I am 28 I don't know what to do in life, what to do?
Your background and problem is similar to mine in some respe 'so At 28 I felt as you do. It was esxasperating. I had to do something. Anything, but do something. So, unable to make a logical, sensible decision because nothing inspired any passion and it was all getting so overwhelming, with all the expectations people had of me I decided to do something perfectly crazy, random, illogical etc and live with the outcome. Just to ease the agony of uncertainty and indecision. To shut my mother up with her endless questions about when I was ever going to “settle down", I married the first guy who asked me. No prior dates before the wedding, 10 years my junior, no uni education , poor etc etc. It was a success. Then I would take the first job I was offered. Anything at all. And just work it all out somehow. Well, I landed in this highly technical work place building aircraft, sitting in front of a computer when I had no idea how to even switch it on and everything was coded etc, for military security etc reasons. Not exactly what I was trained for. The manager came up to me and told me he was so glad he had managed to get me because, being a linguist I could figure out how the system worked because everybody else had a nervous breakdown trying, vbecause it is a very responsible job, blah, blah, blah… I felt like running away because he seemed so confident about my abilities. But I knew I didn't have a clue. But I was in there and somehow, I had to figure it all out and make the system work for him and solve his problems. I finally did get it all figured out, up and running, though it tested my communication skills to the extreme limits and nearly drove me insane, too. I felt so proud I could go where others dare not and do what others dared not.. I ran into some former arts uni colleagues who nearly died of shock when they heard what sort of work I was doing…. “But, but, you studied languages… And you were one of the top Honours grads…. How come you end up making aeroplanes, working with technical mumbo jumbo stuff, machines and stuff… That's for engineers and the likes…” they commented. I shrugged my shoulders and said “Arts grads can't pick and coose. Or maybe they can, if they are flexible and adaptable enough. I couldn't decide so I took the first job that came along and I got to explore a completely new world and I learned so much from this experience, though it was so hard… “
I'm 24 and don't know what to do with my life. What's wrong with me?
I know that older posters will probably laugh or scoff at this, but since my 24th birthday last month, I've been suffering an age crisis. It seems that most of my cohorts already have great careers. Girls from my graduating class found positionss in places like the Supreme Court, right out of college! In every magazine or newspaper, I keep reading about twenty something celebrities, fashion designers, and academics. Most of these people also have nice houses, loving marriages, and kids. I don't have any of these things. At 22, I went to grad school to become an English professor, but I discovered that I hate teaching. Now I'm gritting my teeth to finish my master's, and living in a crappy apartment. I have no idea what career path to pursue when I get out. For every job I think I'd like, I don't have enough experience. I feel so old to have accomplished so little. Since I was an above average student in elementary and high school, teachers and family members praised me for my intelligence. This might have given me an overinflated sense of self-esteem. I thought I'd write an NY Times bestseller by my late 20's, own a beautiful house, and be married to a wonderful husband (preferably a professor), but I'm nowhere close to realizing any of these goals. I am almost ready to give up all hope of ever achieving anything special. Is something wrong with me because I haven't found my dream job or my soul mate at the ripe old age of 24?
Depressed and don't know what to do with my life?
I'm 20 years old and male. I have two major problems in my life right now. First of all, I've had social anxiety since I was a child. And secondly, I can't figure out what I want to do with my life in terms of a career, which is pretty distressing since I don't have much time left to decide. I've been to community college and tried a lot of things, but I found nothing that I particularly wanted to do. I decided to transfer to a university to start in a couple of weeks, and I'm taking out a lot in student loans to do so. If I want to graduate in 2 years, I absolutely can't change my major after I start. I decided to major in Genetics on a whim--I've gotten A's in Biology in the past, but I don't know if this is really what I want to do. The thing is that I need to major in something that will get me a job so that I can repay the loans that I'm taking out...and everything I'm really interested in happens to be one of those worthless majors like Psychology or History. I've taken all the career tests and none of it seems to tell me anything I don't already know. My friends tell me I should become a writer and my family says I should become a teacher. I really don't know what to do, and my anxiety makes it hard for me to get a job. I just feel like I'll wind up in endless debt if I don't major in something very worthwhile. Thanks in advance for any advice.
I don't know what I am doing with my life. I have no aim in my life. What should I do? I am nothing.
I think right now you are looking for your passion and aim of your life , and not getting hold of it. So you are getting frustrated and saying it yourself that you are nothing. Let me break some ice for you , First of all "It is okay not to have passion or aim in life".Quite surprising. Let me explain , Passion of life you can only get if you start doing something . Think like you have to find a tasty food for yourself , What you do? You first start eating some food , if it looks good you find the right food for yourself. if it is not then you taste more food and do it until you find a perfect tasty food for yourself. (food is just a metaphor , replace it with passion now).so if you are stuck and trying to find passion and aim for your life, You have to start somewhere first. You cannot view the traffic on the road while sitting on your chair. Start something with what you have and go on with until you are dead. Right now you are missing only one thing "Actions". And I am pretty much sure you will find passion , aim and other stuff very soon. So here is quick action Evaluate current condition (current reality) and write on paperWhat you need to make it better , start doing stuff rather than whining. What you want to be and draw a picture of it. Our mind works best with the pictures. View it daily and write a log of daily Repeat this for 60 days.Start saying no to things which can get you away with your goal.Ask for help from others no shame in that.Be native now. Make and raise your own standards.You have few more years to live , it is upto you how you want to be live like.One more thing : Nobody born with aim or passion in their life. They first start doing things and then found their passion.And as Steve jobs had said "Never settle down and keep looking (working)."Or "Winners will win and losers will lose"Live long and prosper.
I don't know what to do anymore?
Today I finally said out loud that I don't care I die, and for the most part it's true. Part of me wants something bad to happen, part of me wants to be checked in a hospital... I used to cut my wrists. My two friends found out and made me promise I won't do it again. It's been a month and a half and every day gets harder and harder. The urge keeps growing and I'm about to break. I don't know what to do. I'm completely antisocial. On Saturday at a party I would sit alone in the corner and when people were near me, I could feel tears in my eyes and I got angry almost. This anti-social thing with me just keeps getting worse and it's taking over my life. I hate eating. I hate myself when I eat and I hate myself when I don't eat. I don't eat much and I don't want to eat at all. I mean I'm not over weight. Im 115 pound and I'm like 5 feet 4 inches. I just want to feel pretty. I want to be ableto control something in my life. It's making me thinner too. I saw my grandmother on Saturday and before that the last time I saw her was Easter. She said I looked prettier and thinner... So it is working. My mom keeps telling me she is going to bring me to a hospital. I do have a lot of things wrong with me. Besides all that I have depression and I can't control my emotions at all. I mean my emotions are all over the place and it's big mood swings. I can go from laughing to cry in like 10seconds and I feel crazy. I have had one therapy appointment and I have another on Friday. I just felt worse after that first one and I don't want to go back. I just don't know what to do. I have so much more to say than what I wrote I just thought I'd stick to the basics. So please....I really need advice. Help me please.