What does it feel like losing your Mother?
I haven't lost my mother, but i recently lost my sister who has always been a motherly role to me as my mother 'was inside', and i am absolutely devastated, she will probably be feeling like there is nothing worth living for, and just really down, and just needs cuddles and hugs from her closest friends at a time like this. True friends can always help by just being there at her time in need and i think she would really appreciate it. When i lost my sister my best friend sat down with me and we just talked about her life and my favorite memories of myself and her, i don't know if she would like that, but maybe just ask her if she wants to talk, cause some people would rather talk about it then bottle it up, cause you don't want her to bottle things up til something else really bad happens and it all comes out and is ten times worse than it could be, so if i was you i would ask her over to your house and just ask her to bring some photos of her mum and memories and just have a 'girly' night in, talking and maybe watching her favorite movies or something like that to try and cheer her up abit. Remember the key isn't to forget her mother, it's to remember all the amazing times they spent together... I probably didn't but i hope i helped :)
Extreme fear of losing my mother...?
I have an extreme fear of losing my mom. My mom and I are really close, she is literally my best friend, now that my friends are all at different colleges. But by no means do I have a lack of friends. I have the though that if she died that I wouldn't be able to live. I wouldn't know what to do with my life or anything. She is my rock. If something funny happens, she'll laugh with me about it. If I am upset or angry or sad, she knows exactly what to say. She's the only person I am completely comfortable with and that I know loves me *truely unconditionally*. When I have the thought that she might not be in my life one day I get all panic-y and start bawling, which leads to hyperventilation. I can't help it though, the thought of not having her in my life is terrifying beyond belief. I just want to know if anyone else has these feelings and what kind of help they got for them.
My mother keeps talking about God, but I am losing interest in it. How can I tell her without making her feel bad?
It sounds like you’re in a dysfunctional loop. You explain your “life situation”, she recommends God and religion, you reject prayer and church, she cries.Is that about right?Why not stop the entire cycle.At a calm moment when you’ve not been discussing any of this, just tell your mother that you know she loves you - and you know that she finds comfort in her faith - but that prayer and church aren’t the answers for you right now and so you would like to stop talking about it.Smile and give her a hug. You might add “I’ll be just fine and if it makes sense at a later time I’ll let you know.”And then whatever the “life situation” is that appears to be the underlying issue…don’t talk about it any more. Whatever the issue is, your mother seems to think God and prayer is the only answer. Unless you want to keep having this discussion, don’t add fuel to the fire by discussing it.Thank you to CB for the A2A, and I hope this is of some help.
I'm scared of losing my mom!?
Is this normal? Okay so I'll give you a little info about me. When I was younger like about 6 or 7 I would always fear something bad happening to my parents I don't know why I just did. Anyways they would always reassure me that they will live till they were really old and I had nothing to worry about. When I was 13 my father passed away from cancer, I was really close with him and for awhile I was in like shock I would not accept that he was gone I would always tell myself that he's going to walk through our door again but he never did. I'm 19 now and still miss him so much I still have dreams of him and they just feel so real that I don't want to wake up. Now all I have is my mom, when I was in school I remember I was 14 and remember my cousin coming up to me and telling me that my mom and younger sis were in a car accident I freaked out and ever since I always feared something bad happening to my mom I love her so much and we've gotten so close. I don't know why I think this way but its like when she leaves somewhere and I know she's gonna be back at a certain time and shes not home yet I have like panic attacks and it gets worse when I try calling her and she doesn't pick up. To be honest I haven't actually talked to anybody about this ever since my dad's death I just keep quite and keep everything like this to myself. Is it normal to feel this way?
How does it feel to lose your mother in your twenties?
Feels like shit. Of course, it feels like the end of the world. All the negative feelings mentioned in other answers plus more. For me it has been about 6 months now, and it feels the same. Random breakdowns, anger, a lot of anger and some days of absolutely no emotion.I feel losing a mother, you also lose your innocence. I decided to answer this after it came up on my search when I wrote the question exactly how it is written here, hoping that it makes me feel better.You hear people say it gets better with time, and in a way it does and I think its purely because the time does pass. You feel its getting better because you’re just living life and moving forward and what happened before is just moving farther away. Someone told me, that if you imagine your life, at present to be a circle, the grief now has occupied that circle entirely. But as you live, the size of the grief remains the same, but the life circle becomes larger, so grief seems to be relatively less even though the amount is same.On the days I feel great, are the days I remember the funny moments, the laughter and other happy memories. And on the days that I don’t feel great, usually the her last hospital days are on my mind.In my experience, talking to people who have undergone a similar loss fares much better than talking to someone who hasn’t, for the simple reason that you share the same background and you don’t have to assume that they’d understand, cause they do.Also as I am writing this, I do feel slightly better, it feels as if I am removing some stagnant thoughts from my head and making space for new thoughts.All in all I do feel sad, but I also have a feeling to continue and live a great life. My family is also not following the Hindu tradition of “Not celebrating any festivals/birthdays/events” for a year after the death of a closed one, as I feel, if anyone knew my mother, She would want us to enjoy our lives to the fullest, dine and drink with family and not feel sad over her, but in fact CELEBRATE HER.PS: I think writing this was a good decision. It did help me, and I hope it helps anyone who reads it.I think I’ll edit it in the future and add more things as I remember them. It’ll become like an answer blog of sorts :)I tried to answer exactly what is asked.