How to tell your mom you want to live with your dad?
i dont know what to do. i know most people do this because there mom auses them but my mom is nice and trys to make a good life for me. i am 13 and a boy. i reason i want to live with my dad is because life here is really bad. we are really bad. we are really poor and its not fun here anymore. she has asked me if i wanted to live with my dad but i didnt know how to say it and felt it wasnt time so i just said no. also i dont want to live with my little sister.she is bi polar and never listens and runs away alot. we steals my stuff and almost killed me and my friend.she throw a knife at us and the handle hit him in the head/ she has really messed up my hand and chiped my tooth. i do somtimes hit her and yell at her but she never learns and my mom doesnt under stand when she does somthing like steal my stuff she just tells her to give it back. she never learns and just does it the next day. i know this doesnt seem like much of a problem but to me it is. i went to my dads for 2 weeks and its was great there and i got in with the feeling of living life like and when i got back i was like omg i have to live life that this again. i dont know if i am being selfish but i really want to live with my dad. plz someone awenser my ?.
How to tell my mom I want to live with my dad?
I love her so much and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I have to get out of this hell house. My step-dad is a druggie (found out last week) My mom is constantly yelling and putting me down, plus my step dad and mom fight to much My dad can be a dick head, but he has spent over 40,000 in court trying to get me. I truly bielve he loves me more. He has heart problems and was shot in the head four years ago. i don't think i have much time left with him and I want to live with him, but when i bring it up my mom cries :'(
How to tell your dad you want to live with your mom?
Alright,my parents are divorced,and on mondays and tuesdays and every other weekend,I live with my mom. She works nightshift as a nurse,so thats why we go to my dads on wensdays through friday and every other week. But I cant stand living at my dads. Its insanely small,and he never cleans. I try to clean but its too much for me to handle alone. I cant manage a five person family by myself. And our beds and sheets and blankets and couches and carpets and pillows havent been clean in months. Its a terrible place to live,and i have a brother with a disibility,and he leaves crumbs on our table,and everywhere,and my dad doesnt clean after it. He gets angry at my brother alot..and its caused alot of pain for him. For example,this morning he started crying and he wouldnt go out for the bus because he knew hed have to go to my dads house today. My mom talked to me about it (shes not angry with him,shes trying to help) and Im the only one who can really tell my dad about my brother and me. I really want to move out but i dont know if i can,because my mom wouldnt be there most of the time because she has to sleep,and shes gone working for most of the night. My mom has considered us moving in with her,and she said she would hire a baby sitter for all of us. (my two brothers and me) or my third brother,whos 20. He lost his job so he can look after us... So how can i tell him? Without him getting angry? (he gets angry ALOT...im afraid..)
How do I tell my dad that I want to live with my mom?
Why is it that you want to live with your mom?Are there practical reasons such as you relate better to her, she is more supportive or that you have a better relationship?If it is because she is more permissive or gives you less structure then as hard as it is those are not practical reasons and it will hurt you in the long run.Do you have a good relationship with your father?Does he treat you well and listen to you?Are you able to have a heart to heart with him and ask him for a few things that you would like to see change?If he is very strict for example maybe if you check in or have a cell phone and he picks you up you might have more freedom when you demonstrate that you are being responsible?I don't know your situation -you do- so try to think of how he feels on certain things, how you feel and then come up with solutions that meet in the middle fairly- you might have to lean a bit to your father to please him?Its hard to consider things from a parental perspective when you are young but parents have seen a lot and know the sorts of things that can happen from either personal experience or knowing someone who has gone through something.If after you talk to him and try to resolve things, ( after really thinking this through) and still feel strongly about living with your mother I would then discuss it with your mother.Unless he doesn't treat you well or there are issues, eg temper, addiction, abuse- in which case you should live with your mother immediately- maybe try to stay with your mother sometimes for ‘visits’ and if you truly feel that this is what you want it will give you a better sense of what it would be like living with her.The last thing you want is to move in with her and find it is a bad situation or that it isn't what you want.As well you would need to discuss things in depth with her so that you are both clear on what living with her would mean.Maybe try talking it out with a guidance counsellor first at school and they can help you as well?Try making an itemized list to see what the reasons are if I haven't mentioned any- if it's staying out late or being able to drink or anything your father would have good reason to be upset about then those are not valid readons.Hopefully you'll find the answers and I wish you happiness.
