Am I being bullied at work?
So I started my job 4 months ago. I try my best to be the best I can be. So there is this girl I work with. She has been rude since day 1. I work at a pizza place. My second day working I made mistakes you know that's pretty common. She got all mad because I messed up a pizza that day and she goes "who the hell keeps messing up?" She always tried bossing me around. I just got better at cutting pizza. I was terrible at first. I watched my other co-worker cut a pizza and I told her She did really good. This girl was like "Yeah, that's how you're supposed to cut pizza." Then I put too many beans on a taco pizza and her and her friend were yelling at me for messing up on that same night. I was still new so I went to the bathroom to cry. Then one day she does texted me to cover her shift. I said I would thinking maybe she would be nicer to me. She was still rude to me. She and her friend went behind my back and said how I was such a slow worker. A girl stuck up for me and said "leave that poor girl alone. At least she doesn't stand around all the time like you. She gets her work done." These girls constantly gang up on me and act like they are my boss when they are not in charge. My manager likes me and does not like this girl. They talk about how I am so strange and this and that. They make me feel low. Am I being bullied? Are they jealous of me? I am 18 and they are 26.
I m be bullied at work.?
First of all - you haven't done anything wrong! :-) it is THEIR responsibility to train you to do the job, and obviously they're not very good at it. I recently started a job where they told me I 'was in charge of my own training' and felt v similar. Fortunately in the past I had had better jobs with a team who made me feel welcome, so I knew it wasn't my fault when I didn't fit into this new job. I only lasted in the job I mentioned for 3months - it took me almost 3month to find another job but I knew the whole time that it wasn't for me. If they see you struggling they should HELP you, not talk about you. I'm very sensitive too and understand how you feel, I know it can be hard. Just be strong and believe in yourself, because if they were good team members they would be asking if you needed support. Can you start looking for another job, or is that not an option? If not I would certainly address the issue with your manager, and if anybody says anything about you - confront them! :-)
Am i being bullied at work?
so I've been at this place working as an IT site supervisor for a few weeks. Today I met this guy who happens to be a network guy helping us out; another person from another dept and myself informally met with him regarding an issue and at first he'd barely even acknowledge me. It took constant comments and questions from me to finally have him make eye contact and include me. at the end, I asked him to keep me posted on any updates so that I could pass them on to other mgrs. His response was, 'and you are, a 'tech'? (that's what my badge still says)... so i replied, no, I'm the IT supervisor here... then he went, 'and how long have you been here'? by this time he began turning red... and i responded. then he proceeded to say that i should step back because i didnt know what the office politics were like at this company and that I should let the other person there present talk to his mgr. I was still polite and adamant that I had the responsibility to inform of extended outages; he continued with his argument and at the end I negotiated an agreement where I'd ask the call center mgr if they had received an increase in calls regarding this issue. If they had not, I'd just hold off on making this issue more public but if calls had increased then I'd let him know and ask for an official update. I was somewhat in disbelief at first with his questioning about my position and time there, I think it did catch me somewhat off guard considering that everyone had been quite pleasant and professional until now. I am a minority in every sense btw, short, dark, have an accent, in the midst of a 99% white IT dept with 200+ members... i report to the regional IT director and I guess that may not go too well with some people, like this guy.. thus, could his questioning be considered bullying... or just plain lack of tact? I'm curious...
What is it like to be bullied at work?
My first job was in an eCommerce service provider where I helped build the company. I was 21 at that time. The founder and me worked very well together and an awesome working relationship. Fast forward 1 year, when the team had scaled and the business became a million dollar profit center. The company was now 40+ all over 28 years. Roughly 6 years elder to me. Of course since most of them brought in much more maturity and advanced skill set hence were senior to me. But I compensated my lack of the advanced skill set with high focus, commitment, energy and a highly developed business sense, which meant that I was given a lot of support by the founder ( hence the company) to achieve my career goals.This did not go down well with most of "seniors" in the company and they did not like it. They started bullying me in the form of rejecting my every idea, making my work tougher to do by not coordinating, and ruining my relationship with my then manager.All this lead to my burning out, making me leave the company in another six months. I had gained 30 pounds, became very negative about life, had roughly zero energy to work, started viewing work as a joke, destroyed my ambitions and motivations for learning and creating value for people around. I switched to another company, I was burnt out, I couldn't concentrate on my work, and was subsequently fired. Since the past six months I have been going to the gym, trying to keep my fitness in check, and get my motivations back on track.Although I might argue that life was unfair to me but now after much reflection I have become a much stronger, a much more mature and a stronger person. Yes I lost 6 months, Yes it destroyed my relationship with my mentors/ Bosses, Yes I failed. But not any more. :). When someone tries to bully you at work, give it back to him, that's the best you can do.Good luck!
