I'm tired of being the ugly friend, what should i do?
Seriously? The way you talk about your insecurities, I actually thought you had some serious dermatological issues. But your skin is fine, and so is your figure. If you really did suffer of anorexia -I'll take your word for it - at some point, there's hardly any sign of it now.. I was actually surprised when I took a look at those pics. After your introduction, I just didn't see that coming. You're actually quite attractive, by any standards. The quality and zoom is fine, my eye sight is alright and I'm quite shallow :p (well, not really) But I don't see why you would feel upstaged by your friends. I mean how good lookin can they be anyway in contrast? You shouldn't worry. Conclusion is, you're either fishing for compliments from complete strangers ;) Or the real problem is really your confidence; spotting problems that aren't really there. Self consciousness is a vicious circle, something you should try to avoid. People, guys can sense that and abstain from approaching in those cases. The one thing guys try avoiding more than getting shot down, is approaching a downer with self confidence issues - no offence. In any case, you shouldn't really put yourself down like that. I'm assuming your 16ish...I used to know plenty of girls in highschool at that age, constantly worried about their looks :P Thing is, if you move about a little more self assured and less self conscious, I'm sure guys would take notice..it's all an inner game and comfort thing, you know. You'd think it isn't something visible, but inner game, with guys and girls both stands out like a flashlight.
My friend takes everything so seriously! Help!?
Alright, so my friends and I were at school today, and we always joke around with each other. We make 'racial' jokes, and other ones, but none of us take it seriously, because we all know that we don't mean it, and that it's all just plain fun. That is, except for one of my friends. HE TAKES EVERYTHING SO SERIOUSLY! If I make a joke towards him, he usually gets really angry and punches me or hurts me really hard. I am a pacifist (or coward) so I wont hit back. Today, he was playing a game on his phone and called something in the game an as*hole, so I said, "just like you're family", and he said that he was tired of my sh!t and slammed my hand on the table, then slapped me. He apparently is so arrogant just because he is on the football team, and I am a 'four eyed nerd' nerd, so he thinks he can just do whatever he pleases. Tell me what to do, please! He takes it so seriously, when obviously I'm just joking, and my friends agree with me.
My family and friends tell me I look so serious and tired. How can I look happier?
You will think I'm crazy but try this. Make a list of all the persons who have ever wronged you.Forgive them.If you like, once you have done this, set fire to the list. There, that is gone.Second. Spend the next two weeks being thankful and grateful for all you have.Third, if you still feel tension or resentments, figure out what they are. Say hello. Tell them you hear them and accept them.Go back to being grateful.Lastly, every time you are judgmental, about anything or anyone, write it down. Do this for a week.Try to give up being judgmental. Instead of judging, be curious, or simply watch and observe. If a judgement pops up, listen to it, look at it, let it go.For myself, I've found that being grateful and curious and not being as judgmental has made a profound difference in my life. I can feel it when I walk down the street. Other people remark that I look different. Certainly I feel different.
My "friends" don't take me seriously. They don't involve me in important decisions or consider my opinions. I have wasted a lot of time proving myself to them and am tired. Should I just cut my losses and let them go?
Is there an unnamed leader of this group? the one who everyone follows? Well that's the person who might be blocking you out.Just an assumption, because groups usually will turn in silent unison to one person for answers and silent approval. Anyway. Here's what you need to do. Don't leave yet. Or you'll be stuck with this all your life. Every new scenario will see you bowing out. You need to speak up.Without whining. Without trying to prove your self (why do you do that anyways?) . Without explaining. Straight out. Boom.After saying how you feel..turn around and walk. Away.And, in future, make sure you choose friends not a group. :)
Im so sick and tired of fake friends :(?
Get rid of them. I just got rid of my friends that I've known for years cuz we just weren't good together. I'm chillin. Trust me, it's not that serious. Make new friends and throw out the old ones.
How can I act serious all the time?
I used to be the same exact way. Do not worry about it but i must tell you make sure you turn into a mature serious person before something serious happens and you do not know ow to handle it. In a way i mean for me i was nice to a guy an i thought he was my friend, but he ended up being my boyfriend who always cheated on me, and later got me pregnant. I am now a single mother, and because of this i take things alot more seriously. To your friends who talk **** about you, just do not talk to them anymore, or you can tell them off nicely like: "I know you guys talk crap about me and i was Just wondering what kind of friend does that"? If they come back with some insult just look at them and walk away.That is taking care of them nicely. Just do not talk to people like that and do not worry there are people out there who are just as nice as you are and which you could become friends with that will not talk bad about you, because that is just not a friend at all. Acting mature and being mature are different. I would still be your nice self, just be serious at times. Make yourself think that if you do not be serious , something bad will happen. No to scare you but that is how i go from being my goofy, funny self to acting mature in a hurry.Hope this helps.
