How to get two people to stop hating each other?
Leave them alone let them do it on their own because then you're gonna be with the short end of the stick
The answer is never. Before you become discouraged, read this with an open mind. People are always going to hate. No matter how good of a person you are, no matter how much you accomplish in life, there will always be people who won’t like you. You could save world hunger and there would still be people out there that retort with, “Well, they could have done it sooner.” The point of this post is to show that you cannot please everyone. Whether you are religious or not, think about Jesus. He was hated by so many people and now he is considered to be one of the most influential people that walked the planet.It is so important to remember to stay true to who you are. It is very easy for people to want to alter who they are because they aren’t liked by the people around them, but this is incredibly unfulfilling. As much as you try and change yourself, at the end of the day you are still you; embrace that and you will eventually attract people who love the real you.Also, what you are putting out in the world, you will eventually receive back. If you desired to be love, love others passionately. Karma is so relevant when it comes to this topic.
How can i stop hating myself?
i have a lot of problems with self-esteem, i always feel like a failure. i can't leave my house without my makeup on, but i always feel ugly. i do whatever i can to keep my skin beautiful. i obsess about my weight and i always feel fat. i only eat natural foods and very small portions. (even though i have a normal BMI) i'm really short and i feel like a freak. i'm also a ballet dancer, so i feel the need to be perfect whenever i dance. when i mess up (even in class) i want to melt into the floor. i'm 17 years old have been in ballet since i was 3. i know i have a talent, but i'm also afraid to admit it. my boyfriend tells me i'm perfect and tells me i'm beautiful. i don't know how to respond. he tells me that he loves me but i can't even love myself. i am a cancer survivor, but sometimes i feel like i didn't deserve to survive when i knew so many people who didn't. (i was diagnosed with leukemia when i was 12 and went into remission when i was 15) i'm failing 3 of my classes right now, simply because i can't pay attention in class. i'm always distracted by thinking about what other people think of me. i can't concentrate on anything and i feel like my life is falling apart. i LOVE my boyfriend, but i'm also afraid he's going to break up with me because i'm too ugly or too fat. (i know i'm not actually fat, but i'm a dancer so i HAVE to the thin!!!) i'm also afraid that i'm developing anorexia. i've gone days without eating and i've recently lost 6 pounds by not eating. i'm 4'10 and 84 pounds. how can i stop feeling FAT, even though i do understand that i'm not
How to stop hating your self?
I cant help feeling like a complete **** up and I've ****** up a lot of things in my life. I'm constantly tortured by a sense of failure. I feel like quitting all the time. It's this constant feeling of not having achieved enough. The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself. But it definitely helps. In a perfect world I would overcome the sense that I suck constantly. Emotionally I dwell on things forever. I'm an obsessive thinker. I obsess on things I've done wrong. Even worse than mistakes, I'll dwell on what I'm not doing at the moment and what my limitations are. I tend to blame myself for everything. There's an expression I've heard used for people in my shoes, people who see themselves like I see myself. I feel like I'm "the piece of **** at the center of the universe." It's a paradox. You feel like you're so shitty you ruin everything, but you're so important and powerful that you caused it, that you actually are to blame for everything. I'm doing the best I can, and maybe that's enough. why can i love my self and feel good about myself as a person?
No problem with you i guess.Maybe because people with whom you have been haven’t liked you.You weren’t rewarded in your workplace, others ditched you.People criticize you, despite they bearing no knowledge.Most people you meet with were hypocrites.Same way i do hate a lot of people.Its common to hate people, its your own mentally (but please don’t disrespect them).People are different, you are different, i am different.Same way as others love each other, we hate other people.I expect you have lot of reasons to hate others, same holds for me.And listen don’t sort this out with others, others will think you are an idiot, best is to surpass in your profession with your hatred.Lastly don’t forget to enjoy.
There is always a reason, just that you might not be aware of.These are some of the reasons why we tend to hate:1) opinions about certain people that are created in our minds(it could be due to past experiences with them/ similar people around you, or what you hear about them from others).2) we don't fully understand their reasons for what they do, and end up hating them.3) we expect them to behave the way we want them to behave (which never will happen)4) judging people or carrying along prejudices ( yes, so we create a certain image of certain people in our minds, and no matter what they do we end up hating them , even if that means that person does what we would have otherwise loved to happen)5) like the other person doesn't know you completely, the same way even you do not know the other person in and out (we often would not hate the person if we knew under what circumstances they do what they do) What you can do about it ?1) love yourself enough (when you do not love your own self, you end up not being able to love others)2) smile often, every time you see someone, greet them with a smile, your hate will lower down automatically3) Occupy your mind with positive and useful thoughts, you will find hatred going away.4) When the hate thought strikes your brain, give yourself a break, take a deep breath, walk around sometime in the open air, and them come back and think if you really need to hate someone.5) Remember that your hatred will not make someone to be the way you expect them to be. If all these do not help you, I just happened to come across this "Hatred is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"Now you can choose if you would want to poison yourself for no reason !
How can I stop hating myself?
I hope that you can learn to be as loving and understanding of yourself as you are others.I was the same way a hundred years ago, at your age. Try to build your self esteem. Work towards small goals and reward yourself when you meet them. Try researching different occupations online. Most community colleges&universities will give you a free test that will show you where your strengths&interests are. It will give you the top 3 occupations that would be best suited for you.Empower yourself by studying a drivers manual&learning the rules of the road. Apply for a volunteer position at a hospital , nursing home or animal shelter. These places are in desperate need of kind hearted, patient, loving people like you! Please, build up your confidence in yourself! Practice saying NO also so people don't try taking advantage of your kindness. Good luck! I have the feeling that you are one who'll go far in life.
How can I stop hating myself?
A psychologist, the late Dr Albert Ellis, was a pioneer in Rational Emotive Behavior. What that is about, is that it is not the events and situations of your life that cause most issues, it is your reaction and response to those issues. There are those that face challenges and grow stronger, and those that face challenges and feel defeat. Your problem, in this view, is that you have a self-defeat attitude. You can either see a therapist, and there are some that practice this theory, and part of it is that the cure is fast. This is a concept that says all you need to do is change the way you perceive things. You need to accentuate the positives. One problem in people is that they do not like to associate with people that have morose attitudes. People like happy people. Attitudes and appearances draw others to you, and the bad attitudes repel people from you. You need to relax, and inventory your situation. You have two wonderful children and a loving husband. You hopefully have a home that is welcoming. You can improve your diet and get more exercise to improve a physical appearance and metabolism. That gives you a better view of yourself externally and a better energy internally. A lot of guidance is here on that: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... The author Dr Suess wrote: Be who you are and say what you feel, because those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind. It is a way to understand, that if you are honest with the world and able to express your feelings, they should also be improved, and those that care about you, accept you for who you are. You are still young, and have many years ahead of you. You should focus on the present and the future. The past is an unchangeable item. It is set in stone and over. There is no changing and re-doing what has already occured. The value of examining the past, is only to learn from it. If you have learned everything you can about the past that has occurred, it is time to set it aside and ignore it as an enemy. Thinking back can do harm. Start the day tomorrow with a fresh outlook. Say a pleasant and cheerful good morning, make a good healthy breakfast, and hold the positive for the day. If you can continue, all will be well.