How To Spank A 8 Yr And 13 Yr Old

Do you spank 13 year olds?

If your friend is still spanking a 13 year old something is terribly wrong. Spanking should be a rare or non-event (meek child) in any child's life. Children that age can be disciplined by engaging them in conversation, lecture, grounding, love (yes!), appropriate shame or getting privileges taken away. How embarrassing and silly to be hitting a child that age/size. Worse yet is that the spanking would be seen by a friend or anyone else. Discipline is very private and if not done fearfully and correctly could easily turn into mental or physical abuse. Also regarding slapping that should be a big no no. A slap is very insulting. Yikes to the person to suggest slapping a child on the back. And a child should never EVER be hit in the face. People used to dual to the death over a slap to the face! Discipline should be corrective and not humiliating. If someone starts to hit their child in front of me, I immediately get indignant and tell them, "do not do that foolishness in front of me". That's Southern code language for what are you stupid or something.

How to spank a 8 yr and 13 yr old?

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There are several different ways children can react to corporal punishment. It moderate punishment to
some children and illogical consequence to other children. If spanking is effective for your child, you
shouldn't have to spank more than once within week for same behavior. Persistently spanking when
it ineffective for that child, behavior, or situation is counterproductive and wrong.

I recommend using logical consequences that reasonable such as positive communication.
I statement: I feel Your Emotion when you What Behavior Bother You. I want What You
Want Her to Stop Doing, Do instead, or Both, so How That Suggestion Create Harmony.
Quote: “When you finished your responsibilities, than you earned your privileges"

Withholding favorite activities and possessions for 5 days of being respectful. During free time, encourage
your daughter to do community service projects, read educational books, or spend quality time with you.
Don’t add days and don’t reset days. If she disrespect, that day don't count toward “the days of behaving”
Remind her the number of day(s) left to earn back all privileges. Consistently convey your expectations.

Redirection: So her attention is focused on doing acceptable activity. Guide to recreational activity where
her feelings or energy can be express in proper manner; Show by example. List of recreational activities:
Drawing, singing, writing in journal, dancing to music, martial arts, playing musical instrument, bicycling,
reading books, playing sport, making jewelry, role-playing, etc. She can join youth organization.
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How to spank an 8 year old girl?

Firstly, I do not believe that spanking is the best option, but if all else has failed and you think that spanking is the only option then please follow these ground rules.
1) NEVER spank your child out of anger or if you are angry. Send her to her room take time to cool off and then approach the situation.( by the time you go to her, you may have already found a different or better way to deal with her bad behavior)
2) NEVER use anything other then an open hand
3) be reasonable about the number of times you hit her, she is only a child and should be hit more then 2 or 3 times, only hit her on her bottom and make sure you aren't pulling on her or holding her in a way that she could be seriously injured if she tries to pull away
4) be mindful of your own personal strength, once again she is only a child and shouldn't be subjected to your full strength bearing down on her sensitive tush. Always think about the fact you wouldn't want to be hit full tilt by someone 3 times your size.
5) make sure that you explain why she is being punished before you spank her. She wont learn anything just from being beat on.
6) Go somewhere private (bedroom, bathroom ect.)
7) when you are done leave her in a quite place to recover and regain her composer and you go somewhere to cool off too
8) after everything is said and done go to your daughter tell her you love her and move forward.
9) never apologize for disciplining her as it will make it seem as though you are in the wrong

I hope you can find a different way of dealing with your child's naughty behavior, but if not make sure you use restraint and be compassionate about handing out physical punishment.

How should I spank my 8 year old?

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How to spank a five year old?

Before using spankings you need to decide whether or not that works for you and your child. If not it is completely useless and absolutely no good comes from it. I've personally been spanked (can't even barely remember it now - I'm completely non violent as an adult - so no bad came from it) but have never spanked any of my kids. I don't really have a reason that I haven't it just is not the style of discipline I use. Spanking is more of a slap on the hand NOT a beating - just keep that in mind if this is what you choose. I'd rather see a kid get a light spanking then being a brat without any discipline - which leads to other problems.

Spanking a 12 year old?

I am a "spanking parent" ,too. I try to always find another way to deal with the problem, but sometimes a spanking IS the way it needs to be dealt with.
I have had two twelve year olds and it did seem a little odd to me to have to spank them at 12. I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all, it just felt different than spanking my little ones. It seemed as though it was a little more of a humiliation thing rather than a discipline thing, although they never told me this. It was just my own feelings.
As far as stopping now that she's 12, I don't think there is any set answer for this. I think you have to take the mental development of the child into consideration. Also, how does it make you feel? Are you confident that you are doing the right thing when you spank her at 12? Or, like me, does it feel somehow, not fitting?
Your daughter makes a good point saying she feels more 'forgiven' when she gets a spanking...because when she gets spanked, it's over and it's done with. No long drawn out punishment. However, maybe she needs to have the long drawn out punishment, sometimes. I don't really see that letting a chide pick their own punishment is actually a punishment. In my opinion, if a child has earned a punishment, they have "dis-earned" the right to make a decision on that punishment.
That's just my opinion. Like I said, I don't really think there is a right or wrong answer here and every parent has to evaluate each situation individually.

Spanking a 13 year old?

i grew up in a house where i was spanked until the age of five ( it stopped after i was at a friend's house next door, she had really strict parents and her dad wanted to talk to me after i did something he felt was wrong, i ran home crying because i thought he was going to spank me) my dad felt terrible after that and never spanked me again, never yelled either. i did the normal things that teens do but never anything too bad, i turned out fine and was never really punished. not only is that a ridiculous reason for punishment, but it is a degrading way to do it (especially for a 13 year old) there is nothing you can really do because it wont be seen as child abuse. let her come over whenever she wants and show her that thats not the way she or your daughter is treated at your house. all you can do is hope she wont turn out like mom.

Would you ever Spank a 13 year old?

Sounds as though his father should have been spanking his little butt about 7 or 8 years ago.

But if he is "always disruptive at school", it could be he has learning disabilities ... or could be extremely bright and totally bored.

He swears and cusses?

He is 13 years old. He has been attending church with his parents for 13 years and he still swears and cusses? Again, sounds like it could be a mental disorder.
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Or maybe he is being bullied at school (and at home?).
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However, if he is being a spoiled BRAT, then maybe try taking away privileges, "grounding", and even a sore butt for him to think about. If he is acting like a spoiled brat, then treat him like a spoiled brat should be treated ... though it sure ain't a treat getting whacked. BUT ONLY if you are sure there isn't some underlying or overlying cause for his actions.
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