I feel like my family doesn't really care about me?
I'm 15 and I have a younger brother. My parents seem totally indifferent whenever he makes fun of me, which is all the time, even though I never insult him back because I'm a gentle person and I don't like making people feel bad. It's gotten to the point where he just mocks me right in front of our parents and they do nothing even when I beg them to say something to him. Yesterday at dinner (we're on a short vacation and I can't get away), I was eating a salad and he told me to stop eating because I was too fat already. (I'm not - I'm 5'11" and 150 pounds.) I was so upset by the callous way he said this that I started crying - like, I needed to ask the waitress for extra napkins - and asked if I could leave because I wasn't going to eat anything else and would wait in the car. My mom just said, "Not until we all finish our meals," and then she and my dad started calmly talking about golf and eating their dinner while I kept crying. They completely ignored me and never asked if I was all right, and later acted like nothing had happened. I used to think that they were doing all they could to keep my feelings from getting hurt - I am made fun of at school because I'm quite introverted and a bookworm - but in the past few years it's starting to seem like they just don't care and think I'm too sensitive. Is there anything I can do besides talk to them? How can I deal with this?
My dad doesn't respect me?
Okay, first of all, the way your dad is dealing with this situation is definitely going overboard, but perhaps this is because in some twisted sort of way he does care for you. You should ask your parents to go to a counselor with you to try and solve this issue and maybe so they can understand WHY you are cutting yourself. A counselor can help set boundaries for you father on privacy and other issues, and maybe if he understands the situation more, he will act in a more controlled calm manner. But, second of all, CUTTING IS NOT THE ANSWER. I cannot believe you actually said that you want to die. From what I can (and yes I maybe being harsh, but I know what I am talking about) you have no reason to. Trust me, I have went through 10 years of abuse at the hands of my family and I have NEVER EVER tried to mutilate my body. There are so many kids out there experiencing pain that you have never even come close to, and you want to be a coward and kill yourself? Oh no, they went through your personal stuff. WELL SUCK IT UP. Some parents lock their children in basements for godssakes and others don't even give them the freedom to have a facebook or even a computer! You are so lucky to have food and shelter and parents that care about you, but you are not looking beyond that. You will have to move on and deal with this, because this is LIFE. You will learn from this experience and become a stronger person.
Does anyone fail in the pre-boards and score good in the boards?
I clearly remember, I got 24 marks on my Physics preboard.24 marks out of 25 in a preboard would be any student’s goal.24 marks out of 50, umm, would be poor, given that a student has 2 months left for the boards.But I got 24 marks out of 70.Did I let it make my morale down? No.Did it make me nervous, worried and question my preparation to myself? No.Did it motivate me and make me put in more effort for the final exam?Hell yes !See, preboards are of no use, but to test your level of prep until then. Give no attention to the marks you receive in this, good or bad.If you score good marks in this, it doesn’t mean this will happen with you in the Boards too. Same being the case if you score poor marks in this.I gave my all after the preboards, especially in Physics, which was my weak link then. I repeatedly practiced the derivations, read NCERT again & again, did numericals one after the other… Get my point? Repetition is the key.I got 93 in Physics in the end. I was elated. I was satisfied.Make full use of the time left in your hands, 50 days, I guess?Study 7–8 hours everyday, take proper rest, and keep revising.All the best ! You’ll rock this :)
My dad mocks me because I was not accepted into any European university. He also shows no remorse for such a behavior. Is that normal?
It may be normal for your father, but you would know that better than I could possibly know. Does he mock you about other things? Has he put you down or suggested that you aren't good enough, smart enough, etc, in the past? Is he like this with other people? If the answer to these questions is yes, then it might be a normal pattern of behavior for him.If you are asking if it is normal in general for a father to treat his child like this, no, I don't think it is. Even more important than whether it is normal, however, is how it makes you feel. Do you feel “less than” as a result of his mocking? Less intelligent, less worthy, less likely to succeed, less loved, less worthy of love or success? If you do, this is the part for you to address. If you have the kind of relationship with your father where you can talk openly about your feelings and he is likely to listen and respond in a caring manner, you could tell him how you feel about what he is doing. If you don't have that kind of relationship, you might be better off talking about your feelings with someone else, maybe your mother or another trusted family member.Remember that ultimately how you feel about yourself is up to you, not him. In the long run, your success and happiness depends on yourself. That doesn't mean that his treatment shouldn't hurt, or that you shouldn't feel angry or whatever you might be feeling. Feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are.In fact, you can use your feelings about his treatment to fuel your success. My father once said that I would never amount to anything, and that my brother, who had dropped out of high school, would succeed where I would fail. Part of the reason I have a PhD is that I was determined to prove him wrong. Of course, that wasn't all it took, but it was part of it.
I studied so F***ing hard for this math test, and i failed it?
I am so down right now. I studied so hard for this math test. I even got a 100% on the quiz. I have a C (75%) in the class and was trying to raise my grade up to a C+ I studied so hard for this test, you really dont understand. I studied and studied and studied and did all the homework problems correctly, read the chapter thoroughly and even went to my dad for help, yet i still failed this test. I dont understand. I actually thought i would have gotten a B or at least a C on the test. I felt so good during and after the test. I felt like i was acing the whole thing. but now, a few days later, i get my test back and BAM. A big fat F. what is wrong with me? i want to go to college. i want to do well in life. i am trying my hardest yet the results are not showing. is this punishment of some sort? or am i just mentally retarded? i literally cried for ten minutes because grades really do matter for me? I know this is completely ridiculous to post on yahoo, but i just wanted to know if anyone out there have been in the same boat.
