Why do I always get so angry with my mom?
I am a university student in a different country from my house. I speak everyday with my mum, and usually it will always end with us both being angry on each other. I'll give you a "red" part of our conversation today, which ended bad, as usual. ...(mum):-So remember that stop motion movie you were into? (me):-Mmh? -You know, the one with the plasticine dolls, where you made a movie? -Yeah yeah go on, I told you I remember. -Well you still don't have the finished DVD right? -Nop. -Well ask somebody that was with you at the project to make you a copy. -Not really interested, besides, it was 2 years ago. -Nevermind, it will be good for your portfolio, see, great designers start with little things. -Mum it was only a clay bobhead. -Still, it is a fruit of your sweat. -Not interested. -That girl that was with you, she went to the presentation, doesn't she have the DVD? -I don't care. -Well you shouldn't leave your work go in vain. -MUM! I'm not interested, so you don't be interested as well! If I don't care, don't care! -What is that? How are you speaking to me like this? -It was over 2 years ago, get over it, I don't care, I don't want to see this video, and I only went there to have fun! You've been asking me to get the video 2 years now! Get over it already! -So we can't speak anymore?? I tell you something then you start swearing and talking like a madman! -I don't want the video! You shouldn't want it too! End of conversation! -So we are not talking anymore?? OK, how about I only send you money and we never speak? -That's cool with me -Oh really? -Yeah, ok, bye -BYE! (and I hung up) So who is right? I mean, she kept asking for that video for years, but I didn't want that, I could only get that by talking to a girl I didn't like but she keeps asking for that!
My mom is ALWAYS angry at me ... and we never get along ... help ?
I am 13 & I've been having problems with my mom lately. She's always in a bad mood, and she's always yelling at me for something. I tried talking to her, but she is NOT the type of person who sits down and talks things out. Unlike other moms who just calmly tell their kids the problem, my mom will blow up on me, then refuse to talk to me for a few days. Her behavior has been really bad over the past year. I know she's getting put under a lot of pressure since my dad's drinking problem has worsened over the past few years, plus she works the midnight shift at work. My mom is always screaming and cursing at me if I don't do something right, and sometimes she will hit me if she's really pissed. I feel bad because my mom blames me and she says I'm the one who causes all of the family problems. Several of my aunts and cousins have even said that she needs anger management. I understand that she's probably under alot of stress because of my dad, but I just can't take it anymore.
Why am I always angry around my mother?
I would imagine that both you and your mother are trying to get something out of your relationship, but your expectations aren’t being met.We humans are such silly creatures. We think we’re super good at knowing what other people are thinking and feeling, but we’re actually really bad at it.I can’t tell you why things happen within you, but if we were in the same room I’d ask you the same question I ask myself when I get angry: what is it that I’m expecting to happen here? Or: what need do I have that isn’t getting met?Getting curious about our needs can help us understand why we feel things like anger, or joy. Knowing what makes you happy and joyous is just as important as knowing what makes you angry.I can’t tell you what to do here, all I can do is tell you what’s worked for me in my relationships. When I stop blaming people for how I feel and really look at why I’m feeling the feels I feel, then things become much more clear.This works for my upset over silly things like traffic or other people’s bad programming code. Who knows, it might work for you and your mother. ;)
I always feel angry towards my mom... why?
I constantly feel mad at my mom. she doesnt listen to me when we have a conflict, she automatically is right, even when i have a reasonable solution. she is ignorant when it comes to my arguments, which i take time to make strong. and they are. i just wish i didnt act so bad towards my mom i see all my friends parents, and shes not like them. but i know im the problem, shes just being protective. i just think as a junior in high school seeing all my friends with these freedoms makes me hate my mom because she doesnt give those freedoms to me. but i drink and smoke weed and thats why im always in trouble. its wrong but i do it because i want to have a great social life in high school, and i feel shes making it harder since ive established such strong relationships with friends that do this kind of thing. why am i always short with my mom? I wish she would just leave me alone to my friends, ive thought about moving out so much! i hate thinking like that, i have it all wrong i know..
Why do I always get so angry when my mom asks me if I’m okay after small injuries?
So I’m a sixteen year old girl, and I am a little clumsy. I have been known to stumble and fall, bump into things and knock them over, and do other stupid stuff that usually sound loud but aren’t actually that bad. Every time I do something like this my mom always asks “are you okay?” in a very conceneded voice. Now, I don’t know why, but those words fill me with such uncontrollable, albeit momentary, rage. It’s only when she specifically asks, and it’s only after really small bumps and stuff that happen often. I don’t know why I get so angry, I normally laugh off those little stumbles and I don’t usually get embarassed, yet when she asks I get so unbelievably angry it’s like some rage god takes me over for a hot second and I’m not myself. Usually I just respond with a grumble and move on but sometimes I can’t stop myself before I snap at her that yes, I am okay. And I want to stop this habit, because I know it’s stupid, but I also feel like the best way of doing that is understanding. Why do I do this, is there some deep rooted psychological reason? Listen. I get how this sounds, but I need to know.
My always gets angry and wants to argue when shes drunk?
Your mom sounds like she doesnt deal with stress well, doesnt have proper coping mechanisms, and doesn't know to communicate her frustrations, so to deal she drinks, and when you drink it lowers your inhibitions and everything just blows out like a volcano. What you need to realize is you can't win with her when shes drunk, you guys are at an advantage and shes not when shes drunk, you have the ability to properly express yourself and use logic, your mom lacks that when shes drunk, all shes running on is emotions. Don't argue with her when shes drunk, even if your tempted to tell her off, it won't work, it will just escalate things. What you can do is avoid her, when shes drinking, find something to do, stay out of her way, if she approaches you, leave the house, go out with friends or whatever, let her drink herself to sleep, then you come home. Your best weapon here is to fight fire with ice, not fire with fire.Good luck