Is it normal to get tired of your current friends?
I don't know if it is normal but I do know it is possible.Most relationships have a basis, a reason why they exist. Both of you like something, do something together, similar ideologies etc. If the basis is affected in any way, the relationship suffers. Also this is no news that people do change with time. There are costs associated with maintaining the relationship after the change. If you are not ready to pay for the costs after the change you are welcome to change. I think the main reasons for friends to drift apart can be:Change of Preference: You liked doing things but don't do them anymore.You smoked together before, due to family you stopped now. All smoking friends will have to go if that was the only basis you hung out together.Change of Priority: You liked doing things but like them less now, replaced by other important things. You liked see movies before, now work is a priority.Substitution: You liked doing things, still like them but do them with other people. eg. You met older friends to have intellectual discussions on business or worldly affairs, you find new more intelligent friends. This is probably the your case and I think it is commonplace. It is the first thing that happens when you go to a good university where you make good friends and tend to lose touch with older friends, but getting tired is a little harsh.All three might happen to them as well, as in they can change their orientation and eventually both lose touch. Unfortunately there is no nice way of saying this.
What do I say when a friend's parent has a serious illness?
One of my best friends told me a couple years ago that he had just found out his mother had stage 4 colon cancer. I was speechless, not knowing exactly what to say other than, oh my God, I'm so sorry. I honestly dont remember the exact words I said (we had a long conversation), I remember just feeling helpless that he was going through this thing that was painful, and I felt guilty that my parents were healthy.Three months later I got a phone call from home. My dad had collapsed and my mom had taken him to the ER, where they found that his entire body was riddled with tumors: stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Now all of a sudden my dad was dying. I talked to my friend and told him the news. He told me that his mom had started treatment and was responding well. My dad was sent home with hospice.A few weeks later my dad died. It's now been a year and a half and my friend’s mom is still alive, but her cancer has come back. My friend lives very far away from me and I get worried when I haven't heard from him in a while, knowing that if his mom were to die that would explain a long absence.What did I want people to say to me when my dad was dying? I wanted to talk about my dad when was he was sick. I felt really lonely, like no one wanted to hear about it (except for 3 close friends who had lost family to cancer). I also really wanted to laugh and talk about normal stuff, but without having to consciously avoid the topic of my dad.So what do I say to my friend now that hes still going through this? I ask him how hes doing, ask how his mom is doing. I ask him what's new in his life and share the regular, funny, boring, interesting stuff we've always talked about. Basically we just talk about what's on our minds, the same way we always have. Our topics of conversation have just grown with our life experiences.
Feeling really sick at my friends house at 4am? please please please help?
Hey guys, so currently I'm sitting in the bathroom at 4am at my friends house. Because I feel sick to my stomach and I'm shaking and if I lie down I feel even worse. And calling home is not an option.
I'm so sick and tired of my friends... I think it's time I move on?
I'm really annoyed with my current group of friends. They're good people but me and them just don't mesh. They treat me like I'm an idiot which clearly I'm not if I take all Honors and AP, every little chance they get they'll bring up that one dumb thing I said a long time ago, they always find faults in what I do or say; they just don't treat me like an actual friend. Another thing that's been bothering me is that a couple of years ago I spent a long time figuring out who I am. Right now I'm going to be a Junior in High School and I know who I am, I'm confident in who I've become in the sense that I know my strengths, weaknesses, what I like and what I don't, what I need to improve on, and how I can make myself a better person. I think to think of myself as a good friend... I'm always there to talk to them, I make time out of my schedule to help them through anything, I've set up surprise birthday parties for a few of them; I've gone out of my way so many times because I think that's what a TRUE friend should do. I sort of do expect the same actions back because I enjoyed spending my time trying to make them happy. These "friends" of mine have no idea who they are and some try to mimic me like my clothes, the things I say, the way I laugh, the way I express my feelings, and most of all-- my attitude. I don't know if it's because they're insecure about themselves or what but I need to get out of this friend group. THANKFULLY I have no classes with any of them my entire Junior year, but one of the girls in the group just texted me saying, "ugh I don't know why I signed up for Sports Ed. I think I'm gonna do yoga just because. You signed up for yoga E period, right?" .............. OMG SERIOUSLY. I'm sorry if I sound like I'm exaggerating but I seriously want to get away from these people and especially that one girl!!! How can I respond to her in a nice way to explain to her that I don't want her to be in my class? Should I say, "Hey, I know you want to be in my yoga class but I'm taking it in the middle of the year and I'm going to be really stressed with school. I'm only going to want to focus on the class and having friends in that class is going to distract me so could you please not switch into my specific class?" Also, how do I get away from this group of people? As of right now I wouldn't mind being alone as opposed to sticking around with them just for the sake of looking like I have friends. I'm pretty much done with them.