I am being bullied at work. What should I do?
A good way of dealing with bullies is finding the courage to tell them that what they are doing is unkind. Inform them about their despicable actions. Also, accept the fact that they may not agree with your views and might even chastise you for interfering. At that point, the situation is out of your control and it becomes an indifferent and like any indifferent, it is not in your own control, which means discard it. You could also go to the higher ups and tell them about the problem. Whether they do something about it or not is indifferent to you.Indifferents are things that do not need or have a moral evaluation. They are neither good nor evil. Indifferents neither benefit nor harm an individual since they can be used in terms of good and bad,so they are neutral. By accepting that things that happen to you are not morally good nor bad, you can choose to give a fuck, you can decide if things are worth being evaluated. If not, they are irrelevant, indifferent.If that doesn't work then you should know thatYou can only be insulted if you allow yourself to be insulted.But it is not the insult that harms you,only your perception of it. Let go of that perception. Because you give it all of the power that you see in it. The insult itself is just a string of words.They could hurt you, but they don't have to. It depends on what you do with it. It is your mind that adds the pain and the injury.If someone calls me stupid, I don't allow my ego to respond to the insult. It's all a matter of ego anyway. Say whatever you want to me and I simply see this as a reflection of the person, not of myself. This shows the person to be weak and unable to have a rational discussion or air grievances in a way that is useful.Their self esteem and self confidence are so low that they resort to something of that nature. If you acknowledge that you felt insulted, then they know they can 'get to you'. The only sure way to prove they're right is by giving them attention. My reaction to their insults is yawning.Yawning signifies being bored by someone, often the worst kind of insult to people who are full of themselves.
How do you stop from being bullied at work?
That depends on a number of factors.First, how long has the bullying been going on? If this is something new, you stand a better chance of stopping it. The longer bullying has been going on, the more likely it is to continue and even escalate.Second, who is doing the bullying? If the perpetrator is an individual who doesn’t have authority over you, you are in a better position to ask for help (from union, management, etc.). However, if a group of individuals, or even a boss is bullying you, you really need to consider whether the job is worth fighting for.Third, what is the culture of your workplace? Are there other cases of bullying, shunning, or other not so nice games? Workplaces that do not have strong anti-bullying values can easily slip into a culture that tolerates a certain amount of bullying. From there, it’s just a short distance to a workplace that encourages bullying by pretending that it doesn’t exist, or by blaming the victim. Look out for statements such as, “You’re just oversensitive”, or “all the other people say you’ve been harassing them”.Bullying is a significant problem in many workplaces and it has a tremendous negative impact on the individual who is being bullied, as well as on witnesses to the bullying (who are often too afraid to say or do anything, lest they become a target).Ultimately, you are the one who needs to think about your workplace and whether it matches your values and dreams. If you are in a workplace that allows bullying, you might want to start exploring other places to work sooner, rather than later. Best wishes!
How do I get over being bullied at work?
Bullies are usually cowards. Remember the bully in the movie “A Christmas Story”? No, I’m not suggesting you have a “ Ralphie” moment and beat the bully up… we want you to keep your job! I want you to take a deeper look and see that this is most likely a broken person. Most of the time, people who lash out at others are insecure and do so to make themselves feel bigger. You may not like my suggestion, but at least consider it. Take the high road. Kill the bully with kindness and compassion. Compliment the bully’s shirt. Ask the bully what their weekend plans are. On your way out to get coffee offer to get the bully a Latte. Now don't down vote me just yet! I have tried this strategy many times with “mean” people and it works. What do you have to lose? A Latte? Let me know how it goes!
Why am I bullied at work for being nice?
When you're "too" nice to some people, they take advantage of your kindness.That's the case with what's happening to you at work. It's because you continue to be nice, regardless of them bullying you. They see that and know that, so have no reason to stop doing it.When I was working in a job once, I experienced something similar. I was made redundant and I'm glad. Because of 1 simple reason:Toxic environment with toxic people. Being around people like that for too long begins to poison you, suffocate you, and stress you out. Because you're expected to just put up with it and get on with your job.Your choices:Either show them your boundaries, let them know you're not willing to put up with that bullshit.Report it.Or leave.Your happiness matters. And whichever choice you make, something needs to be done about it or it'll worsen.