted this to me. I told her you dont really love me then you want to use me. She said she does love me but she also needs her legal papers too. I told her i love you but not ready for marriage right now. Financially and for many other career reasons. She said if i love her i would be helping her. And she said if we love each other what is stopping her. I told her i cant engage into illegal activity and greencard fraud when i sincerly cant marry you right now . Dont pressure me to do something that can get me criminal prosecution . Then she told me we are goning to get married anyways oneday so lets do it asap. Then she siad she just wants to be my friend because i really dont love her .and i cant do that for her . I told her friends dont use each other and put other friends in jeopardy with situations that can be harmfull. I said you really dont love me either then. But she still begs me to be her friend after all this . WHY ? Please tell me what you would do if you were in my shoes. I just feel this girl may still love me but has alterior motives and can never trust her in the future as a lover or friend. What woudl you make of this? Should i be her friend still or just slowly drift away in time. I dont know if shes sincere and i never will. PLease give me all your feelings on this. Be hard and true. thanks