My best friend is always the center of attention. How do I deal with that?
I don't hate her but I feel like a third wheel. When we are by ourselves they talk to her. I'm an afterthought. They like her more. My friend tries to direct their attention to me, but I feel worse. I'm distancing myself, almost to the point where I don't want to see my friends at all. I'm a high school senior and this is not how I wanted to spend my last year =( I know she's prettier, taller & a better person, but our friends used to talk to us equally last year.
How to deal with attention-seeking best friend?
Nobody is perfect, right? But one thing I can't stand is attention-seekers...and coincidently, my best friend in the whole world is a major attention seeker. Sometimes I can't stand her! She's always really loud, she sings loudly in class so everyone will look at her, she tries really hard to pretend like she does things out of the ordinary so everyone can praise her. She usually leaves me behind when she's too busy trying to be in the spotlight. When I'm around her I'm hardly ever noticed and I just keep thinking how fake she is being just to grab attention. Sometimes she tells people she hates them just so they can try their best to please her, leading to a lot of attention. Just yesterday we passed by some ghetto chicks who wanted to beat me up for no reason, but since I eventually left with my dad, they were left with an empy feeling and beat up my best friend. I was worried sick, I cried so much, but when I called her the next day she told me "I wish I had gotten beaten up during the week so that I could go to school the next day and everyone would treat me super well. Now everybody is calling me and hugging me and all that stuff." she even said that just because one of the other girls was crying a lot when she saw my best friend get beat up that she was "stealing her spotlight." I thought it was sick. It's getting so annoying, because she does everything to get the attention of our group of friends and sometimes I feel really annoyed or left out. I know that if I tell her what I think she'll just deny everything and tell me I criticize her too much.
Why does my best friend get all the attention from guys? why not me?
I'm now 25 but I had a friend like this when I was your age, in fact we are still best friends. I was jealous at the time and thought it was because I was unattractive or something. Well, as I matured I spoke with male friends, boyfriends, etc it they told me that she got more attention because she acted easy, acted dumb, flirty, so on and so on but that I was just as 'hot'. It was explained to me that I was more girlfriend, relationship type and they respected me more. Now I know that this sounds like something your mom might tell you but its the truth. As of today I am happily married while she has a child and no hubby etc, I still love her as my best friend but I would not trade the attention I receive from the man who loves me for all the flirty cute men at the mall. Hope it helps!
How do I seek my male best friend's attention?
Wear a mini skirt and start picking pennies from the ground…. ha ha ha …. Look this is what you do to get your males friend’s attention: you get as close as you can to him preferably on his personal space… you then flirt with him… smile at him… get him to do favors for you and then make it up to him with a favor for helping you… maybe with a massage, buying him an ice cream, a coffee, as long as you keep flirting, smiling, and getting on his personal space you’ll get his attention.
My Best friend pays more attention to her boyfriend and to another friend than me?
My best friend is kind of a b!TC# and she always get a boyfriend but now she has a womanizer*** as a boyfriend and she always pays more attention to him than me, thats why i dont like to hang out with her in recess cuz she always calls him and it makes me feel invisible, sometimes i talk to her and she always looking for him or she never hears and then when im tired of that situation i hang out with my other friends at least they dont have boyfriends, i think i should have a boyfriend the thing is that noone likes me,....well just one boy and hess soooo ugly and he treats me bad THAT LOOSER but i cant find someone!!!PLEASE HELP ME WITH MY ''BEST FRIEND''SO SHE COULD STOP DOING THAT!!!!!!
I feel like i'm competing with my best friend for the attention of my best guy friend?
hahah sounds like a funny situation. I find myself doing that too with my best guy mate and one of my best mates. She is his ex gf and they get along more. But he doesn't spend as much time with me and more with her. I know that we can all get competitive when we love someone as a real close friend and stuff. Maybe try and share him between you two? After all she is his cousin, so of course they're closer than u two. But then again, the feeling won't be the same. And if you know, maybe one day, organise something that all three of you can do together and make him sit in the middle. Don't need to worry too much, because after all, she could be jealous when he talks to you
My ''best friend'' called me an attention seeker and ''sad'' just because..?
