Feel like I'm wasting my life?
This was the real world experience you were looking for, and now you have it. Fortunately you are young enough and blessed to be able to go back to school next year. You don't have any kids or responsiblities other than yourself that will make it harder for you to get back in school. Though you didn't get the experience you wanted, you have been able to see the value of education. Jobs aren't available right now and they are even harder to get when you don't hold a degree. Use the rest of your time to be as productive as possible. Go to the library and read books. Volunteer at an animal shelter, a food bank, a church, etc...people are always in need of help. Still continue to look for a job, but get even more creative--babysit, dogwalk, keep applying and don't give up hope. Luckily, this is not the end of your life, but only the beginning. You've lived this year this way for a reason..think of this as an eye-opener. This should be motivation for you to focus and do well in school next year so that you'll never feel this way or be in this position ever again. Stay productive--make sure that you keep your mind active even though you may not have physical work to do. Good luck! I really do wish you the best :)
My mom is wasting her life away on the computer...?
hiya Mckayla :) I've been through this before only in another way; my mom was addicted to the computer while my sister and I were growing up. it was really hard because she would go on there and talk to people all day and night about us and herself, and meanwhile I was making dinner, doing our homework, taking care of pets, etc ... it was very painful because it was like she was never available for us. one day, I even found an email she had sent to her friend about how she thought I was a total b*tch and man did that hurt... what helped us was to re-work our family dynamic. I became the mother figure for my sister and my dad was still married to my mom and living with us but he would avoid the situation almost entirely. it was only last year (decades later) that she finally apologized for all of the pain that she had caused us. there is a very real mental illness called IDD (internet dependency disorder), and it is worse in our time than ever before. it's a lot like alcoholism actually. perhaps conduct your own research on IDD and see if there are more ideas that you feel that you would like to try. as far as my advice to you, what I would do is if/when you know that she is coming by, unplug your router and hide it somewhere where she will not find it. then when she comes and confronts you about it, tell her that "this is not the time nor the place where you are to be playing on the internet for hours at a time. this is the time and place where you will be an active, participating member of our family.". an intervention during this event involving the family and your children might also be a good idea. if she sees and realizes just how much she's hurting you, perhaps that will wake her up to what she is doing and she will change her ways. just like other types of addicts, this may get worse before it gets better, but at least if you do this, you are no longer enabling her and you can set healthy boundaries and prevent your children from thinking that her behavior is ok. I wish you the best of luck, as I know that this is a very painful situation. hope this helps :) - Tanya
Im wasting away on my couch?
It sounds to me like you are really depressed and need something to get excited about again. I know this is unusual but you should try metal detecting. It takes some $$ to get started (about $200) but it is well worth it. It will get you outside moving around and you can actually make money. I'm not saying you'll get rich but my metal detectors have paid for themselves over & over. If you want to, take a look at my website, www.dirtscanner.com for some good info on metal detecting. Look at some of the things I have found, gold rings, silver rings, silver coins, and much more. It is exciting to dig something up from the ground or on a beach realizing it could be anything. You can start right in your own back yard or a local park (check the rules), it can be lots of fun. Good luck to you and I hope you can get out of the boredom soon.
Why do I feel like I am wasting away, sitting at a desk for majority of my time, day in and day out? This surely cannot be the meaning of life.
From the question I think you may refer to a job that you don’t like or a course that is not meaningful for you..Try learning new languages both software / generalTry learning latest trends in your industryPractice new hobby or outing in your area of interestSwitch career after doing thorough ground work and provided you get the financeTry moving to a new location if it is a very tough scenario in the present office branchRead motivational books/listen to podcasts/videos that motivate and make you think through well to make a right moveConcentrate on the present and try to live each day instead of getting stuck in past or anxious about futureDrink more water and take enough nourishing foodLook for opportunities to network in your circle and there are many people who may be willing to help to advance/change careerTry some quiz/puzzles/short assignments to make the mind active and brisk
When I work on the side hustle sometimes I feel like I’m wasting my entire life away. How can I convince myself that what I am doing can help me in the future?
