Have you ever helped an elderly person cross the road?
Only after she about caused me and, dare I say it, a few other drivers to soil our pants. It was a pretty busy six lane road - three lanes heading in either direction. I was heading west. Traffic heading east was moving well but in my direction, there appeared to be just a whole lot of people jockeying from one lane to the other. The traffic had slowed and I was hearing a lot of horns. My father was with me. And then the cause of the problem came into view. An elderly woman with her walker trying to cross the street. She had gotten one lane into the road and was, literally just standing in the center lane. Cars were whizzing past her, She looked terrified. I pulled up and did not change lanes. She was looking at me as if she thought I was going to run her over. I threw the car in park, put on my emergency flashers, got out and went to her side. “Lady, we’re going to get you out of this street.” She indicated that she needed to go to the far side. “Right now, let’s just get you out of traffic.” I escorted her to the side of the road walking in such a way that the cars would see her and me and know that if you hit one of us, you hit us both. I got her to the side of the road and pointed to a cross walk that she had not seen that was just a little way further down the street. And then, someone who had see what I did stopped their car and allowed me to get back to mine. I moved as quickly as I dared in the summer heat and was soaked by the time I got back to the car. Dad, who was elderly himself, looked at me and said, “Are you crazy? I just told him that I would want someone to do the same for him. He treated me to a soda after that.
How can you tell if an older woman likes you?
Well, she may like you. But 40-somethin yr old women dont want anything serious with a 19 yr old guy, fresh outta high school, no carreer or steady job, or real experience wit real women. She may like u for an adventure. She may be attracted to ur innocence also, (19 is very innocent compared to 40). And, older plp especially women, are really good listeners and give great advice, dont mistake her friendliness for something more. Besides, there are so many young beautiful girls ur age wit ur same interests, and ur same stage in life, why wud u want to b wit a woman who has already experienced it, and is probably tired of the fast life? and the parties, AND staying up all nite, and having wild sex, and being free wit no ties of children or ex-husbands...???...i dont wanna burst ur love bubble, but u are wayyyy tooo young for a 40some yr old woman,...shes probably old and really mature and not up for all the spontaneous things we young plp like to do. think about it before making ur move on her. Good luck
If at the store and you see an elderly man attempting to bend over to get something and you decide to help only to have him say "Did I tell you I needed help?"; What would you do or say?
If at the store and you see an elderly man attempting to bend over to get something and you decide to help only to have him say "Did I tell you I needed help?"; What would you do or say?There was a woman who’d frequent our Barnes and Noble, years ago.She’d pause, blocking a door, and sit there, waiting. When someone would step up and offer to help, she’d viciously lash into them, on how she didn’t need help and would proceed through the door.What we often forget is just because a person gets older or is disabled, doesn’t mean that person isn’t an asshole.Forget the movie version of someone bitterly lashing out. I’ve seen veterans struggling and they revert who who they were, either assholes to begin with or gracious, thankful good people.It’s an elderly or disabled person’s call to be an asshole, so you don’t need to be courteous and take it. Your intention was to help someone who you assumed was a decent human being and you found an asshole.Treat the person as such.“Did I tell you I needed help?”“Yes, your fucked up way of blocking the rest of us was a good indication.”
Why do you help the old lady across the street?
I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, but here are some suggestions that might lead to some inspiration: - It makes you feel good about helping others and therefore you basically help yourself - Everyone else does it, go with the flow, nothing wrong about it. - Because if I declined to offer my help I'd be removing my mask that I use in public to hide my true self, and thereby making my life a lot harder because everyone would be against me. There may be other reasons, I'd just like to hear some honest answers.
How to deal with an extremely difficult elderly neighbor whose health is failing, please?
This is terribly sad, and could happen to any of us. Cleo could be any of our mothers, or any of us! Yes, reach out to her family members and explain that you are very concerned. Be very firm, direct, and graphic in your account. For instance, when you say "physical needs that we are no longer able to address," do you mean that Cleo can no longer bathe herself or get to the bathroom? If so, tell her family member in no uncertain terms: "Cleo isn't bathing and she smells bad now." Or "Cleo is having trouble getting to the bathroom. If urine or feces stay on her skin, she will develop terrible skin ulcers that are horribly painful and can lead to very serious infection." "I am afraid Cleo will fall and no one will find her, and she will die alone in her house." I know you can't be fully responsible for her care, but you could form a "Help Cleo" team in your neighborhood, and take turns calling her, bringing in her mail and newspaper, checking to see if she needs anything at the grocery, bringing her an occasional meal of her favorite hot dogs. Acknowledge that she is probably TERRIFIED, fully aware that she can no longer care for herself, but frightened to death of going into a nursing home. She may also have some dementia, and think, for example, that your family having the keys was somehow a threat to her. Instead of trying to get her to "listen" to you, you can say brief, comforting things like, "I'll help you, Cleo." "Cleo, you're not alone. We care about you." Avoid telling her what to do or not to do -- no one really likes that! Bless you for being a caring, concerned person. You will never regret it.
Need help with asking my mom about getting a vibrator?
I feel really annoyed because me and my mom are really close and I can ask her literally anything and she won't have any rude or embarrising reaction but it is really embarrising for me to ask her to get me a vibrator. I'm 13 years old and if she says no it'll just be awkward for a long time. I just need to know how to approach her about it. Any suggestions??? Please respond soon. Please no mean comments.
Have you ever helped strangers in your life? If yes explain how you feel and how was your experience.
well once i was going to my friend's place and on my way found a a lady of 50 standing asking for lift. It was very hot that day. She was sweating badly. i went up to her and asked if she needed a lift, the smile that cracked on that lady's face was such a delight to see is unexplainable. i had never done such a thing before. It made me feel i actually did something nice for a person in need. She had to go somewhere near my friend's place. So i dropped her there.The feeling of satisfaction consumed me for that day. It made me feel proud as a human being. I dont even remember her face properly now, but i do remember how she had thanked me and blessed me.
Should I offer to push someone in a wheelchair if I see them on the street?
When you see a chair with push handles, it doesn’t mean that they want to be pushed all the time. I don't like to draw conclusions. However it could mean that this person COULD need a bit more help, however you should still ask if they do want your help. You shouldn’t assume anything about a person in either chair, however I wanted to show that there is a difference. When first disabled, a lot of us have clumsy chairs that don't really fit us the way we really need them to. That happened to me early in my disability. As time went on I bought my own chair .This is one of my chairs and notice that there are NO push handles on the back. It’s a lighter chair but I have a chair like this so that people won’t be tempted to lean on it nor will they want to push me. This happens more often than people think. I’ve actually been pushed the WRONG WAY down a hill when I was trying to go up a hill. I was so pissed that I had to start ALL over again, just because someone didn’t ask me.When you see a chair like this, it REALLY tells you that this person probably does not want/need to be pushed. I purposely take the handles off my chair so people don't get the wrong idea. People in chairs like this tend to be very independent and VETERAN wheelchair users. They probably don't want to be pushed.Imagine standing on the corner and a big burly guy walks over and physically carries you across the street for no reason. You have not said a word and yet you are moved. That's the same thing. If they don't ask then don't ever do this. You can offer your help but never move someone. It's jarring and rude. Thanks!