Why does my dad make fun of me about serious issues?
Let's face it. I have a lot of problems. Mentally and physically. I've been diagnosed with serious clinical major depression, I'm a little claustrophobic (in the sense of being in a room crowded with people, not stuck in a box), I have anxiety issues (as a result from my depression), I faint a lot from dehydration (I have a water holding issue in my body) and anemia, and I have issues with my periods (they're very irregular). I'm a little insecure about these (as would anyone, right?) but my Father loves to make fun of them. Like, seriously make fun of. For instance, I'll tell my mom the problems I have with my job (my server alley at Denny's is VERY crowded all the time) and my mom will ask me why and what's wrong and my dad will say in a sarcastic tone "cause there's too many people" like I'm just being a whiney ***** or something and I'm faking it. I'm not. And it hurts that he thinks that. But then when I start crying (I cry VERY easy. I hate it) he starts making fun of that too by either mimicking me, or complaining about it like "yah, go and cry". Why does he taunt and harrass me so much? It makes me feel awful. He used to make fun of me while I was gone at a treatment center for my depression and suicidal thoughts, which I later found out about from my brother.
Should I quit Mock Trial?
Back when I was in middle school, being a trial lawyer was my absolute dream. I joined the high school Mock Trial team. Ha ha... Got cold water slapped in my face. IT WAS THE MOST HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE! No joke. The people? Horrible and mean. The practices? Hours long on weeknights. The trials? Hell. Mock Trial was a complete hell for me. Remember that law career dream? I don't want to have anything to do with law anymore. I had someone from the team tell me that everybody hated me, and it was only because I complained about slow advancement. The teacher adviser? Hates me. 2/3 of the members? Hate me. And I hate them all too. Although I hate MT so much, I am VERY good at public speaking, debate, and pretty much would be an excellent attorney/witness. I am only considering staying on Mock Trial for my college admission chances (please don't badger me on this). Although it takes a lot of time, I can do homework during the practices so there's a pro. And it looks wonderful on college apps. So my question is, should I stay on Mock Trial (for college apps)? If the people in there destroy me next year and I quit, would that look bad on the college app? I'm currently a freshman if that helps. I know that commitment looks good. And don't think I hate debating or anything similar. I'm a board member of my Model UN club and I love everything about it (especially the people). So please, help me, what do I do?
I hate my mom and my dad.?
You should never hate anyone. It does you more harm and your parents don't realize that you hate them therefore hating them only makes you a different person than you want to be. Talk to them when your father is sober and your mother is calm and tell them the kind of life you have been living and also their life together. If you are the adult child you say you are, then quite hating your parents and try to help them. Parents are not perfect and we are giving the type of parents God has giving us an we have to make the most of it. You think you have it rough but their are a lot of children that would love to be in your shoes. Count your blessings instead of continuing to find fault and help your family instead of criticizing them. You say you never talk to them why? They deserve to have your love and to talk to them because they are your parents. You might just find that they are hungry to talk to you but just don't know how. Love is the key word. If you show love you will receive it, if you show hate you will receive hate. Think of your parents and the trouble they are in instead of woo is me and feeling sorry for yourself.
My family doesn't understand my phobia and anxieties?
Hi, well its nice to see i have someone to share my problem with... Even i have a huge fear of bugs, insects and animals. whatever that moves and isnt a human, i freak out completely and run away screaming and then i end up shaking frantically and crying. Until a couple years back we had a dog at home which my sister loved, it was with us for 8years but every time it barked or came close to me i'd go and hide in my room and start crying. I know how scary it is and i also know how it feels to be alone in this. Even my dad, mum and sister love animals and they dont hesitate at all. And the worst part is how they thought this fear of mine was a joke. And the weirdest part about this is that i love snakes. But now, i'm sorta getting better and growing out of it and trust me you will too. Just be patient with yourself and the key is to ignore what everyone else says or thinks. (By the way, I'm 18 and in high school) Just be yourself, and trust yourself and mostly BELIEVE and KNOW that these bugs and insects cant do us any harm and they are also trying to escape. Patience will get you through this. And since recently, maybe about 6-7months back, my boyfriend has been with me and he's been really gentle with me and he has helped face these fears bravely. Thanks to his understanding and patience i'm not very afraid anymore. I even have a pet cat named Ariel now. I guess what I'm trying to say is just be patient and try to give yourself some time to pull yourself together before you judge the bugs and insects for the exorcist. :D Oh and by the way. you DONT need a psychologist, you'll be fine, as i said just be patient with yourself, before you have to go somewhere or meet someone just close your eyes, count to three and tell yourself "I'M GONNA BE JUST FINE"... And then before you know it, it'll be over. And when you close your eyes just block the world out for those few seconds then when you open your eyes you'll want to meet people. Another tip is, try not to think about it as much, just get some other thing to distract you. Like what they might be wearing, or their looks, make it funny perhaps. And no matter what you do, GO IN WITH A BANG AND ALWAYS ALWAYS KEEP SMILING [it makes time fly ;)]...