Whtat is wrong with being an introvert?
Why can't a person work, live, and breed without having to mingle and talk and be friendly? I think it is unfair to expect a person to talk and socialize just because it is PC. I am who I am. I was born to be quiet and I don't like to pretend that I am someone I am not and I would like to just do mey work and for people to just leave me alone and mind their own business. Same with church. If I go to church, I don't want some stupid Pastor telling me to tell the ladies my problems and telling them my problems infront of me and having them pray for me. I told him the stuff because he is the Pastor and is supposed to keep it to himself and not broadcast it to the most nosiest ladies in the church. I left that church and that is one of the reasons why. It just angers me to no end that people can be so shallow and force their ways of living on someone else just because friendly is the norm in this society. I wish we could all just be ourselves and that would solve all the problems. Some of us were born to be introverted and are not comfortable talking to folks but people will not let us be quiet so when we are forced to talk, it comes unnatural and we sound stupid, dull, or unable to conform to society. It is kind of unfair if you ask me. I just want to be me and I will be happy. Being an introvert does not = mental illness. It is a personality so let me be me and you will not get mad at me and throw me under the bus when I talk and screw up.
Hey introvert ! Meet me, another introvert. I have very few friends like 2 or 3. I don’t talk to anyone unless I have something to say or they are very very close to my heart. And also I don’t go outside my house more than 3 times in a week unless and until my mom force me to go for the grocery shopping. Am I normal ? Hell YES. I am as normal as anyone.Let me tell you one thing. “One out of every two or three people is an introvert” . So this is not a problem that you are an introvert.Introversion is not a choice, not a life style, it’s an orientation. - Susan CainIt’s not that we are shy or depressed. It’s just that we love solitude more than people and creativity mostly comes out of introversion and peace of solitude.We don’t have much friends because we are very careful about who we are open up to. We introverts are happy with our own company. We prefer books to human company most the time. For me solitude matters the most.Now coming to the point ‘you don’t go outside your house’. It’s all about how you are spending your precious time. If you’re doing something productive that’ll benefit you in near future then it’s absolutely fine. But if you are sitting like an idle and spending your time thinking cock and bull story then I must say it won’t help you anyway.Do what you want to do like reading, writting, drawing whetever. Spend quality time with yourself, discover the new you everyday.Once in a while step out of your comfort zone, talk to people, go outside. You’ll feel better. You can learn new things, you can observe people.If you still have doubt about your normality then this is for you.Cheers to introverts .Image source - Google
I'm an introvert but I dont like it?
a social or anti social
Can you be introverted and have ADD or ADHD?
They say that introverts are good at paying attention. Maybe more then extroverts I don't know but I was diagnosed with ADD in 8th grade. I take medication. Sometimes while trying to focus I hear something that reminds me of something else or I see something that I can't help but be curious about and then I start to go off track and get so deep in my thoughts that I don't even realize I lost track of what is going on in class until my brain tells me "DUDE! Your teacher is talking! Its most likely important!" This also happens when someone is just making conversation with me and even if it isn't small talk, which introverts hate to have for conversations, I get easily distracted by small sounds like footsteps in the hallway, or who is snoring during class, then when my brain reminds me to focus again, I have already lost track of what the conversation was about and in my head I'm thinking, "Oh crap, what's going on?"
Kind of. I’m very quiet and introvert in common social interaction, but i can be talkative with person i’m close and comfortable to. It’s tiring when i hear people say to me that i’m too quiet for their liking, that i need to be louder, that i’m kind of boring person so i feel that i didnt meet social standard interaction. From my elementary school till now as an adult, i often hear people said that and i hate that they repeat it again and again! I know, this is my nature personality and i tried hard to be like any other people, to change myself but it’s difficult. It’s very tiring to change myself to be more talkative. I often wish that i was born with a little more outgoing personality so i can blend with the crowd. I am introvert, very sensitive person, and to add that i have resting bitch face, so yeah, this combination of me sometimes made me hate myself because i appear as like an outsider in this society.