How can i tell my dad that i don't want to live with him anymore?
I'm 14, live in Arizona, and want to live with my mom full time. I don't really feel at home when I'm at my dad's. I am always comfortable and happy with my mom. At my dad's there are 3 little brothers. I love them, but i really can't stand it anymore. There is always yelling, screaming and fighting. Not just them, but my dad also. I personally believe that the yelling and threats that my dad deals out are verbal abuse. My step mom just stands there/says the same sort of stuff as if shes trying to "impress" my dad. I don't have anything in common with any of them and I'm sick of having to go there half of every week. I was hoping for some advice as how to tell my dad the way i feel and how to deal with it all. Thank You,
How do I tell my dad I want to live with my mom full time because of my stepmom?
How do I tell my dad I want to live with my mom full time because of my stepmom?You don’t say how old you are, but I’m going to assume you’re old enough to have a man-to-man talk with your father.You need to sit him down when it’s just the two of you and you have a lot of quiet time. Maybe go somewhere so you’re in a neutral setting - see if he’ll take you to lunch or something. Tell him you need to talk to him, alone and man-to-man.BEFORE you do that, though, sit down and figure out EXACTLY why you want to live with your mom. “Because of <
How can I tell my dad that I don’t want to live with him anymore?
Where do you want to live? Do you plan to move out on your own or with your mom? You dad might want to know why you want to move out - did he do something that makes it impossible for you to live with him? Maybe you can work through it. Have a plan in mind, present it and see if your dad is willing to discuss your options. He might be more supportive than you think.
How do I tell my Asian dad I don't want him living with me?
First of all, your question reflects some degree of self-hate. Why do you characterize your dad as “Asian dad?” Do you think a white person would refer to his/her father as “white dad” or a black person would refer to his/her father as “black dad?” The truth is when the word “Asian” is used to describe a person in a America it's often used with some kind of a pejorative intent. Why do you have to use it on yourself? And don't tell me you meant to clarify your question. There are parents from other cultures that want to live with their children for the same reasons Asian parents want to live with their children. Your explanation to your parents doesn't depend on your race.Second, maybe it makes financial sense for your dad to live with you. I definitely understand not wanting your parents to be in your face all the time. I wouldn't want my parents to live with me now that I have grown up—and they don't. There are a lot of things about my personal life I wouldn't want my parents to know. But some people may not have a choice. You might just to suck it up and do it until you make enough money to change your situation. Asians tend to be more fiscally responsible than others. Although this isn't a trait that American value, it is supposed to serve you well. If two strangers can share an apartment to lower average rent, why can't a parent and a child do the same? Again, I definitely understand not wanting to live with your parents. And if money permits, you shouldn't. But if it matters then suck it up for a few months until you make more money.
How can I tell my dad that I don’t want to live with him anymore (I’m 13)? Do I legally have the choice?
My daughter was 16, and she was in 50/50 custody. Her mother and I got along well, and collaborated well on child decisions. She decided that moving from house to house every week was too stressful for her, so she asked had her therapist ask us for her to decide on which house she should live at full time. Since she went with me to school everyday (she was a student at the school where I taught), I figured it would be better if she lived with her mother. Her mother agreed and the decision was made. When she graduated and moved on to a local college, she stayed with her mother. I take her out for dinner every week, and to family events. In the end, the ONLY Thing I was thinking about was what was best for her.Will it hurt your father to tell him you don’t want to live with him? Probably. You need to do what is best for you. Be honest, and be with him as much as you can. You don’t say why you don’t want to stay with your father. That has everything to do with YOUR answer.