I'm sick and tired of being alive. I just want to end my life. Why can't it be alright to kill myself?
You are not the only one in need of peace. Look all around you, People are preparing for competitive exams like anything, going to office everyday as if that’s the only thing to be alive for, cheating or using each other, raping, dying of hunger, or at constant threat of life and what not.Each person is living first to find a way of living(to make money) and fulfill expectations of other people(Parents). Our parents wants to see us grow into somebody and then get married, have children. Just this much takes awe full lot of courage and energy.Amidst all this, how many of us do you think are living a peaceful life? Life is but a constant struggle. From before the time one is born to deathbed, it is nothing but struggle. Then why do each one of us wants to preserve our life and not get hurt and why do we even bother to run after things that promises happiness in life?Our whole understanding of life is actually absurd. We must live our life for the sake of living. Hindu Philosophy(Bhagawad Gita) says to be in Sakshi Bhav(To be in a state of Witnessing life as it happens). Whatever happens let it happen and you be there just to watch and experience it. Live your life as if it is already predetermined, good or bad doesn’t matter, Success or failure doesn’t matter. Just live it.Know that what you are today, you were not some time ago and you will not be what you are today after some time. Everything changes- People, their thoughts, emotions, the places, the expectations, your loved ones, everything. Then why be attached to anything, just be calm and live your life- with love or with insecurity that is in your hands.And the best thing you can do to yourself is to accept who you are and be that. Read books, develop better understanding of life each day. Take one hobby- Music, dance, Reading, anything and do that everyday for 1 hour. Let it be your time without worrying about the world. It will calm your mind each day and in coming future who knows what you may become. You’ll be great just by this successive practice.It will take time to adjust to this advise but day after day, you will be living a different life. Just give life a chance. It doesn’t have to be beautiful but it should be just lived.Also, get your Vitamin D level checked. It can cause havoc on your mental health.
I'm tired of being single!?
Hi! I'm 22 year old female and I'm tired of being single! I've been single for almost 2 years now and I never go on dates. I haven't been out on a single date since I broke up with my ex. It was an abusive relationship so granted I did need extra time to heal and get over everything but I'm fine now and ready to go on a date with someone and I have absolutely no options right now. I just graduated school last May, I'm starting my career. I'm responsible and I have a good sense of humor and I have morals and values. I don't care to drink and I'm not really into partying but I like hanging out with friends and playing sports, etc. I am so frustrated because I'm always the 3rd or 5th wheel and I never get asked out. I work as a server on the weekends and guys will leave me their number or they'll say disrespectful remarks in public (hey baby, whats yo numba?? is not too charming) but I never get a nice, respectful guy to come up and start a conversation and ask for my number. I know it's bad and I shouldn't be like this but I cannot approach a guy because I am wayyy too intimidated to do that. They say you should smile so you are approached and everyone tells me I smile TOO much. I laugh all the time and I am a very friendly person, however I'm not flirty by any means. I don't know why but I cannot flirt at all. My guy friends tell me "you are beautiful but you are the girl that a guy wants to settle down with, not hook up with so you won't find someone til later on." That really hurts my feelings because I feel I should not have to hook up with a guy just to get him to date me. What's wrong with me?? I'm starting to think I'm going to be an old, lonely cat lady!
I am 35 years old but I feel I am so tired struggling throughout my life that I want to die now. I don't find pleasure in anything, be it my good career, shopping, friends, relatives, or relationships. I am over with all of them. I feel the need to relax forever. What should I do?
This happens with almost everyone. Even to people in their 20's. And it is normal. You feel tired because you have been long pursuing something that you do not desire. And now you feel like giving up.Well I would not attribute it to depression. It is monotony that is taking toll on you.I would suggest to take a few days off. From everything. Office, home, kids, partner, everything. Relax in this period. Give yourself time. Pamper yourself. And then at the end see if you feel better. Introspect and see what new things would you like to accomplish in life. What is there left to achieve. Live a new dream. Set aside some time for yourself everyday. And during this time do what you want. Or wanted at some earlier point of time. Fulfill the desires and dreams that had to be left half way due to something more important. Do not let monotony set in. Look at the sunny side and I guess you would feel better if not fine.Dying is no solution. Searching the solution is. Thanks for A2A
Is it me or is there someone who is sick and tired of life at 22 and want to run away from everything?