Sorry it took me sooo long to respond.So, Mr. Introvert, you wanna change your nature. Assuming you want to go over to the extrovert side of things. Ok.There are obviously many tips to do this. Point is , do you really wanna know ? Speaking seriously, it’s all about how you think about things.I am part introvert myself. Whenever I see an unknown person close to me I try to initiate conversation. Success rate of initiating an unawkward conversation is 70%. Pretty good, huh?How do I do it ? Coming to that in a few lines.Well , I’m guessing that, you start freaking out when you see a new person. You start thinking. Really hard. Trying to initiate meaningful conversation. Your anxiety circuits literally burst open because of the overflow.What happens outside ? You start sweating. Your awesome I-am-socially-awkward behaviour absolutely shines through. And the person next to you takes it as a ‘get away from me’ sign. This is what happens in elevators , buses ,subways , etc. Well , nice going.I don’t think. Doesn’t mean that you can be weird with everyone, but seriously, if you’re not going to see that guy/girl again, who gives a fuck ? Conversations can be started with a simple compliment. If you got a neighbour who lives alone, and even if you know that she lives alone, still go upto her and ask her if you can do anything to help her out. (just an example) Also, conversations are rarely meaningful. It’s usually some bullshit gossip. Do you initiate ‘ meaningful conversation’ with your friends ? Well, if you do, great. Nerd out.Ok, conversation started. Now what ?The trick, is to let people talk about themselves. In a few moments ,you’ll know whether it’s an introvert or extrovert. If it’s an extrovert, no prob. They’ll carry on. If it’s an introvert, you got the upper hand. Introduce yourself, ask their name, and carry on. Aaahhh, fuzzy.Don’t think about what people think. People don’t think anything. And even if they do, who cares ?Above all, don’t be a dunce and follow everything blindly. Don’t get your confidence shattered by people who don’t wanna speak to you, or are not interested. Don’t disturb them.Aaannddd, only compliment people on something genuinely good. Don’t go crazy about how their ‘ everything’ is soooo perfect. That labels you as weird.And if they don’t have anything great looking with them, well, I dunno. Innovate.(You asked me only for tips , right ? Hehehe)Happy smalltalk with strangers.Cheers.
Dating introvert advice?
Oh the woes of an introvert! I am an introvert as well and we are often misunderstood. First, I have to say that I don't think you should continue this relationship, though, because you already sound like you're gone. You guys have talked about it and ultimately, it doesn't sound like you're very happy or think you could be. Attachment and affection or not, I just think you need to find someone a little more your style. Regardless and maybe in his defense or at least to offer some understanding, the drinking helps us loosen up. Introverts process information internally. I know for me, when I'm in a very social situation (restaraunt, store, etc) all of the outside stimulation (people talking, noises, etc) are all coming at me at once. I have to sort of get a feel for things to understand how to be comfortable in that situation. I also know when my girlfriend and I go to a party or something, she always asks me to drink something before we go because it helps me to sort of tune out the unnecessary clutter that can overwhelm me. It relaxes me and I become less shy about being social with other new people. I know some introverts, though, need help getting out of their head. This has come up several times with my girlfriend and me, too. She's very extraverted and expresses all her thoughts. It's who she is. If she's thinking it, she's saying it. I, on the other hand, think first well before I say anything and there are things I don't share with her because I don't find them important or necessary, but she wants to know them as it's a part of knowing me. I'm slowly understanding this. So if you really like this guy, and truly see a future with him, I suggest you be straight up with him and explain that you're trying to understand, but that maybe you need some compromises on his part, too. He should be willing to meet you halfway on some things that are important to you. He sounds like he's willing to try, as he's looking for another job, but again, if you're already out the door I don't know that much would change your mind now. I think this may have been a very confusing answer so I apologize for that. Also, if we were talking in person, I'd probably not say any of this. :)
Most probably an extrovert. They would have tough time to see themselves as their friend, as their energy and personality are projected outside. So the imaginary friend should be outside lending them support.With an introvert, he/she is already their own friend. So they continue that status-quo.But in both cases they would have to deal with themselves the person who is in solitary confinement. Remembering Nelson Mandela who was kept for 27 years (!!!) as a solitary prisoner. Brought him a ton of wisdom.All the very best! Regards,Swaroopa Blog.