I said i felt suicidal because of this guy I thought i loved but turns out he was using me, cheated on me, lead me on. I trusted him and this has happened so many times, all my relationships have been depressing, I starve myself a lot when relationships go down hill. (not on purpose i just lose my appetite) My grades are dropping, I suck at maths i keep getting E's,I do revise! i'm not going to get any job, i want to do creative media but the college said i need to get 2 gcses that are C and above..no way am i gonna get a C in maths! im good at english but my spelling is so bad! i have a tutor but whatever I learn doesn't stick in my head for very long. When i go to town people i dont even know shout things at me, racist things (I'm black) they would start on me for no reason, i'm moving to a different town soon so i should get less racist comments, My family at home stress me out so much! I'm under so much stress I'm the only one out of my group who is single and heart broken, so I feel isolated when everyone else is talking about their ''love of their lifes'', no one understands.. Every time I tell my friend problems she has a go at me and says i'm being pathetic but my problems are serious to me. She said i need to get over it. I tried talking to her on facebook, being friendly but she ignored my message, so I have given up. I seriously want to die! i can't get any help, no one gives me good advice and they tell me stuff I DON'T want to hear! I'm not going to get anywhere in life with my grades, I'm not gonna be in a decent relationship in teen years because guys just get bored of me and don't talk to me ever again..I can't even tell my friends problems because they don't seem to understand. Should I just not talk to my best friend anymore cos shes ignoring me, basically saying i'm making a fuss out of nothing...
Me best friend always has to be the center of attention.... ARRGGGH!!?
Whenever my best friend and I meet a cute guy, he will come up to me and be flirting with me but then she'll start talking really loud and flirting non stop with him.. I feel like I can't even get one word in.. so then he'll hang out with her, and then she'll sleep with him. And she won't stop talking about how much this guy adores her and is so in love with her. It just makes me soooo mad on the inside but I never say anything because I honestly do not think that will make her stop because.. she is who she is. How am I suppose to meet a guy with her around!? Its the same when we are with a group of people, I always look like the quiet one because she won't stop talking and cutting me off. Also I've been noticing a lot lately that she will use all my jokes and funny stories I tell her about me and she will tell them to everybody saying that it happened to her and that she made up these jokes. And then every one thinks she is so funny and original......its just so weird because I don't want to be the party spoiler who goes...ummm.. actually thats my joke! lol I just don't know what else to do or who to talk to about this because she is my best friend and I love her so much and we have so much fun whenever we hang out and we have the same group of friends who I love to hang out with so its hard not to hang out with her all the time.
I get envious when my best friend grabs all the attention of my relatives, they interact with her more than me. Is it wrong to feel this way?
It's a natural feeling to get envious when your in such a situation. You have to keep your cool and, honestly, be happy that they are interested in your best friend.Understand that, they're eating up your best friend because it's your best friend.They get to meet the person who has been stealing all the quality time they could have.Don't be envious, you need to embrace this. Look at it this way, would you rather them hate and turn the other cheek when you bring your best friend around? Of course not. Things to consider...Your family loves you and that will always be the case.They don't and won't always love the company you carry.You can see your best friend as family now. There's a stronger bond.It's okay to feel like "what the fuck?!". Just understand that, they respect and love the person that has been giving such a high rank in your eyes.This is a good thing. Be happy and don't worry about this.
My best friend steals attention when we're with guys?
There's nothing we can do because we can't talk to your friend. The issue is your friend and not you. YOU need to tell her how YOU feel. It doesn't have to be anything mean... I had similar feelings at one point, on a different problem with one of my good friends. I didn't know what to do, but I told her exactly how I felt. If you want her to understand what's going on, you need to communicate your feelings. Just like how you're doing on here. Sincerely and not full of extreme negative emotions. Not telling her, this could eventually eat up on your relationship. It's the little things that build up that lead to loss of love and friendship.