There are others too.A 10th standard boy who is tired of the stress he feels from studies.A teenage girl who is confused to place herself between girl or woman, but is tired of the harassment she receives either way.This guy who's in his mid twenties, who lost his love of life, and tired of not being able to lead normal life again.The woman who lost her husband and got to start working to raise her kids, but tired of the expectations of her boss.The man who is struggling to feed his family, and is tired of the world for not being fair.And, this guy who has got everything he needs, born with silver spoon, but is tired of not being able to do something on his own.Any of them may give up.The others(like most of us) are however not going to give up. They still “lead” their life. “They are still stuck up with it” to say in your words. They are not running away from what they are tired of. Instead they choose to fix things and comes to terms with what they can do about it.If you are tired of your life, you got to fix it.Life does have the “restart” button. Though you are indebted to your past and your environment, you can still start all over again and fix things. All you need to learn is to keep yourself detached from everything while you are attached to it. You will then not find the need to run away.Thanks Kirti for asking.
Always tired, always about to cry..?
Hi Kassandra, I'm sorry you are going through a rough time right now. It is hard to give advice to someone without knowing much about you? We can only take a stab at it here and hope that our advice is somehow applicable. Be careful of doctors that want to throw a pill at your problem. Usually, they will put you on Prozac or some anti depressant. This will mask the situation and treat the symptom without treating the problem. Recent research shows that Prozac does not work any better than a placebo when dealing with mild depresssion. Click on article link below for more information. When you don't know what is wrong and you can't quite put your finger on why you are depressed, it could be hormonal or it could be that you need to change the way you are eating and exercising. What you eat could be having a powerful effect on your body chemistry. Do you drink pop, eat junk food, white bread, white rice, white potatoes and greasy fried foods? Do you walk at least 30-45 minutes every day? Are you getting enough Chromium in your diet. People who are Chromium deficient and have fat deposits around their middle are often struggling with depression. Click on the link below to read about how a doctor discovered that Chromium helped many of his patients to drop their anti depressants and turn back to normal within a few days of taking a Chromium supplement. I hope this helps and you are feeling like new very soon.
Why is my life so messy? I’m 22 years old, I’m studying and doing a part time job but I’m still not happy. I want to do something but I can't focus on it, I know how to do that work but I can't. I feel so tired, what’s wrong with me?
Perhaps your mind is going full speed all the time. Perhaps you’ve developed a detrimental bad habit.How to change a bad habit; replace it with a good habit.Reset. Change your routine. Insert 5 minute complete meditation times at the end of each hour. Let your mind speed for 55 minutes and allow only 5 slow minutes well below the speed limit each hour.Pace. What good to lead a marathon only to run out of juice a quarter mile short of the finish line.When logic doesn’t work - take a break and listen to soothing music. Consider Bach. Move with the flow of the music.Picture a person at a banquet shoving and shoving food in their mouth while trying to chew. That’s your brain, that’s youOrContinue as you are and break your soul—it’s happened to some otherwise very talented people. Their abilities were of no use when their carrier broke. Oh, what could have been, but wasn’t."If you always do what you've always done,you'll always get what you've always got.”— Henry Ford
What suggestions do you have to a 22 year old who had a very rough childhood, is struggling through life, tired of failures and slowly slipping towards depression?
There is only one advice, life goes on. I see that you live in Tamil Nadu. Me too.Here are a few bitter truth, your family is not going to pay attention to what you are really dealing with. They rarely do. Especially in our state they are not going to give value to what you went through. They just assume you have got over it once the situation is over. Be it death or any other stressing situation.But let me also say this, you will be alright. I am not being positive or optimistic. Its a simple truth. You will learn to survive this too. You have already survived a rough child hood. We are going to spend a lot of time pretending we are okay. We even believe it sometimes. Cherish these sometimes.In life, all you can do it wait it through or run through it. There is always two ways of dealing with a storm. We wait till it passes or we run through it so fast we run past the storm. First method is safe but slow. but the sun shines eventually. Second method is a bit risky and gets you wet but you get past it real fast.Life is always changing. First its the school. Then college. Then a career. Then a marriage. Then a child. Then the child’s school. And so on. The best way is creating a breathing time. Pray. Pick up a hobby like reading, art and craft, writing, etc,. You have to take care of yourself. No one will. Atleast not the way we want them to. Because no matter what people cant read minds.
I'm always up really late?
Every single night I'm up super late. I'm home schooled so it really doesn't matter what time I wake up but I want to go to bed earlier.. (even 2 am would be an accomplishment for me!) It's 4:22 am and I'm not tired at all. I love the night time.. I'm alone and I can just sit and do the things I want without anyone bugging me. Also at night I just have so many thoughts in my head and I just can't sleep. If I try to go to bed at 1 am I'll just end up sitting looking at the ceiling for 5 hours. I have anxiety and depression so that probably contributes to it a little.. does anyone know how I can fall asleep earlier?