What is it like to be in an arranged marriage?
I was in 3rd year of engineering when my parents decided to look out for a girl with whom they would marry me by the time I am done with my engineering.In my life I have always believed that whatever happens in your life happens for good. So I went with the flow without giving much thought over it as long as they would let me complete my studies. I had never imagined they would find someone within months and I would get engaged. Basically my wife’s family insisted to have the engagement done and we can get married at right time.So I was engaged by the time I was in my 2nd semester of 3rd year. Only few of my friends knew about it. To my friends' surprise and everyone who knew me, I had not seen my wife till the day I got engaged.Everything went well. We got married after I completed my studies and the real fun started.I lived in urban city and she came from village. There wasn’t any cultural difference as such but my family had mismatch in expectations and my journey of balancing my wife’s expectations (which are very very minimalistic till date) and my family’s expectations (which was a joint family) started.First 5 years were terrible. However we were very clear with our thoughts that we can sacrifice 10% of our married life’s time for 90% of our togetherness and we survived.Both of us helped each other to be a better person.I made her goals as mine and empowered her with my support in every possible way.She made my home as her and made it a heaven for both of us.I didn’t want her to change for me or anyone else but for herself.Again one of my beliefs is that if you respect your better half for what he/she is and help him/her (not advice) in achieving what he/she wants, you have earned a friend for life and he/she will understand you in every situation of your life.Now we are married for 14 years and would remain so till one of us waits for the other one in afterlife. We have 2 kids and 3 other kids of my brothers in family so in all 5 kids.Probably my 10% of investment during my initial married life are paying off now with much higher returns.This is us on our 14th anniversary.Thanks for reading and forgive me for my English.
Why can't indian parents be more accepting?
ebachelor2004, i was reading your post, and you were sounding intelligent untill you say about your indian religion been stronger than any other religion, how dare you say that.....you are way too proud, that is what it is....
How long can I stay in the Philippines if I am married to a Filipino?
If the marriage was in the philippines or a philippine embassy abroad it falls under the philippines laws and it is register by the municipality or embassy where you where married. Then the registration of marriage is automatically forwarded to the NSO ( national census office) for registration this can take around 2 months . Once the data had been uploaded the NSO will issue an NSO certificate which you can apply for at any NSO office in the country. Now that you have secure an original NSO certificate of your marriage contract you and your wife can go to the bureau of immigration head office in manila to apply for a Permanent resident status . Bring your passport and your NSO certificate and you have to be with your wife.
13 British colonies?
I already have 4 points and a couple examples... here is an outline of what I have and if you have any suggestions, let me know: 1. FREEDOM FROM ARBITRARY POWER a. common law b. formation of government c. magna carta 2. COMMON ENEMY - Britain a. unfair treatment 1. taxes- stamp act, tea act, currency act, sugar act, and townshend act b. improper representation in parliament 3. RELIGIOUS FREEDOM 4. ECONOMIC PROGRESSION a. found that they worked better in a group or society rather than individually if you have ANY suggestions, let me know!!! I have 6 hours before this paper is due!!! thanks!!!
Do Turkish men have to marry Turkish women?
You’ll have no problem in Turkey to marrying a foreigner, especially when he/she is a muslim. Also mostly other religions are not judged by Turkish people mostly, except from a minority. Turkey is in comparing with other countries very open minded to this issue. That comes from our historical roots, being the grandchildren of a World Empire, who ruled through three continents and interact with so many races, religions, cultures, even the Sultan’s married foreign women from different countries and religions.I travelled the whole world and lived in four different countries, but most of all the times, i’ve never faced such problems in any country, except one, and thats India and Pakistan. Sadly, especially the muslim community there adapted a tradition, which is absolutely not belonging to our religion, haram, even let lose your faith, and that’s the issue with marrying in a specific class, caste, clan etc. I don’t know where they get this tradition, when they were mainly influenced from the Turkish Sunni / Hanafi school. Anyways this is my experience what i’ve lived. And nobody should say, that these people are in minority, even the most liberals are not that style. The minority and exceptions are only those who accept another race.Coming back to the subject ‘’Do Turkish men have to marry a Turkish women ? Like i stated above, absolutely NOT ! I’ve at least 10 friends from my near circle who have married foreigners, both gender, men or women.. I don’t know what you’ve experienced, but if they are against this, then they are definitely a small specific group. But an advice as a Turk, may the Turkish men seems strong from outside, but he have nothing to say at home :) Thats why, i would suggest you to win the heart of the mother, believe me everything will be fine in short time :)Hope the things goes well for you !
Are Pakistani guys prohibited from marrying foreign girls? If so, why?
I'm an american woman and I dated a Pakistani man briefly. I fell deeply for him. I'm Christian, but I was ready to convert for him: I was reading the Quran and studying hadith. We observed Ramadan together. I wanted to learn Urdu, I even thought about wearing hijab! That is how much I loved him, but still, it wasn't enough. I never met his parents only his friends. He told me his parents would be ok with me, but he didn't do anything to let that happen. He told me he was not ready for commitment and shattered my heart into pieces. He knew I was a good woman, but he chose to let me go. He soon married a pakistani girl hand picked by his parents. I saw his pictures on Facebook, he went with her to the same places I wanted to go with him. He has been married for ten years with 2 children. As for me, I married my mother's neurosurgeon, 3 adorable children and 2 dogs. My husband is hindu, born in the US, he told his parents about me right away. I love his parents like my own and they treat me like a daughter. I didn't have to convert, I'm still Christian and we all live in the US. The pakistani guy still emails me once in a while, I think he feels guilty or something. These are formal emails, nothing loving, just a basic how is your family. I choose not to reply to him.To Madhavan: my pain, my heartache and my tears were very very real. I wrote this answer because I had a similar experience as the question. Sharing these details have been painful, but I am in a better place now.To everybody else: thank you for your kind comments. The person who hurt me happened to be from Lahore but he could have been from Russia, Chinese or Hispanic. I am not generalizing as there are good and bad people in every country, race and religion. I have forgiven him and moved on. And yes, I am happy and very grateful. God bless.