Ah, the “side hustle.” I don’t know about you, but my Facebook wall is overwhelmed by adspam from these gurus who promise to teach me the secret to wealth. It’s all about “streams of passive income” and “side hustles.” If I’m a “rockstar,” I can “live the dream,” right? Just look at this gorgeous couple on Instagram who made millions drop-shipping products they didn’t even have to buy. Or maybe they’re travel bloggers, or “consultants,” or MLM salespeople.It’s mostly hype.Here’s my two-cents: if someone is spending money on ads to sell you a business model that they claim you can get into with no relevant expertise, then YOU are the revenue stream.You may ask why they’re spending so much time and money teaching you the business, if they could make more money just mining this business opportunity themselves. Usually it’s because the opportunity is played out, and a few enterprising individuals are trying to extend their own revenue stream by selling “secrets” they are no longer able to monetize.Don’t get emotionally drawn in to these video ads selling dreams. Sure, there are people who make tons of money through side hustles, but most of them have deep knowledge of an industry they can exploit, they worked at it for a long time, or they got lucky. Either way, you’re less likely to jump right into millions of dollars by spending a few thousand on some startup kit.I suggest exploring an industry you are already very familiar with, or at least extremely interested in, and ideally find a personal mentor to show you the ropes. Schedule a set amount of time you can afford to set aside for that venture and have a clear deadline in mind (ex: I will spend five hours a week in this venture, and within three months I will have ten paying clients or I will seriously consider hanging this up and moving on.)Good luck!
I feel that I'm wasting my life. I’m a student in my early 20’s with few friends. How can I change this situation?
A backpacker walks into a Buddhist temple on a chilly morning. He approaches the monk and says:“Do you ever feel like you wasted your life?—Never. Why?“I feel like I’m wasting mine. Please tell me how to stop wasting my life.”—Look down at your shoes.“What about them?”—See how dirty they are? You’re not worthy.“How do I become worthy?”—Come back to me in a clean pair of shoes then I’ll tell you how to stop wasting your life.“I don’t see how that relates.”—Just trust me. See ya tomorrow.The backpacker goes home, grabs a different pair of shoes, scrubs it spotless, and sets them aside for the following morning.On his way to the temple, he steps in a pile of mud, ruining the shoes. He continues onto the temple.—Show me your shoes.“They’re still dirty.”—Not good enough. Arrive in a clean pair of shoes then I’ll tell you how to stop wasting your life.So the guy goes back home and stays up all night researching the best way to keep shoes clean in a messy environment. He puts stain guard on them, wraps them in plastic bags and goes up the mountain but he STILL gets them dirty en route to the temple.The monk turns him away again.“But you dont understand I-I”—The rules were clear. Try again tomorrow.Determined to outsmart the monk, he buys a brand new pair of shoes, puts them in his backpack and changes into them right before entering the temple the following morning.—Show me your shoes.He proudly steps forward.—You think I’m stupid? There aren’t any creases in those shoes. You cheated. Try again tomor-The backpacker SNAPS.“This isn’t possible. The trail is strictly mud and dirt. There’s no way I can arrive in a clean pair of shoes no matter how hard I try.”The monk smiles.—You figured it out.“Figured what out?”—You feel like you’re wasting your life because you’re trying to reach the impossible. A true meaning. There is no pristine or pure path. Things get messy so you’ll just have to live with it. There’s some targets in life you can’t hit, and you must learn to accept that. Instead of trying to avoid wasting your life, think about how to dirty your shoes in a manner you can enjoy. That is how you stop wasting your life.The backpacker thinks for a second and quietly exits. Right before shutting the door, he yells back.“You owe me three pairs of shoes.”The monk facepalms.
Life feels like a waste of time to me?
It is no more your fault that your friend died than it is others fault you have made such horrible choices not the least of which is choosing to let your past rule you and turn to drugs to stay numb. Easy for me to say? Not even close, I was beaten and psychologically tortured for a major portion of my young life. I made your choices until I realized how bad off and just bad I was. I kicked Meth. my past and all the things I lost in the process like my wife, kids, home and I got not only better but in a pretty great place. The point of living is to do the best you can not to give in because it's been tough. I speak from experience. Choose!