How can I stop thinking about girls?
As I can see you are 19 years old. This is a very vulnerable age for distractions, deviations and all. It happens with most of the people. But, in this age, youths have energy, enthusiasm and scope for the development. There are lots of ways which will help you to stop thinking about girls. Some of them are mentioned below:Challenge yourself: Make a habit of doing something that you thought you would never be able to do. For e.g: I won’t be able to solve Rubik’s cube within 30 secs, I won’t be able to memorise meaning of 3000 English words, I won’t be able to learn idioms and phrases etc. If you will start challenging yourself and try to compete yourself by practising a lot you won’t have time to think about girls.Respect yourself: Start respecting yourself. Instead of wasting energy and time upon the girls who don’t even give a damn about you, start investing that energy and time in development of your personality and skills so that you are better than yesterday. When you will start respecting & start thinking about yourself, you won’t have time for girls.Keep learning: I am saying it with solid proofs. A person can do anything and can create marvels. And you are just 19 there is lot of scope of development. In this age just learn all the things that you can learn. If you love dancing, great! learn some moves which are tough. You love guitar, play some notes which nobody can. You love mathematics, start solving some tough questions and participate in competitions. The habit of learning will take most of your time and it will finally turn you into something which girls will want desperately.
How to stop thinking about girls?
The reason people tell you that it's impossible is because humans do have a natural urge to think about/have sex, which is there so we can perpetuate the species. But it is true that it can be controlled. How is it done? With incredible self-control. (After all, you're fighting something that is essentially hard-wired into your brain.) You have to take it upon yourself to really take it seriously and focus on these other things instead. That's pretty much all you can do. You need to develop will power.
How can I stop worrying about my sexuality?
I'm a 22 year old guy and for several years I denied I was gay. I mean, I was conscious that having crushes on male friends and watching gay porn was not normal, but I always made an excuse. For example: - Watching gay porn. Excuse: I watch it because it's kinky, but I'm straight. - Male crush. Excuse: I'm only gay towards one guy, so I'm not really gay. - Checking out guys. Excuse: I'm just envious I don't look as hot as him. - No girlfriend. Excuse: It takes effort to get a girlfriend and I'm too lazy to get a girlfriend right now. ... You get the idea. I knew I was behaving as a gay guy, but I didn't take these signals as evidence that I was gay. After all, I don't act in any way similar to the gay stereotype. I was able to live normally like that until this semester. This semester I was taking a class with a lot of female classmates. When the semester started, I acknowledged that some of my female classmates were really hot. This was good because I thought that was a clear sign that I wasn't gay. However, we had one class towards the end of the semester in which a student from another section joined our class. When I saw this guy enter the classroom I just melted. He was soooooooooo hot. It was at this point that I realized I was gay. I just couldn't deny what had happened. I was surrounded by hot girls and yet I was only thinking about the hot guy in the class. The problem is that I'm constantly thinking about my sexuality since that day. Sometimes I'm thinking if there is a real way to stop being gay. Sometimes I'm thinking about what my family would think if they found out. Sometimes I consider how would my life be if I got a boyfriend. You can see were I'm going, I am over analyzing everything about my sexuality, and this is just unbearable. How can I stop this? What should I do?
How can you stop thinking about women?
One thing I’m sure of is that is somewhat a long journey that you have got to undertake. Some of the following tips will make thinking about woman and craving to have sex worse the first time but will help you getting rid definitely of the thoughts that mess with your mind afterward. Especially if it had taken a long time to be hardwired into your brain. So you will need to take time to rewire your brain reward system (3 months up to 3 years ) but in the process you’ll have a more successful attitude towards life in general, relationships and you'll have an overall better sex performance. Let’s say you’ll never be the same person.Stop Porn, movies, videos clips… stop anything that is a video or image that contains a girl in it.Stop having short relationships, that can hurt your limbic systemStop fappingStop social medias, especially if you’re chatting with girls oftenStop any addiction because that weaken you and refresh the dopamine circuitry , if you think you’re consuming sweet food a lot, consider stopping sugarAvoid looking at girls, or being in places where they are supposed to be.Avoid music altogetherPrayMeditate to control your thoughtsTake cold showersAvoid sport or physical activity unless absolutely necessary. Contrary to what people advice here, Sport will rise your testosterone level making your craving very hard to handle.Avoid sun exposure, the vitamin D is just a myth vs the skin cancer that is very real. And above all that what concern us here is the rise of the testosterone level.Avoid unnecessary stress and keep a relaxing routineAfter being successful for sometime, and you feel confident that you’re in complete control of your thoughts, you can try to get married with a woman you feel you can found a family. And enjoy!Good luck!
How to stop worrying about the smallest things (anxiety)?
Nost of the time thoughts are always running through my mind except when im really focused on something (such as music, having a conversation, tv, my hobbies etc) usually im thinking about one thing then i go to another then another. And the really bad part is that i worry about the smallest things. I focus on one negative thing that happened to me, then another. These thoughts distract me a lot and i lose focus on whatever on supposed to be doing. Like yesterday i was having fun learning a new routine in dance when i just suddenly thought of one bad thing and kept thinking about it. I just tuned everything out and focused on that negative thought. I had an anxiety attack twice. One was a couple months ago and one was a couple weeks ago. I think it was from stress from overthinking things so much. Im only 15 so my parents won't get me help (i've asked already, they won't do anything unless im dying) meditation doesnt really work cuz my thoughts usually wander and its hard to focus. I stress about the littlest things and when im really overwhelmed i feel like crying and i have gone somewhere in private to just cry my eyes out for not just one reason but a bunch of stuff combined. And nothing tragic has happened either. This is not depression cuz if it was i would never be happy and actually enjoy stuff i focus on. Its just me overthinking things! And please do not say this is pms or hormones!!! If it was i wouldnt be having anxiety every single day! (And i dont have social problems either) please give me tips and advice that could rid of my anxiety. How could i refocus my thoughts and not worry and think about every little thing that seems to stress me out?